Whenever youre with someones with diagnosed bpd can you ever bring it up to talk about it? Even just casually? Or would it be too sensitive for them to talk about with you?
I feel like it could make them defensive and attack you but idk as ive never done it. Like just asking them questions. But they can easily take things personally.
I wanted to fight it. Begged her to stay. Cried over it. But im not gonna let it hold me back anymore. Im accepting her decesion to leave. Im going to live my life and create new experiences.
What is it? To me there isnt one. Yeah porn is easily accesible but once i started going to stripclubs a lot porn didnt do it anymore. You can see hot naked girls right in front of you. And you can touch them not like a screen.
To me the addiction hasnt been beat if youre going.
I was romantically involved with a girl with bpd. We tried to be friends afterwards but last week we kind of got in an argument. I may have triggered her. She said that she doesnt want us to be friends but while we were talking she softened up.
She told me to leave her alone for now. I told her okay and basically said its up to you if you want us to still be friends. She said okay. That was a week ago.
Do i reach out to her? I miss her so much. I told her i dont want anything from you just friendship. I want her to be in my life but i know i cant force it.
Like I gave everything and all she did was leave. Yeah I get it theyre crazy but how could you just up and leave like I was just something for you to use in the moment? I feel disposable to her. And then she complians about being sad and lonely and all the guys that have just used her when I wanted to be by her side.
Nothing she does makes any sense.
I read through the things she sent me. She has no feelings for me everything she sent is cold and how its over between us. It hurts to read.
Its like a nightmare. Having feelings for someone caring for them and then they hate you. She ended it yet didnt understand why i would get upset when she would say hurtfull things.
I tried so hard. Nothing I said could convince her to stay. The pain is so deep.
It really does hurt. And old wounds can reopen
Dont go back. Be prepared to be treated like shit. And hear about all the guys theyre hooking up with. How so many other people mean more than you. Losing all your self respect and dignity. Its really just made me sour. YOU have to earn thier trust even though you wouldve done anything for them.
Im so sad hurt and angry. The person who took my virginity turned on me. I wish i never met them. She told me I have to wait almost 2 months to see her because shes busy all summer. And then shell start school and probably be too busy then. Its the same shit over and over. They hate you if you like them. Treat you like dirt below thier feet. They say YOU betrayed but what about thier betrayal? You are not respected or wanted. You are a annoyance at best.
My heart has been ripped apart. The scar is deep because it was just fun and games too them. They can live happily ever after in thier bpd fantasy while we suffer in silence.
This girl has severe bpd. Shes never had a long term healthy relationship. Shes always cutting people off.
Everytime we start to get close she pushes me away. Now shes saying i have to wait to see her putting distance between us. It sucks.
This addiction has burned me out. The appetite for lust cant be filled. Ive known guys to have been with hundreds of girls. I dont want to see porn anymore. I dont want to chase after hookups anymore. Satisfaction comes from something deeper. Ive spent thousands at the stripclub. I dont want to do it anymore.
These past 3 weeks im spending hundreds of dollars each time. Im becoming really depressed. All my money is gone but I keep chasing after these girls.