As a single M29, I just want to say: I love this place. It's so refreshing compared to much of the rest of my Reddit algorithm.
It makes me feel hopeful and mushy. I also find it very motivating. I can't wait to find love like this as I build my best life.
Lately, I've been trying to break out of a rut and be more intentional with what I want. I'm pretty good at a lot of things and don't want the fact that that includes procrastinating to obscure sight of all the rest of me!
Can anyone relate?
Me: I'm driven, daring and creative. I'm into running and writing. I'm always plotting my next move! Right now it's setting up a film studio so that I can own/co-own what I create.
I enjoy travel, banter, and people who push my buttons and challenge me. Namely people with good taste and who are positive, charismatic and results-driven. I value a good mix of qualitative and quantitative too!
You: If you are into film and TV production, finance, sports, philosophy, history and politics, music or running and looking for some amazing energy, look no further. Doesn't matter where you are, I love everyone!
Start by telling me something you're proud or ashamed of, the last thing that grabbed you or just ask me a question!!!
I keep having this dream about a blonde girl who I never actually get to see. It's mystifying, because I can feel her exact energy and describe her personality perfectly, I just can't quite put a face to it. Maybe that's a sign she's out there somewhere calling to me. Maybe I know her already. Maybe she's spotted me from afar.
I ran a half marathon yesterday. I wasn't feeling all that well, but still did a great time and it was a beautiful course. Lots of inlet sea views, the walkways wound around cliffs. It was cold and crisp. I still want to improve my time but I'm getting there.
I've been listening to a lot of new music recently. There's a lot of good stuff at the fringes of pop right now. I'm also excited to see some new movies as, after starting the year fast, I've had a quiet few months.
That said, it's been a very productive time. I'm excited for the future, especially once you're by my side. Time to live and love on our own terms.
Start the chat with an adjective someone else would use to describe you. Identify the person/who they are to you and tell me why they're right or wrong.
I am curious to learn more about how your perspective has changed over time, including whether it was gradual or sudden, what it looked or felt like when it crystallised, and how you reconciled that with ideas you had of yourself and expectations others had of you.
I'm 29M and in a good place in some ways but in other ways I'm restless and not being as directly honest with myself as I should be. I am hoping I can learn to balance self-accountability with self-compassion as that's something that can cause me to self-sabotage.
I would love to hear your testimony or story and see if we 'click' in being able to understand the way we each think. Inertia and procrastination are precursors to death. Sometimes I think I need to be more honest with myself about my fears, to avoid having them come to define me. I can be fearless in some contexts but the fearlessness can also be bruising.
Please reach out if any of this resonates with or interests you. But make sure you come with the ability to probe and also lightness. I'd like the tone to veer between insight and lightness.
Yeah, you heard me... Don't look at me like that.
I’m 28M, turning 29 soon. Yikes. At least it's not 30. Even though life gets better every year, there's something quietly saddening about birthdays themselves. But I do have a good one planned.
About me:
I have great taste in music, but I generally prefer artists that are more niche, or if they are pop, are somewhere around the fringes. Not department store variety, but if you pay for my perfume while you're at it, I'll tell you it's amazing.
Same with film: show me some foreign films, festival films, A24, Annapurna, whatever. But I do like commerical horror movies and a great family film.
Book wise, I'll read anything. Tell me a title that changed your perspective on life.
I can be sarcastic and obnoxious, but I've been told I'm mostly endearing. I'm working extremely hard at the moment to have a career that expresses me. Politics matters a lot to me but I get along with most people.
I'm interested in learning more about astrology, paganism, American public policy, rehabilitation and the neuroscience of creativity, so if you know about any of those that'd be cool. I'd also like to get to know some performers: ballet dancers, actors, jockeys, athletes, models, DJs, so anything like that would be cool.
I'm into fitness, thrifting, vinyls and degrowth. Oh and I love travel. Let's compare plans. One of my favourite foods is breakfast cereal. That probably sounds weird.
Come find out what you're missing out on! Before you.... Miss out.
I've been struggling to contain myself recently. Sometimes it's been slow simmering discontent or moments of self-directed shame and mistrust. Other times I've actively lashed out at myself or had to thrust myself more deeply and wholly into work. I've wondered what morbid curiosities await me day-to-day.
I've been wondering what intimacy means. My last relationship ended and I still don't know the people it'd involved, nor was I convinced they knew each other. Shoulder season runs left pocks on my exposed biceps and occasionally consoled me. I long to be able to express everything, to have to hide nothing. Moving fast doesn't guarantee you are getting anywhere.
My life is a fatal statement of innocuous fashion and an ink bullet in a revolution that will probably not happen. But I do know the meaning of friendship and the need for it, and I know it eats away at me how unseen I am.
Intimacy is supposed to give us the emotional safety to forget ourselves in the hopes someone else can recall us someday, so why does it feel like we know nothing of each other? Other than the suppleness of the skin and the dreams we stole from each other.
Do you know what scares me? Why I plan so many spontaneous trips? Can my health recover? Is it too late? Am I really that hard to read? It makes sense we scream today, indivisible as we are from the noise.
I suppose what I am looking for is the absence of judgement and a healthy dose of familiarity. I know that it will take time to build and that it will require me to be more direct. I can be attentive as well. I am a good listener because it's easy for me to be invulnerable.
It can be email or post but I'd like to know what you've been listening to. What you've been watching. How the season has affected your health. How your relationship with your mother and father are. Whether you feel that society is progressing or regressing. What you've been writing. Where your next adventure will take you. What the last thing you said was that fell on deaf ears. How your ex was and wasn't everything you'd hoped for. Whether you like the smell of incense. If yoga is for you.
I'd love to get playlists or inside jokes, travel diary entries, dialogues from your day, observations that stuck with you. Tell me something that makes you feel the greatest shame.
Imagine me and then describe what you've imagined in the crudest of most literary terms. Let me be nothing but an object of your vain and vague fantasies. Hurt me so that I can need you and to know that you can and I'll still be here the same.
It starts with a message but it never ends.
Me: 28M, thoughtful, intuitive, assertive, active, patient, sometimes impulsive, kind, resilient, obscure, easygoing, difficult, occasionally beautiful.
You: start here
I mean, why wouldn't you? Look at you.
You're stunning, out-of-this-world hot, strong, gentle, ambitious, charismatic, accomplished, kind, determined, hopeful, loyal and affectionate.
You're sensible, practical, caring, sarcastic, annoying, occasionally needy. You're interesting and an amazing conversationalist. You are curious and have so many things at your fingertips. I'm surprised you're even on Reddit...
As for me... Well. That's for you to discover. But I'll give you a few clues. I like the colour green. I smirk a lot. I am softly spoken. I am playful and tactile. I ask great questions. I'm driven and competitive but I like silences. I don't like celebrity culture. I like using shopping aisles as a maze though, and using toys for creative inspiration. I'm good at trivia. I can be trivial too. I'm good at calling out bs- yours included.
If you think we will get along, jump onto my radar. I'll be listening for the ping.
Also I'm sorry but please no video gamers. If you have other hobbies and game part time, that's okay.
Lately, I've been trying to make better use of my time. This has taken two main forms:
Firstly: I've tried to minimize procrastination and distractions and live more intentionally.
Secondly: I've tried to structure my time to balance getting more done/fitting more in with living in the present moment and not just tick-boxing everything. I don't want to feel like I'm just climbing uphill towards the end of the year, but truly living and making 2026 memories that last a lifetime.
Which brings me to you: what are you trying to achieve this year? What have you been enjoying doing? How are your goals progressing? What's been challenging about getting where you want to go? What's surprised you recently?
Tell me about your innermost dreams and desires and how you're resisting the ennui of digital life.