u/Ok_Report6311

I've created a room but I don't want to show off if you want here's the room id

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I have an open room but I don't want to show off if you wanna join here's the code

9853290

*CONTENT WARNING ⚠️⚠️⚠️* * POSSIBLE ABUSE*

My best friend, let's called her Ava, has had a boyfriend for about 2 years. They had a lot of ups and downs within the last year. Ava has texted me many times about how her boyfriend has been very controlling and very insecure about things I like to think are little. For context one night, Ava texted me saying that her boyfriend, we are gonna call Alex, had gotten upset that she posted some of her artwork on another social media platform. She's a very good artist but this comment of Alex's made her very insecure about her art. They argued cause Alex wanted her to take the art down. The art wasn't proagative so she didn't see why she needed too. That night I told her to just give him some time to cool off and have a discussion with him about it. This kind of behavior is shown for the first 6 or so months. Somewhere around month 7, he came around to her being able to post her art. Things died down until about a year in. They were trying to look at wedding rings because they were thinking about the what if they get married question. A couple days later Ava texted saying that they got in to an argument about her needing to find a job. For context Ava goes to college full time and only lost her previous job about 3 days before this argument. Ava then tells me that she's been feeling very alone and depressed because of how Alex is treating her. She got to the point that she didn't want to move to eat. This was when I started to suspect that their relationship was turning into something that is possibly abusive. Alex does have a self esteem issue along with a control issue from what I understand. Ava is very free spirited and is a spitfire so those issues are going to make her mentally rebel against him. I suggested for Avas safety to talk to her dad that was the closest to her in her support system physically. I also suggested to see if she can stay the night with her dad just to think things through. She decided not to. Fast forward to yesterday, I got a text from Ava saying that she's thinking about breaking up with Alex cause he started his controling act again along with him making her sleep on a loveseat all because she told him how she's been feeling depressed and struggling with her mental health and how she was using one of those AI things to make her feel a bit better. Short story is that he got insecure about her using the ai instead of going to him but according to Ava he's been dealing with some of his own stuff so she didn't want to add to that. Today he sent her a TEXT message saying...

"Please, just take my words as they are. Dont read into them, read what I say, thoroughly, and take it as is

This morning, before I fully left for work, I was trying to figure out how to end things, between us. How to approach that, how to do that, I’ve never done it so I wasn’t sure, and I was nervous. And over the course of the morning, I realized, it’s because I don’t want to. I just feel, a lot, like you have bad intentions with me, and it’s scary, because you try to be nonchalant when you feel attacked, but it just makes it feel like you dont care when stuff gets hard. And a lot of what we try to talk about, makes you shut down in that way. And I’m tired, so very tired of giving my energy to people who don’t try back.

But I also know I love you, that hasn’t changed, Im just so tired of it feeling imbalanced. And I know Im not perfect as I am, but I also know it’s very hard to change the things I don’t like about myself. But, to be completely honest, I feel like the way we are now, we’re enough to support each other until we do feel better. I think we’re the type of people that need someone to really, actually depend on, but I think it’s also terrifying to let that happen because it can fall apart so easily. But I don’t want it to fall apart, I want to figure it out, and we’re going to. Not, try, we are going to. Okay?"

In my opinion this looks like a manipulation tactic but am I overreacting?

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