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Hello everyone.

Need advice please. My mom constantly says something is off with my child and puts me down for everything me and her step dad do. She’s 5 just started kindergarten and got a write up about not wanting to stay in her seat, I told her about it and she calls me and says “something is seriously wrong with her, you need to get her checked and keep an eye on her” my daughter is a sweet little girl, who has a big attitude, she’s sensitive and cry’s easy but for some reason my mother constantly thinks something is wrong with her.
Also a constant fight she thinks me and her step dad are to hard on her. We aren’t, we are stern with her and expect her to behave a certain way.
I’m so tired of my mom always bring so negative towards the way I parent. What should I do?
Thank you

Hi Reddit.

First time post but here we go, as the title states, I’m asking if I’m the asshole for wanting to cut contact or even limit contact with my mom.
Long story short, I live with my husband and three kids. I co own my house with my mom and I’m trying to sell it to move out of state to provide a better life for my children. She is giving me a hard time about it, it’s a fixer upper (I have done as much as I could, but we don’t have the funds or the time to put into the house) I found someone who would come in at 185, she freaked out on me and said no. I can’t move my family to provide them a better life, meaning, less crime (I live in a very high crime state) way better education, all levels of education are at a 1 here, a way healthier way of living, and me and my husband both have way better/higher paying jobs.
Im not sure why she won’t let us move forward, the house has been a nightmare for us both. And I recently just found out I’m pregnant with my 4th child. She had a horrible reaction, telling me to go on birth control and asking if I’m doing to get an adoration. I am a 26 year old woman and married with three kids already.

She has made me feel so bad about everything I have tried to do, she claims I shut her out of my life. She works crazy hours and I always tell her my door is open. Anything I tell her what me and my husband are doing it’s always shut down. I got a new car, she had negative comments about it, I asked her to move her things to a storage unit so we had room in the house to live (she is a extreme hoarder) I don’t think it was wrong of me to ask her to put her things in storage. she throws that in my every time.
I just don’t know what to do anymore. I’m so hurt by her comments when I told her I was pregnant and the way she is handling everything with the house.
Please Reddit I need to know if I’m an asshole for wanting to limit contact and advice.