u/Ok-Ad4879

Dated this man 38M 24F for a little more than one year, I have very high standards and we both come from very well off backgrounds.

He knew that the man before him gifted me an apartment even before he started dating me but he kept going on, throughout the relationship he gave me two gifts totaling 4500 dollars. After we parted I told him I always thought he was cheap and never felt cherished by him, that being with him made me let go of myself.

Am I being transactional? Because I expected him to spoil me for my time or was he cheap?

Bf of 1 year broke up with me after one year. Immediately after breakup I started to distance myself, never reached out first, never chased him he did the opposite he left me because in his words he couldn’t see a future with me then chased me.

For context, we both come from multilionaire conservative backgrounds and he knew from before we started dating my expectations he promised he would fulfill them in order to trap me in the relationship and he never did, for months I supported him through lows of life then at one point I started to ask him to put more effort, he never did. When he broke up with me I told him he never did enough for me that I never felt cherished and I distanced myself.

Well my intention is to ghost him completely. He keeps reaching out everyday and I don’t want to give him this kind of emotional support when we aren’t together and I also think he doesn’t deserve it to be honest.