u/One_Alternative_1423

Hey yall,

My friend/coworker is about to start a new job and as a goodbye gift I would like to commission someone to draw him as a rat. He loves rats and is also very rat-like. I have gifted him a gift I did once of him animorphing into a rat and he LOVED it. His last day is the 18th so I would like to get it to him by then. My budget is $50. If anyone is interested please let me know and show me some of your other work. Thank you so much in advance 🖤🐀

Hi Reddit,

Long story short I broke it off with my partner who you all made me realize might have been abusing me. I was not happy but I also am feeling immense regret. I know my partner feels very alone right now and I just want to comfort them. I feel horrible and I’m thinking about all the things I could have done better like being a better care taker and supported more during their attempts at getting sober. However i always felt like I was drowning. I don’t know what to do or how to feel. All my friends think this is a good thing but I feel so empty and absolutely heart broken in a way I don’t think I will recover from.

Thanks for listening. Reddit has been such a nice place of solace for me.

Hello everyone,

This is my second update following what was a much needed and scary wake up call about my relationship. Both you all here and a good friend of mine have been so wonderful in helping me process that I am in fact a victim of DV.

I have packed an emergency bag. Nothing big but it has a change of clothes, $200 cash, and my documents inside. The apartment is in both of our names but that is a later problem. I am not going tonight but it is there in case.

As for right now, my parter has been in the apologetic stage where they seek forgiveness so I feel safe. I have been telling them I am working towards forgiveness and have been getting a little more space than usual.

We have a big trip in a week or so back to our home state for a funeral. I am planning on breaking things off after the trip and asking them to move out. I hope it goes well but if not I have my bag.

Thank you again to everyone for the kind words and genuine advice and insight. If there is anything else helpful you might add to my plan or questions I would be happy to answer.

Hello again,

Yesterday I posted asking advice on when I should be worried if I’m in a DV situation and if I should pack a go bag. You all were very kind and helpful in your responses and I am working towards leaving.

Yesterday after work I asked my good friend and former roommate to meet up with me so I could talk about the situation. She gave me some hard love on the patterns she was seeing and what others have been saying. While I wish others would have brought their concerns to me instead I am glad to hear I am not alone.

As the night went on more and more I didn’t want to go home and was going to stay with her. However I was getting non stop calls and texts to the point where the friend even remarked that the constant pinging of my phone was stressing her out. What my partner had to say was basically that they are going through a very difficult time right now (this is true) and that I needed to be home to keep them safe from themself. So I did end up going home to make sure nothing happened. They have a history of self harm and are actively using fentanyl (in treatment though) so I want to make sure they are okay.

I did tell them that I am compassionate to all that they are going through mentally and physically battling addiction along with other mental conditions and physical disabilities. However I also told them I am still upset and I deserve more respect and care than I have been given. I did not kiss them goodnight and they slept on the couch.

This morning when I woke up they were passed out on the bathroom floor unresponsive. Everything is now okay but it was terrifying.

I am working to get out and pack my go bag in case but I do still love them and do not want to loose them. I will update if there is anything more to say.

Hi yall,

I’m not sure if this is the right sub for this but I know Morgan has mentioned go bags for DV situations and I am wondering at what point you need to do this. I am not sure if I am what would traditionally qualify as DV. I just know I am scared all the time. My partner has not hit me yet but hits things around us or themself when something goes wrong. I am not sure what to do. Tonight is the first night where when they opened the door I froze and immediately thought they were going to harm me. They did not but I feel like things are escalating. Any advice? Is there anything I should or could do for myself or for this relationship?

Hi yall,

To keep it short I’m not doing well (in this sub I’m sure you’re shocked). The most important family member in my life died recently. It has been devastating. On top of this I am trying really hard to support my partner as they are fighting a opioid addiction and their own mental health battles. This is in addition to general life stressors. All of this is making me very seriously consider self harm again in all forms be it cutting or my battle with bulimia. Does anyone have any tips on how to keep it together? I know that if I start again I won’t stop.

Thank you in advance for any kind words or advice

Hello all thank you for reading in advance and any advice you give. All fake names just in case.

I (24F) have a best friend Chris (23M). Chris texted me the other day to say that we will have been friends for 10 years this fall. We both decided this was a reason to celebrate! We have been planning a roadtrip together for around 6 years now stopping at spooky landmarks across the United States. While we can’t afford to take the time off work to hit all these stops we decided to tackle the PNW and have been figuring out which days work best.

The other day (about a week after the text) Chris his GF Stella (24F) and I were FaceTiming and Chris brought up the trip and we were both excited. Stella then brought up that she has never been to Oregon and Chris told her that she should join us. This was exciting because Stella has a resolution to visit 25 states by the time she is 25 and this would bring her to 25.

At this point I want to establish that I love Stella. While we would not have met if not for Chris we at this point are independently friends.

In the moment I just said something along the lines of well maybe it can be a couples trip. However since I have thought about it more I would rather it be just Chris and I. This is just a trip that he and I have been planning for so long and I was looking forward to it being just us. It also is a trip of going to Spooky haunted places and she does not like things like that.

How do I bring this up without hurting her feelings?

EDIT: saw a few comments saying there might be an issue since I am female. I have no interest in Chris especially cause I am a lesbian. I have a GF of 6 years who would join if it is a couples trip

Hi yall, to make it short I inherited 5K when my grandmother died a couple of weeks ago. Is it better to use this to pay off some of my 120K worth of student loans or to open a high yield savings? I have wanted a HYS for a long time but haven’t ever been stable enough to do so as I live paycheck to paycheck. Also if people have other ideas I am open. Thank you in advance.