u/Odd-Egg-1539

I was in a volatile situationship with a man I deeply love and who expressed deep love for me as well but inability to commit. He didn’t blame me for his lack of commitment. He kept disappearing or as he called it “disassociating” any time we had plans. Then I’d lash out from feeling abandoned and strung along. He’s been through severe trauma and told me that until he’s fixed himself, he’ll always get in his own way. I protested. I said mean things. He briefly responded to my messages to argue, but now he’s simply ghosted. It’s been over a month and my dozen attempts to get a response have gone unanswered.

I made mistakes. I’m aware. My deepest desire now is for REPAIR.

Can you guys help me manifest him back—but this time for healing and commitment, not just repeating our toxic cycle?

🙏

The only real apology is to ask how your ghosting affected me—and then sit down IN PERSON, shut the fuck up about your reasons, and truly listen to the pain you caused. If you can’t do that, then you’re not truly sorry for anything.

I have ADHD. I’ve forgotten messages longer than is considerate and I’ve had to apologize. But I refuse to ghost anybody (unless they’re unsafe of course) and simply blame it on ADHD.

So, fellow ADHDers who struggle with texting/calling: please find the tools necessary to prevent ghosting your people when life gets overwhelming.

I’m saying this because I’ve been on the receiving end of a friend who ghosted me, and prior to simply vanishing permanently, they’d blame all delayed communication on having ADHD. It was excusable to a certain degree. But ghosting ≠ ADHD

It’s okay to struggle. It’s okay to mess up. But to give up completely on communication/closure is simply inexcusable if you want to be considered a decent human being.

End of rant.

When did I stop being your “Estrella”?

Make it make sense why you could never make time for someone you claimed you held in high esteem.

You think my anger is hatred. No—it’s a reaction to the way your words led me on while your actions neglected me and then your words increasingly contradicted themselves until you just stopped responding to my outpouring of pain disguised as Anger.

The opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference (neglect).