Staying out late with random people
I am in a FF relationship we have bene dating for 3 years now. She is a 36/F snd I am 37/F. My girlfriend went out with her cousin and after visiting a few bars at last call they start talking to random people and her cousin liked one of the guys she said it was 3 guys and they decided to go to one of the guys house. They dodnt know them. Just met them. She called me at 2 am drunk saying she loves me and if not where she at she doesn’t want to be and she sounded drunk. Then i wake up at 6am and check her location and she not home. I call her and she answer and she is being evasive when i ask where she is and then i just ask who she is with and she says s group of people. So i hang up tell her to have fun. Then she text me the host is nice and is into bondage. Then sends pictures of the bondage toys. She said he just had it out very respectfully nothing sexual about it. She calls me at 7am when she finally gets home and she is supposed to work at 10am. I told her i didnt like her behavior and that this type of behavior will cause mistrust. She says she doesnt understand how it is creates mistrust or how it is disrespectful to our relationship. I dont know how to explain myself or am I over reacting? She does see it as disrespect and doesnt see why this creates mistrust. She says she was only hanging out and was having a really good time and doesnt see why thats a problem. I wanna understand her point of view but i am having a hard time doing that. Her behavior is concerning and she had gastric-bypass and shouldnt drink as much as she does. She goes out often to the bars and each time we hang she always wants to get a drink at the bar. When we go out she gets sick and we have to go home but when she is with others she stays out hanging out and gets home late.