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A client disclosed severe domestic violence in a reading last night. I directed her to various resources for DV help (advocates, therapists, people who can help her make a safer plan to leave should she choose to do so), but I am so shaken & concerned. she is scared to leave because he has told her he would **** her.

for readers with similar experiences, what did you do? for your client & even yourself afterwards.

she told me things that sent off every alarm bell. I am scared for her life. but if I called DSS (there are kids who have witnessed the abuse) I fear it would escalate, given things he’s told her. she is talking about leaving & beginning to take steps, but my brain is just spinning. I told her not to pay me - to take the money to leave but she paid.

what to do?

I’ve had several clients lately who are disclosing abuse - from emotional to physical. I want to be as prepared and as helpful as possible, & give them the right resources - but what some of these clients need is a police officer not a tarot reader 😞

Hi, my child is 3.5 and will be getting swim lessons around water safety this summer but I don't know how thorough they will actually be. (we live in an area where things like ISR are not available).

Anyway, my question is - if I take her to a lake or river and she's always in my arms or within arms reach if we are standing in the water, does she need to have on a life jacket?

When I've googled it, it keeps saying that she absolutely needs a life jacket at a lake - but we won't be boating, rafting, etc. We'd be the shore, in shallow water, and she'd either be in my arms or right next to me. But Google says the issue is sudden drop offs. And I see differing opinions from parents online.

What is the best protocol? I feel more nervous about rivers because of currents - so maybe I just get her a life jacket but I also see people say "wear them around the open body of water but not in them because it gives them a false sense of security."

Please help me understand the ins and outs and what is actually the right thing to do.

Thank you in advance.

For those of you who really feel the weight of being the only one responsible for your aging parents, what could they have done differently (outside of having another child) that could have lightened your load? saved more money for retirement, been willing to go into a home, told you to go live your life & not worry about them? What would help? what weighs on you the most that could have been prevented by better planning?

I ask as someone who is considering having more than one child, but am really wanting / needing to weigh that out. I want whatever is best for my child, and what helps us all thrive. Lots of complicating factors at play, so I want to consider everything I can.

In that same vein, what would helped you feel less lonely as an only child? or anything else that you feel is relevant ?

I grew up with siblings but for a variety of reasons (too many to include in a short post), I never felt the companionship of a sibling - my sister, for one, is actively undermining.

but then I dream of some idyllic relationship between my child and her (for right now) imaginary sibling & imagine all that it could do for her to have another child around etc

that said, I would like to know what COULD make a life better for an only child if we choose to go that route. thank you in advance - I really appreciate the feedback. 🩷

EDITING to add that I’m asking this after seeing posts on this sub from people wishing they had siblings / help with care as their parents age, etc. - not my automatic assumptions about the life of any only child. (I’m inclined to have only one & my partner is inclined to have two, if we can.)

I'm probably overthinking this but having a hard time knowing what to do for a bike for my 3.5 year old (17 in inseam). 12 inch? 14 inch?Cheap balance bike? Light bike with pedals taken off? What did you do that worked well? This is her first time on a bike but my guess is she'll learn quickly. I don't want to spend a fortune (nothing available in used listings in our area) but also don't want something so cheap it's badly made or unsafe. Any advice or recs are so appreciated! Thank you!

I'm probably overthinking this but having a hard time knowing what to do for a bike for my 3.5 year old (17 in inseam). 12 inch? 14 inch?Cheap balance bike? Light bike with pedals taken off? What did you do that worked well? This is her first time on a bike but my guess is she'll learn quickly. I don't want to spend a fortune (nothing available in used listings in our area) but also don't want something so cheap it's badly made or unsafe. Any advice is welcome! Thank you!