u/Ok_Brother_00

I have been VLC with her for the entirety of my 4 years relationship with my ex husband. I have tried to leave, and had to come back because I couldn’t stay anywhere else for the time being. I am disabled and have a low income of $600 a month.

I have been telling her I want to leave him and possibly leave the state for months now. Maybe a year. She has never once told me anything along the lines of being supportive.

It has been nothing but

“He’s trying his best”
“Men don’t pay attention”
“You have to sit and explain what you want from him.”

After years of me begging for a normal relationship and for him to pay attention, that’s all the advice she gave me.

Not helping me leave. Not helping me find resources. Not helping me at least plan something. Just comments about how men need to be babied basically.

Which by the way, I think men are just as intelligent as women and can form deep emotional connections with people. It’s about wanting to.

Anyway. I’m tired of being alone. I have no one to talk to about any of this. I have to restart my life once again because of safety concerns.

Wentworth and Wine

I didn’t go to the police station because they told me they didn’t have the software to locate my tag.

I couldn’t hold it anymore because he kept asking what was wrong. He finally admitted he thought I was cheating on him so I asked “Is that why you put an AirTag in my car?”

First it was silence. Then he started making the excuses you all said we would make.

First it was

“That’s been there.”

I asked

“What is your point?”

He tried to state that I knew about the tracker because of the jokes we made about tracking each other. I blew up completely.

I said

“Where in that conversation did I give you consent to tag my car? Don’t you dare try to tell me I should have known it was there!” ( he hid it underneath the car seat side of my car. It was underneath the actual upholstery of the seat. The beeping sound was disabled. )

So he then says

“It doesn’t even work!”

To which I replied

“Then what was the point of it being in my car?”

Then he started asking me questions.

“Why were you being sneaky? You went on my computer?”

I lost it. I said “oh you’re asking questions now?! I’m the one asking the questions!”

He kept repeating himself saying that it didn’t even work. ( I tested it, it does.) It had only been a few days. Saying I should have known it was there after our jokes about tracking. Then after 20 minutes he started crying saying he’s messed up by never communicating his fears with me. I have been begging him to open up to be for four years.

I’m so upset. It’s the fact that after I confronted him he said what he always does. Making excuses for his actions. Making himself seem like he’s just a dummy who needs to be taught to be in a marriage. I’ve taught him. Nothing has stuck. Crying, explanations, advice, planning, nothing.

I am done ladies. Staying here until I can leave and divorce him. I can’t believe I have to start my life over again, with no family.

husband put an AirTag in my car. only found out because he’s been treating me poorly so I looked through his computer. also found porn he says he doesn’t watch, I don’t care, but this is another lie on top of all the small lies he tells to feel morally superior. I don’t know what else he’s lying about.