u/Old_Depth_5205

Hello! I am getting into a new school soon and I would like to share my worries and maybe even find some other views on them here.

I will be attending an art school. I am 15, a trans ftm boy, who often crosdresses and wears jirai kei (I usually even wear a wig). Out of this, I am a jirai danshi, so I am very feminine already. Unfortunately, my family is transphobic therefore they do not know that I am transgender.
I have three options, either come out to my family and then to my school (which will probably be bad for me, I would most likely have to give up on jirai kei, subcul and crosdressing) or come out just to my school (and maybe keep crosdressing.. who knows?) while they would still have to keep it a secret from my mother which I already know will be complicated, or completely detransition.

I am quite afraid that if I came out as trans in the school only, I would be judged for crosdressing and that the teachers or the students wouldn’t accept me. I know, it is an art school, so they will be probably way more supportive, but I am not sure. My mother would never understand me being transgender, especially if I would tell her I like these feminine styles.

Are there any others who have or had a similar experience? What would you guys do if you were in my shoes? I am completely lost

Hello, I am currently a transgender boy. I am 15 and I haven’t come out to my mother yet since she is INSANELY transphobic (and homophobic.) I did come out to my class but half of them accept me and since they met me as a girl when I was 6, they still see me as a one.

Today was my last day of school and the next school year I will be attending a new (art) school.
I do not want my new classmates to not be sure what my gender identity is. I do not want to explain to them why they can call me by my chosen name but cannot use it infront of adults.

This leads me to a question I have been thinking about for a year now. Should I detransition? Should I just wear girly clothes and makeup and look like a girl? Should I become someone who I am (probably) not? Or should I come out to my mother, who would probably use my gender identity against me and would be transphobic towards me? Who knows if she will even accept me? I have no idea what to do.

I am fine with wearing dresses and skirts, as long as I do wear a wig and other stuff. I cosplay, and aslong as it is some form of pretend, I do not mind. Unfortunately, just the thought of people thinking about me and connecting my dead name with me makes me want to puke. Same goes with she/her pronouns. I just can’t. Maybe, If I could atleast use a different name, a gender neutral one, while detransitioning, maybe it would be easier for me.

Since I am not out, and my mother is very strict, I do not look like a boy anyways. I have short hair and a boyish cut, but I cannot wear mens clothes
First reason is that I am small and short, so only 12 year old boys clothes fit me.
Second reason is that my mother does not let me shop alone and that leads to her not allowing me to get ANYTHING from the men section. Not even shirts or hoodies.

I must add that I do experience body discomfort and I can barely look at myself in the mirror.

I sometimes wish that there were no gender rules and we all looked the same.

What should I do? Please do not tell me that it is for me to decide, I have been thinking about this for a long time and I cannot figure anything out.

Hello, I am currently a transgender boy. I am 15 and I haven’t come out to my mother yet since she is INSANELY transphobic (and homophobic.) I did come out to my class but half of them accept me and since they met me as a girl when I was 6, they still see me as a one.

Today was my last day of school and the next school year I will be attending a new (art) school.
I do not want my new classmates to not be sure what my gender identity is. I do not want to explain to them why they can call me by my chosen name but cannot use it infront of adults.

This leads me to a question I have been thinking about for a year now. Should I detransition? Should I just wear girly clothes and makeup and look like a girl? Should I become someone who I am (probably) not? Or should I come out to my mother, who would probably use my gender identity against me and would be transphobic towards me? Who knows if she will even accept me? I have no idea what to do.

I am fine with wearing dresses and skirts, as long as I do wear a wig and other stuff. I cosplay, and aslong as it is some form of pretend, I do not mind. Unfortunately, just the thought of people thinking about me and connecting my dead name with me makes me want to puke. Same goes with she/her pronouns. I just can’t. Maybe, If I could atleast use a different name, a gender neutral one, while detransitioning, maybe it would be easier for me.

Since I am not out, and my mother is very strict, I do not look like a boy anyways. I have short hair and a boyish cut, but I cannot wear mens clothes
First reason is that I am small and short, so only 12 year old boys clothes fit me.
Second reason is that my mother does not let me shop alone and that leads to her not allowing me to get ANYTHING from the men section. Not even shirts or hoodies.

I must add that I do experience body discomfort and I can barely look at myself in the mirror.

I sometimes wish that there were no gender rules and we all looked the same.

What should I do? Please do not tell me that it is for me to decide, I have been thinking about this for a long time and I cannot figure anything out.