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Husband and I experienced 3 miscarriages in a 1 year span, all after seeing healthy growth and a heart beat. I was 31 and 32 and he was 29 and 30. We had every blood test, imagining, etc we could have and got no answer. We desperately turned to IVF in order to do PGTA testing. I did a retrieval and got only one euploid embryo. I did a fully medicated transfer and it failed. I did another retrieval the following month and we got several more embryos which were all sent for PGTA testing except for. We took a leap of faith and I did a fresh transfer after my 2nd retrieval, and had our 4th miscarriage (this was ruled to be trisomy 22). At that point I vowed to use only our PGTA tested embryos - we ended up with 4 total after the 2nd retrieval (so grateful for them).

To our surprise, while waiting for my body to heal and going through the testing to make sure my uterus was ready for another transfer, we conceived again naturally only weeks after my D&C, before I even got a period. I was tracking with OPKS to specifically avoid ovulation and never got a spike. We also only had sec once. I’m now 26W today with a so far, healthy baby girl. I was on a “kitchen sink” medication protocol that I think was helpful in allowing me to carry this pregnancy and I plan to take the same regimen again for any future pregnancies I would be blessed to have.

I feel so incredibly blessed and grateful and I hope my question does not come off as ungrateful or gloating. I know how difficult it is physically and emotionally to experience infertility, pregnancy loss, and failed transfers. My heart goes out to everyone in this position.

My question has to do with future family planning. I am now 33 and my baby is due in August. The embryos we have frozen were made when I was 32. When it comes to trying for our next baby, I would like to do so relatively sooner than later, perhaps 6-8 months after giving birth (if all goes ok). I know this isn’t the most ideal option and I’m not set on this plan. My question is - for our next child - do we try again naturally because my eggs would still be relatively “young” and save the frozen 32 year old eggs for when I am older? (We would like to have a big family…no set number but want to keep going until we decide we have concluded our family building).

Hope this makes sense and I appreciate any thoughts, advice, or wisdom for anyone who may have been in my shoes.

TLDR: When we try for our 2nd child - do we try again naturally or use one of our PGTA tested embryos that we had made out of desperation after experiencing recurrent loss, but then ended up having success with a natural pregnancy? Current age is a big variable (33 or 34 at time of next pregnancy - PGTA tested embryos were made at 32).

Husband and I experienced 3 miscarriages in a 1 year span, all after seeing healthy growth and a heart beat. I was 31 and 32 and he was 29 and 30. We had every blood test, imagining, etc we could have and got no answer. We desperately turned to IVF in order to do PGTA testing. I did a retrieval and got only one euploid embryo. I did a fully medicated transfer and it failed. I did another retrieval the following month and we got several more embryos which were all sent for PGTA testing except for. We took a leap of faith and I did a fresh transfer after my 2nd retrieval, and had our 4th miscarriage (this was ruled to be trisomy 22). At that point I vowed to use only our PGTA tested embryos - we ended up with 4 total after the 2nd retrieval (so grateful for them).

To our surprise, while waiting for my body to heal and going through the testing to make sure my uterus was ready for another transfer, we conceived again naturally only weeks after my D&C, before I even got a period. I was tracking with OPKS to specifically avoid ovulation and never got a spike. We also only had sec once. I’m now 26W today with a so far, healthy baby girl. I was on a “kitchen sink” medication protocol that I think was helpful in allowing me to carry this pregnancy and I plan to take the same regimen again for any future pregnancies I would be blessed to have.

I feel so incredibly blessed and grateful and I hope my question does not come off as ungrateful or gloating. I know how difficult it is physically and emotionally to experience infertility, pregnancy loss, and failed transfers. My heart goes out to everyone in this position.

My question has to do with future family planning. I am now 33 and my baby is due in August. The embryos we have frozen were made when I was 32. When it comes to trying for our next baby, I would like to do so relatively sooner than later, perhaps 6-8 months after giving birth (if all goes ok). I know this isn’t the most ideal option and I’m not set on this plan. My question is - for our next child - do we try again naturally because my eggs would still be relatively “young” and save the frozen 32 year old eggs for when I am older? (We would like to have a big family…no set number but want to keep going until we decide we have concluded our family building).

Hope this makes sense and I appreciate any thoughts, advice, or wisdom for anyone who may have been in my shoes.

TLDR: When we try for our 2nd child - do we try again naturally or use one of our PGTA tested embryos that we had made out of desperation after experiencing recurrent loss, but then ended up having success with a natural pregnancy? Current age is a big variable (33 or 34 at time of next pregnancy - PGTA tested embryos were made at 32).

Me: 33F
Nephew : 22M
Nephews fiancé: 21F - with nephew 3 years

What should my next steps be?

In November 2024, a week before Thanksgiving, my husband and I experienced our first miscarriage after seeing the baby with a heartbeat. We were devastated. I had a really hard time with it. We didn’t have the greatest support from either of our families. They simply just couldn’t understand the level of grief that comes along with it having not experienced it. We ended up not doing anything for the holidays and just staying home together. It was too much to try and put on a happy face for everyone. Fast forward to New Years Day, my family asked us to come out and go to Trivia Night at a local bar we usually go to. I mustered up the strength to go, but am now wishing I hadn’t.

Anyway - we’re all sitting at our table and my nephew (21 at the time - we’re only 10 years apart so we’ve always been more like siblings) was complaining to his Dad about having to pay for gas and for an oil change in the brand new Jeep Wrangler his parents had bought him. I chimed in and said “your dad handed you a jeep and you’re really going to complain?”

In the moment I knew it was incredibly uncalled for. He’s just a kid and honestly was jokingly complaining to his Dad about it. I was still in an incredibly dark place and also allowed myself to drink, which I wish I hadn’t. I took out my anger towards the world on someone who absolutely didn’t deserve it. No one other than my sister knew what we had just gone through, so my nephew was a little confused as to why I went at him like that. We left shortly after.

The next day I reached out to him and apologized up and down. I did let him know about what we were going through but emphasized that by no means is it an excuse at to have treated him the way I did. I only shared to offer a context as to why I’m so off lately and allowed myself to get to that point and lash out.

My nephew has always been a compassionate kid and understood. He accepted my apology. I still felt horrible but felt good knowing he was somewhat understanding and wasn’t going to hold this against me.

My husband and I experienced 2 more miscarriages throughout the next year. We spent our year going from doctor to doctor, spending thousands of dollars trying to figure out what was going on and why this kept happening to us. We really didn’t spend any time with anyone. I basically went to work and stayed at home. I was not the same person I had been before. We avoided any social situation like the plague, so I hadn’t seen my family at all.

My nephew and I texted here and there throughout the year - all positive stuff.

Come October - I learned he and his girlfriend got engaged. I reached out and congratulated him and he said thanks. I was talking with my sister and asked her if they had decided on a date yet and she was being really weird. Eventually she told me that they didn’t plan on inviting me because they were still upset about trivia night.

I was literally shocked. For almost 10 months, I thought everything was good. We had had conversations since then and all was good. I was invited to their house warming party 2 months after trivia night - I couldn’t go through because I was in the hospital with my 2nd miscarriage.

I reached out to my nephew and asked about it. He replied “you know me, I have no problem with anyone or anything and don’t like drama. Let me get back to you on my next day off”.

It made me feel instant relief. But that lasted only for a few days. He ended up texting me and was very kind and respectful, but said that he and his fiancé had felt disrespected by me and they didn’t want someone like that at their wedding. I begged and pelted for a chance to meet up in person to talk through this more, because other than trivia night (which I was already forgiven for) there literally wasn’t anything else I could think of to where I disrespected them.

After some back and forth, he eventually stopped responding to me. Neither his parents understood what was going on because they all knew we had talked after trivia night and that he had accepted my apology. They kept saying it was his fiancé being controlling (she was there at trivia night but I never said anything directly to her). Granted, I would be upset too if someone spoke to my partner the way I had to hers. So I reached out to her and let her know how sorry I was for overlooking her when I reached out to my nephew and apologized. I had assumed he told her what was going on in our lives at the time but reiterated that I wasn’t using it as an excuse, just offering context as to why I was the way I was that night.

She responded so aggressively. She told me that me offering the context seemed like I was making an excuse and that she had lost her step father and never lashed out on anyway so didn’t see why that made it okay that I did. I reiterated that it wasn’t okay that I did, but then also shared losing a child is an extremely painful. She offered no empathy, sympathy, or compassion, and basically just said I had disrespected both of them. She then proceeded to tell me that they were told by multiple family members that over the summer and family gatherings (even though I didn’t attend any) I was overheard making fun of my nephew for being a “bad cop”. He had just became a city cop a few months back. I have always been proud of my nephew and his number one supporter. I never in a million years would have thought that let alone say it. I told her I was incredibly thrown off and confused by this because a) I was never around my family that summer and b) I had never said anything remotely like that. She dug her heels in and wouldn’t budge or tell me who said it.

I reached out to my nephew again to let him know that I never said that and never would say that. I again asked if he and I could sit down in person to talk through this - because if he didn’t want me at his wedding for something I did, okay fine, but for something that never even happened? I had a hard time settling with that. He never responded.

I eventually reached out to my sister, her husband, and my niece to ask them all who/what was said. My niece finally admitted that she’s the one who told them I said my nephew was a “piece of shit cop” but that she had misunderstood me saying something once and let them know she relayed the wrong information. I asked her what on earth did she hear me saying that was remotely negative and she said before the holidays I had mentioned that “I couldn’t picture my baby nephew doing that”…..ok? Yes I 100% said that - and the context was after how he had to wrestle some crackhead who jumped out of a dumpster at him and his partner while on night shift. I changed this boys diapers - no, I can’t picture him wrestling with some guy behind Walgreens. I am baffled how that was translated into “he’s a piece of shit cop”. I let my niece know that I was incredibly upset that she had done/said these things. She said sorry but I don’t really feel any remorse there.

So - I message my fiancés girlfriend again with the screenshots of my niece admitting that she relayed false information, even though my niece told me she also told them that. I asked - “now that we know that this information was false, can we all please be adults and come to the table tot all about things? I don’t want my relationship with my nephew to be strained over lies”

She then aggressively responded again - letting me know that it wasn’t strained over lies, it was strained over my actions, and that I would not be coming to the wedding because he doesn’t want me there. The last thing I said to her was that she lacked empathy and compassion and that if she and my nephew experience anything remotely like what my husband and I have, that I pray people offer her more compassion. She never responded.

Called my sister sobbing who has been on my side this whole time, and then suddenly her views flipped. She had thrown in my face that “I attacked her son at trivia night” and now that I had “attacked her daughter over text” - didn’t realize asking clarifying questions and letting someone know they had hurt you was an attack, but okay. She then also said my nephew is upset because I called his fiancé “unempathetic”. My sister then said that she no longer wanted to be in the middle and that my nephew told her he would reach out to me to schedule a time to sit down in person to talk about this after Christmas 2025.

Well - it’s now May 2026 and I haven’t heard from him. Their wedding is next month - I’ve already accepted I won’t be attending. Even if I was invited now, I don’t know that I could attend.

My question is what to I do? Do I just let my relationship with my nephew be over or do I keep fighting for him/lettig him know that I care? I strongly feel that deep down - he knows this is wrong but is doing what he thinks is the right thing to do in supporting his future wife who clearly doesn’t want me there. Again - if there was a legit reason for our relationship to be this way, I think I could accept it and move on, but it just seems like the bar keeps moving and that our relationship has ended over lies and things that never happened.

I’m so sorry this is so long but I needed to share all of the pieces. My husband and I have lost 3 babies and now I’ve also lost my family. We finally have had success - I’m 26W pregnant with a baby girl, and I’m conflicted - my heart breaks that she won’t have any family on my side but then again, I feel the need to protect her from people who do this stuff to their own family in a horrible time of need/grief.

I don’t want coddling or validation - I want some honest, truthful, advice on what I should do moving forward. Do I move on?

TLDR: MISCARRIAGE. Not invited to nephews wedding after “lies” being told about things I said about him and he has been unwilling to meet with me. Has impacted my relationship with my whole family. I’m not one to point fingers at the girlfriend but I really do feel like this is all stemming from his fiancé.

What should my next steps be?

In November 2024, a week before Thanksgiving, my husband and I experienced our first miscarriage after seeing the baby with a heartbeat. We were devastated. I had a really hard time with it. We didn’t have the greatest support from either of our families. They simply just couldn’t understand the level of grief that comes along with it having not experienced it. We ended up not doing anything for the holidays and just staying home together. It was too much to try and put on a happy face for everyone. Fast forward to New Years Day, my family asked us to come out and go to Trivia Night at a local bar we usually go to. I mustered up the strength to go, but am now wishing I hadn’t.

Anyway - we’re all sitting at our table and my nephew (21 at the time - we’re only 10 years apart so we’ve always been more like siblings) was complaining to his Dad about having to pay for gas and for an oil change in the brand new Jeep Wrangler his parents had bought him. I chimed in and said “your dad handed you a jeep and you’re really going to complain?”

In the moment I knew it was incredibly uncalled for. He’s just a kid and honestly was jokingly complaining to his Dad about it. I was still in an incredibly dark place and also allowed myself to drink, which I wish I hadn’t. I took out my anger towards the world on someone who absolutely didn’t deserve it. No one other than my sister knew what we had just gone through, so my nephew was a little confused as to why I went at him like that. We left shortly after.

The next day I reached out to him and apologized up and down. I did let him know about what we were going through but emphasized that by no means is it an excuse at to have treated him the way I did. I only shared to offer a context as to why I’m so off lately and allowed myself to get to that point and lash out.

My nephew has always been a compassionate kid and understood. He accepted my apology. I still felt horrible but felt good knowing he was somewhat understanding and wasn’t going to hold this against me.

My husband and I experienced 2 more miscarriages throughout the next year. We spent our year going from doctor to doctor, spending thousands of dollars trying to figure out what was going on and why this kept happening to us. We really didn’t spend any time with anyone. I basically went to work and stayed at home. I was not the same person I had been before. We avoided any social situation like the plague, so I hadn’t seen my family at all.

My nephew and I texted here and there throughout the year - all positive stuff.

Come October - I learned he and his girlfriend got engaged. I reached out and congratulated him and he said thanks. I was talking with my sister and asked her if they had decided on a date yet and she was being really weird. Eventually she told me that they didn’t plan on inviting me because they were still upset about trivia night.

I was literally shocked. For almost 10 months, I thought everything was good. We had had conversations since then and all was good. I was invited to their house warming party 2 months after trivia night - I couldn’t go through because I was in the hospital with my 2nd miscarriage.

I reached out to my nephew and asked about it. He replied “you know me, I have no problem with anyone or anything and don’t like drama. Let me get back to you on my next day off”.

It made me feel instant relief. But that lasted only for a few days. He ended up texting me and was very kind and respectful, but said that he and his fiancé had felt disrespected by me and they didn’t want someone like that at their wedding. I begged and pelted for a chance to meet up in person to talk through this more, because other than trivia night (which I was already forgiven for) there literally wasn’t anything else I could think of to where I disrespected them.

After some back and forth, he eventually stopped responding to me. Neither his parents understood what was going on because they all knew we had talked after trivia night and that he had accepted my apology. They kept saying it was his fiancé being controlling (she was there at trivia night but I never said anything directly to her). Granted, I would be upset too if someone spoke to my partner the way I had to hers. So I reached out to her and let her know how sorry I was for overlooking her when I reached out to my nephew and apologized. I had assumed he told her what was going on in our lives at the time but reiterated that I wasn’t using it as an excuse, just offering context as to why I was the way I was that night.

She responded so aggressively. She told me that me offering the context seemed like I was making an excuse and that she had lost her step father and never lashed out on anyway so didn’t see why that made it okay that I did. I reiterated that it wasn’t okay that I did, but then also shared losing a child is an extremely painful. She offered no empathy, sympathy, or compassion, and basically just said I had disrespected both of them. She then proceeded to tell me that they were told by multiple family members that over the summer and family gatherings (even though I didn’t attend any) I was overheard making fun of my nephew for being a “bad cop”. He had just became a city cop a few months back. I have always been proud of my nephew and his number one supporter. I never in a million years would have thought that let alone say it. I told her I was incredibly thrown off and confused by this because a) I was never around my family that summer and b) I had never said anything remotely like that. She dug her heels in and wouldn’t budge or tell me who said it.

I reached out to my nephew again to let him know that I never said that and never would say that. I again asked if he and I could sit down in person to talk through this - because if he didn’t want me at his wedding for something I did, okay fine, but for something that never even happened? I had a hard time settling with that. He never responded.

I eventually reached out to my sister, her husband, and my niece to ask them all who/what was said. My niece finally admitted that she’s the one who told them I said my nephew was a “piece of shit cop” but that she had misunderstood me saying something once and let them know she relayed the wrong information. I asked her what on earth did she hear me saying that was remotely negative and she said before the holidays I had mentioned that “I couldn’t picture my baby nephew doing that”…..ok? Yes I 100% said that - and the context was after how he had to wrestle some crackhead who jumped out of a dumpster at him and his partner while on night shift. I changed this boys diapers - no, I can’t picture him wrestling with some guy behind Walgreens. I am baffled how that was translated into “he’s a piece of shit cop”. I let my niece know that I was incredibly upset that she had done/said these things. She said sorry but I don’t really feel any remorse there.

So - I message my fiancés girlfriend again with the screenshots of my niece admitting that she relayed false information, even though my niece told me she also told them that. I asked - “now that we know that this information was false, can we all please be adults and come to the table tot all about things? I don’t want my relationship with my nephew to be strained over lies”

She then aggressively responded again - letting me know that it wasn’t strained over lies, it was strained over my actions, and that I would not be coming to the wedding because he doesn’t want me there. The last thing I said to her was that she lacked empathy and compassion and that if she and my nephew experience anything remotely like what my husband and I have, that I pray people offer her more compassion. She never responded.

Called my sister sobbing who has been on my side this whole time, and then suddenly her views flipped. She had thrown in my face that “I attacked her son at trivia night” and now that I had “attacked her daughter over text” - didn’t realize asking clarifying questions and letting someone know they had hurt you was an attack, but okay. She then also said my nephew is upset because I called his fiancé “unempathetic”. My sister then said that she no longer wanted to be in the middle and that my nephew told her he would reach out to me to schedule a time to sit down in person to talk about this after Christmas 2025.

Well - it’s now May 2026 and I haven’t heard from him. Their wedding is next month - I’ve already accepted I won’t be attending. Even if I was invited now, I don’t know that I could attend.

My question is what to I do? Do I just let my relationship with my nephew be over or do I keep fighting for him/lettig him know that I care? I strongly feel that deep down - he knows this is wrong but is doing what he thinks is the right thing to do in supporting his future wife who clearly doesn’t want me there. Again - if there was a legit reason for our relationship to be this way, I think I could accept it and move on, but it just seems like the bar keeps moving and that our relationship has ended over lies and things that never happened.

I’m so sorry this is so long but I needed to share all of the pieces. My husband and I have lost 3 babies and now I’ve also lost my family. We finally have had success - I’m 26W pregnant with a baby girl, and I’m conflicted - my heart breaks that she won’t have any family on my side but then again, I feel the need to protect her from people who do this stuff to their own family in a horrible time of need/grief.

I don’t want coddling or validation - I want some honest, truthful, advice on what I should do moving forward. Do I move on?

TLDR: MISCARRIAGE. Not invited to nephews wedding after “lies” being told about things I said about him and he has been unwilling to meet with me. Has impacted my relationship with my whole family. I’m not one to point fingers at the girlfriend but I really do feel like this is all stemming from his fiancé.

TRIGGER: Mention of recurrent loss and current success.

What should my next steps be?

In November 2024, a week before Thanksgiving, my husband and I experienced our first miscarriage after seeing the baby with a heartbeat. We were devastated. I had a really hard time with it. We didn’t have the greatest support from either of our families. They simply just couldn’t understand the level of grief that comes along with it having not experienced it. We ended up not doing anything for the holidays and just staying home together. It was too much to try and put on a happy face for everyone. Fast forward to New Years Day, my family asked us to come out and go to Trivia Night at a local bar we usually go to. I mustered up the strength to go, but am now wishing I hadn’t.

Anyway - we’re all sitting at our table and my nephew (21 at the time - we’re only 10 years apart so we’ve always been more like siblings) was complaining to his Dad about having to pay for gas and for an oil change in the brand new Jeep Wrangler his parents had bought him. I chimed in and said “your dad handed you a jeep and you’re really going to complain?”

In the moment I knew it was incredibly uncalled for. He’s just a kid and honestly was jokingly complaining to his Dad about it. I was still in an incredibly dark place and also allowed myself to drink, which I wish I hadn’t. I took out my anger towards the world on someone who absolutely didn’t deserve it. No one other than my sister knew what we had just gone through, so my nephew was a little confused as to why I went at him like that. We left shortly after.

The next day I reached out to him and apologized up and down. I did let him know about what we were going through but emphasized that by no means is it an excuse at to have treated him the way I did. I only shared to offer a context as to why I’m so off lately and allowed myself to get to that point and lash out.

My nephew has always been a compassionate kid and understood. He accepted my apology. I still felt horrible but felt good knowing he was somewhat understanding and wasn’t going to hold this against me.

My husband and I experienced 2 more miscarriages throughout the next year. We spent our year going from doctor to doctor, spending thousands of dollars trying to figure out what was going on and why this kept happening to us. We really didn’t spend any time with anyone. I basically went to work and stayed at home. I was not the same person I had been before. We avoided any social situation like the plague, so I hadn’t seen my family at all.

My nephew and I texted here and there throughout the year - all positive stuff.

Come October - I learned he and his girlfriend got engaged. I reached out and congratulated him and he said thanks. I was talking with my sister and asked her if they had decided on a date yet and she was being really weird. Eventually she told me that they didn’t plan on inviting me because they were still upset about trivia night.

I was literally shocked. For almost 10 months, I thought everything was good. We had had conversations since then and all was good. I was invited to their house warming party 2 months after trivia night - I couldn’t go through because I was in the hospital with my 2nd miscarriage.

I reached out to my nephew and asked about it. He replied “you know me, I have no problem with anyone or anything and don’t like drama. Let me get back to you on my next day off”.

It made me feel instant relief. But that lasted only for a few days. He ended up texting me and was very kind and respectful, but said that he and his fiancé had felt disrespected by me and they didn’t want someone like that at their wedding. I begged and pelted for a chance to meet up in person to talk through this more, because other than trivia night (which I was already forgiven for) there literally wasn’t anything else I could think of to where I disrespected them.

After some back and forth, he eventually stopped responding to me. Neither his parents understood what was going on because they all knew we had talked after trivia night and that he had accepted my apology. They kept saying it was his fiancé being controlling (she was there at trivia night but I never said anything directly to her). Granted, I would be upset too if someone spoke to my partner the way I had to hers. So I reached out to her and let her know how sorry I was for overlooking her when I reached out to my nephew and apologized. I had assumed he told her what was going on in our lives at the time but reiterated that I wasn’t using it as an excuse, just offering context as to why I was the way I was that night.

She responded so aggressively. She told me that me offering the context seemed like I was making an excuse and that she had lost her step father and never lashed out on anyway so didn’t see why that made it okay that I did. I reiterated that it wasn’t okay that I did, but then also shared losing a child is an extremely painful. She offered no empathy, sympathy, or compassion, and basically just said I had disrespected both of them. She then proceeded to tell me that they were told by multiple family members that over the summer and family gatherings (even though I didn’t attend any) I was overheard making fun of my nephew for being a “bad cop”. He had just became a city cop a few months back. I have always been proud of my nephew and his number one supporter. I never in a million years would have thought that let alone say it. I told her I was incredibly thrown off and confused by this because a) I was never around my family that summer and b) I had never said anything remotely like that. She dug her heels in and wouldn’t budge or tell me who said it.

I reached out to my nephew again to let him know that I never said that and never would say that. I again asked if he and I could sit down in person to talk through this - because if he didn’t want me at his wedding for something I did, okay fine, but for something that never even happened? I had a hard time settling with that. He never responded.

I eventually reached out to my sister, her husband, and my niece to ask them all who/what was said. My niece finally admitted that she’s the one who told them I said my nephew was a “piece of shit cop” but that she had misunderstood me saying something once and let them know she relayed the wrong information. I asked her what on earth did she hear me saying that was remotely negative and she said before the holidays I had mentioned that “I couldn’t picture my baby nephew doing that”…..ok? Yes I 100% said that - and the context was after how he had to wrestle some crackhead who jumped out of a dumpster at him and his partner while on night shift. I changed this boys diapers - no, I can’t picture him wrestling with some guy behind Walgreens. I am baffled how that was translated into “he’s a piece of shit cop”. I let my niece know that I was incredibly upset that she had done/said these things. She said sorry but I don’t really feel any remorse there.

So - I message my fiancés girlfriend again with the screenshots of my niece admitting that she relayed false information, even though my niece told me she also told them that. I asked - “now that we know that this information was false, can we all please be adults and come to the table tot all about things? I don’t want my relationship with my nephew to be strained over lies”

She then aggressively responded again - letting me know that it wasn’t strained over lies, it was strained over my actions, and that I would not be coming to the wedding because he doesn’t want me there. The last thing I said to her was that she lacked empathy and compassion and that if she and my nephew experience anything remotely like what my husband and I have, that I pray people offer her more compassion. She never responded.

Called my sister sobbing who has been on my side this whole time, and then suddenly her views flipped. She had thrown in my face that “I attacked her son at trivia night” and now that I had “attacked her daughter over text” - didn’t realize asking clarifying questions and letting someone know they had hurt you was an attack, but okay. She then also said my nephew is upset because I called his fiancé “unempathetic”. My sister then said that she no longer wanted to be in the middle and that my nephew told her he would reach out to me to schedule a time to sit down in person to talk about this after Christmas 2025.

Well - it’s now May 2026 and I haven’t heard from him. Their wedding is next month - I’ve already accepted I won’t be attending. Even if I was invited now, I don’t know that I could attend.

My question is what to I do? Do I just let my relationship with my nephew be over or do I keep fighting for him/lettig him know that I care? I strongly feel that deep down - he knows this is wrong but is doing what he thinks is the right thing to do in supporting his future wife who clearly doesn’t want me there. Again - if there was a legit reason for our relationship to be this way, I think I could accept it and move on, but it just seems like the bar keeps moving and that our relationship has ended over lies and things that never happened.

I’m so sorry this is so long but I needed to share all of the pieces. My husband and I have lost 3 babies and now I’ve also lost my family. We finally have had success - I’m 26W pregnant with a baby girl, and I’m conflicted - my heart breaks that she won’t have any family on my side but then again, I feel the need to protect her from people who do this stuff to their own family in a horrible time of need/grief.

I don’t want coddling or validation - I want some honest, truthful, advice on what I should do moving forward. Do I move on?

TLDR: MISCARRIAGE. Not invited to nephews wedding after “lies” being told about things I said about him and he has been unwilling to meet with me. Has impacted my relationship with my whole family. I’m not one to point fingers at the girlfriend but I really do feel like this is all stemming from his fiancé.

Any NYS teachers (NYC is its own entity, not really referring to NYC) go out on maternity leave and lose your health insurance after the 60 days of FMLA were up?

My district allows us to continuing paying our normal cost for the 60 days, then after that we have to pay the full premium (which is like $2400/month)

I’m due over the summer so I’ll have my insurance for labor & delivery, so primarily asking for postnatal care.

Can I apply for Medicaid after my 60 days of FMLA are up? Do we qualify for Medicaid? Did Medicaid cover your postnatal care and baby’s needs/appointments?