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I’m not diagnosed but I do feel like I show signs of AUDHD and I find it difficult to navigate the black space as an 18 year old girl, a lot of black guys age either don’t like me or think they’re doing me a favour by dating or talking to me because I’m dark skin. A lot of people ignore me or called me white washed because I don’t act like the stereotype they have in their minds if what a black girl should act like.

Guys within my own community call me names cause I don’t want like certain things maybe other black girls do so they just assume I’m into white guys which just isn’t really the case. I don’t really have a type but I’d prefer to date my own race but it seems like guys don’t really wanna give me a chance. Ive been bullied by other black guys or ignored by other black girls cause I’m very quiet and just don’t really talk. I don’t blame tho, none of those girls have been unkind to me atleast to my face, Ive never really had black friends and when I did I was so young and I was moving back to a predominantly white country that I needed time to unlearn the internalised bias and racism I was developing. I don’t really know what to do, will it get better?

I don’t know if it’s because of my hair or the way that I dress that repels black boys, I’m not a big fan of buss downs and would rather wear braids and I don’t necessarily dress like most black girls in London. I’m not interested in being male oriented but I do want kids one day and I’m hoping they’ll be black but I just can’t really get any guy of my race to like me. I can ignore it for now but I just wanted to know if it got any better?

Gen Z has a problem with moral superiority complexes and being intellectually arrogant rather than trying to get e to understand where they are coming from. It’s either that or they’re trying to be edgy and cool so they think by saying the most outrageous, racist and misogynist thing they will get those owning the libs brownie points.

I have seen people specifically on Reddit, TikTok and Instagram make post or go into comment sections trying to hold people accountable whether it’s for something minor or for something major. I do not believe that there is anything wrong with that, what I do believe is that it’s not coming from a place of good intent but from a place of political correctness by people who feel the need to feign intelligence. I know there is a conversation about it and it is called pseudo- intellectualism.

So many of us feel the need to hold people accountable for things we ourselves don’t seem to care about, I personally think it’s performative. I don’t know whether people feel pressured to care about things they wouldn’t normally care about because others are doing it, it confuses me because I do genuinely believe we are in a morally bankrupt/ ambiguous society so to me I don’t personally feel like need to feign moral superiority.

Is to become famous on TikTok? People say that we are in a literacy crisis especially for younger kids and teens but I don’t necessarily believe that this something that has just come about, I think this is an issue that has been slowly manifesting for years. People arent that smart. I think we give too much credit to the average individual. People hold biases and subconscious beliefs that may be hurtful, whether it be racism, misogyny, homophobia, ableism and more. Even the most oppressed groups hold some sort of bigoted ideologies. These self proclaimed intellectuals especially teenagers, need to understand that yelling at people or harassing for not having the same moral compass as you solves absolutely nothing, any sane person would understand it’s much more nuanced than that. As teenagers and young adults we tend to have more time on our hands, so that means we have more time to gain new information and knowledge that may not have been previously accessible to older generations.

Also we need to be able to understand that people are stubborn and don’t like change, we’ve seen this in previous generations and we’re seeing it now. We have to be able to find ways to get to people and find a compromise that works for all of us. People have kids, they’re depressed or have mental illnesses, they have responsibilities that weigh them down. I don’t wanna make excuses for the bigoted but we also have to understand that things that might be normal for us may not be so normal for someone else. People grew up differently, were indoctrinated or are only just trying to do and be better.

Plus we don’t know everything and that’s okay, many of us seem to think that we do. Especially 12-24 year olds. We seem to think that we don’t gain more knowledge as we go on so we get defensive and dismissive when proved wrong. Our need to be hold on to identity politics makes us rigid in our thought process, people have reasons to beliefs that they hold, not all the time but most times, we have to be able to understand regardless of if we agree them to live in a civil society that benefits of us. We don’t have to be tolerate of the hateful but we also don’t need to hold each other to unnecessary standards we ourselves cant always abide by.

Sorry this was long.

I’m finding it very hard to grasp the concept of life and it’s not necessarily existentialism. It’s been like this for a very long time. It’s only gotten worse after my aunt and uncle passed last year a couple months apart. It’s been hard but to me it’s only gotten worse.

I don’t understand societal norms and get overwhelmed very easily, id much rather be by myself and find it difficult to maintain romantic relationships. I miss social cues and people say I come across as rude and monotone.

I’m a black girl so everything I do is often misinterpreted or dismissed as having a bad attitude. It doesn’t help that I’m darkskin and that other black people sometimes expect me to act a certain way. People always want mw to fit a stereotype and when I don’t I’m called names or not taking seriously.

I really don’t understand certain things like racism, colourism and homophobia and all that jazz. I don’t understand how things people cant control affects anyone personally. People are automatically rude to me cause I’m black and darkskin. It’s very disheartening and I just can’t understand why.

Idk if it’s just my experience as a black girl that makes life this way, I just can’t understand the way life works and why people act the way they do. When I was younger I’d get into “fights” with my friends cause they would talk badly about on another and I would absentmindedly call them out on it cause I just couldn’t understand why they would do that. I used to be very confrontational but now I think after my uncle and Aunty passing I tend to hide rather than confront, ive always been very shy and quiet but now I just keep mute when I don’t like something. I’ve gotten very bad at it.

I used to get made fun of cause I was known as the weird girl and was very mute mostly cause I was bullied. I end up doing things myself because it doesn’t seem like people understand me or they choose not to understand me, I just shut down and stay by myself. I’ve been doing this since I was 8.

I don’t really know why to do