I know I know, the biggest worms are built off the backs off 100s of fallen worms. BUT it drives me absolutely insane when I get big and small worms will not leave me alone. I know we are here to eat eachother but I would really like not being circled by 5 worms at any given time. Why can’t I get big and girthy in peace? 😭
What’s it called when you’re painfully self aware but can’t make yourself do anything about it? I know I don’t deserve how I am treated. I know I’d be livid if I watched one of my sisters, friends, or any other woman be treated this way. I know I don’t want this forever. I know things won’t change. Why can’t I make myself walk away?
I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 7 years. We met when we were 19 and 21. I left him early on for the way he talked to and treated me and proceeded to take him back and deal with worse for years.
He constantly talks down to me, responds to me like I’m an annoyance, raises his voice at me, calls me names, is overly defensive or hateful, etc. He got me pregnant and was even more verbally abusive and made it such a sad, scary, and lonely time until I made the decision he wanted. I have been in the deepest, darkest depression of my life since and will never be the same. He gets in road rage incidents that are genuinely scary with me in the car begging him to stop. Disregards or dismisses the majority of my feelings.
He put our house on the market without having a conversation with me, then applied for a lease out of state when I said we needed to discuss it, and moved forward with said lease after speaking with anyone else but me about it. This move would mean throwing away all of the work I had put into my career and licensure. He did not care.
I planned not to come with him. I was going to move in with my parents. But then… I came. And I’m so depressed, sad, angry, heartbroken, and feel like I’m backed into a corner all over again. What’s wrong with me? Why can I see all the lights and hear the sirens but not get myself to leave the burning building?
I started at my current spot back in February and the saxophones have progressively been getting louder and louder. I want to quit SO badly but have never left a job without giving notice/having an in person discussion. Have y’all just ended things via text before? I don’t want to give this place another 2 weeks of my time.
Every single shift I work I’m lucky if I make $100. There are always way too many people on the floor and they keep every single one of us on until they cut to close. We spend so much time just waiting to be sat or doing side work. Most of my shifts I have only 3 or 4 tables or a party table and a single booth to rotate while I wait 2 hours for them to come in.
I never talk down on hosts because that’s where I started but these poor girls have no training on rotation, numbers, etc. If the tablet says to sit someone next they will sit them, they will double/triple seat reservations instead of spacing them out, literally none of it makes sense.
The cherry on top of all of this among other things: this past Saturday night I came in and had 2 parties and a booth to rotate. Then an extra server was called in and I lost my booth and would not be sat until 7:30 PM. I asked if I could leave for a bit since that meant I’d be waiting 3 HOURS to be sat… I was told no because something else may call or walk in. I was debating the best way to walk out when I was told I’d get a table at 6 instead so I wouldn’t have to wait so long. So I waited 2 hours to have a three whole tables all night and to walk with $103 on Saturday with a huge event happening in town.
I am so tired of going in and doing way more work than I’m walking out with money for. My coworkers are good for the most part but management is a joke. I have to go in at 3 but doing so feels like facing execution
I started at my current spot back in February and the saxophones have progressively been getting louder and louder. I want to quit SO badly but have never left a job without giving notice/having an in person discussion. Have y’all just ended things via text before? I don’t want to give this place another 2 weeks of my time.
Every single shift I work I’m lucky if I make $100. There are always way too many people on the floor and they keep every single one of us on until they cut to close. We spend so much time just waiting to be sat or doing side work. Most of my shifts I have only 3 or 4 tables or a party table and a single booth to rotate while I wait 2 hours for them to come in.
I never talk down on hosts because that’s where I started but these poor girls have no training on rotation, numbers, etc. If the tablet says to sit someone next they will sit them, they will double/triple seat reservations instead of spacing them out, literally none of it makes sense.
The cherry on top of all of this among other things: this past Saturday night I came in and had 2 parties and a booth to rotate. Then an extra server was called in and I lost my booth and would not be sat until 7:30 PM. I asked if I could leave for a bit since that meant I’d be waiting 3 HOURS to be sat… I was told no because something else may call or walk in. I was debating the best way to walk out when I was told I’d get a table at 6 instead so I wouldn’t have to wait so long. So I waited 2 hours to have a three whole tables all night and to walk with $103 on Saturday with a huge event happening in town.
I am so tired of going in and doing way more work than I’m walking out with money for. My coworkers are good for the most part but management is a joke. I have to go in at 3 but doing so feels like facing execution