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I'm an overly obsessed kind of girlfriend.

Like I said, I am overly obsessed with my boyfriend.

I have all his Gmail accounts logged into my phone, along with his Snapchat account, Instagram account—basically everything. I constantly ask him to screen share, check his activity, location, and whereabouts. I don't know what to do with myself anymore.

We have been together for two years now, and I have never caught him talking to any girl, following any girl, or even liking a girl's post. He has no female friends. In fact, he barely has any male friends either.

I was never like this in any of my previous relationships, but those were all casual. During the first year of our relationship, I was never like this. I never used to call him constantly or ask about his whereabouts. I simply didn't care that much. But now I am the complete opposite version of myself.

During the second year of our relationship, I moved to a completely new city and started living alone. After that, I slowly became obsessed with my boyfriend's whereabouts. There was a reason for that. I found out that he had another Instagram account. It was an old account that he had logged into, and I discovered it unexpectedly. After that, my trust was completely shattered.

In the second year of our relationship, I also found out many things about him that he had kept hidden from me. At that time, I had no one to rely on. He was my first love and my first serious relationship. I don't know what happened to me during that year, but I became completely emotionally dependent on him. I had no one else there.

I thought this behavior would change after I returned home, but nothing changed. In fact, I might have become even more toxic.

My relationship is on the verge of breaking apart. Every slight change in his behavior or tone gives me anxiety. We fight regularly. But I just can't seem to help it.

He's scared of me now. When he goes out, he feels like he has to ask for my permission. If he wants to hang out with someone, he asks for my approval first. I know it's suffocating for him, and I don't want him to live in constant fear and pressure because of me.

During the first year of our relationship, I was never insecure. I minded my own business and focused on my own life. But now my only hobby seems to be checking up on him.

I have set specific times during which he has to call me, and when he doesn't, I have terrible mental breakdowns that lead to huge fights. I have punished him numerous times by making him do 100 sit-ups, push-ups, and sometimes even making him hurt himself.

I have destroyed everything.

I can't control my anger.

His family hates me. I have punished him for that too because, at the time, I felt like he never stood up for me. Many of our fights have been about his family, and those conflicts have damaged our relationship even further.

In just one year, our relationship has gone from being happy and healthy to being toxic. I have made many mistakes in this relationship. Despite everything, he has never punished me or even sworn at me. But I have done all of those things to him, sometimes even over small mistakes, such as not calling at the exact time I had set.

Now, even when I cry, he doesn't seem to care anymore.

But I really want this relationship to work. I know I have been terrible, but I genuinely want to change. I have tried many times to change myself, but I don't know what else to do.

I constantly struggle with anxiety, insecurity, and overthinking. I have even tried to harm myself.

I don't want to keep hurting him. I don't want to keep living like this either. I just want to become the person I used to be and build a healthy relationship before it's too late.

I'm an overly obsessed kind of girlfriend, and I genuinely want to change.

My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. During the first year of our relationship, I was completely different. I wasn't clingy, controlling, or constantly worried about what he was doing. I had my own life, my own interests, and I trusted him.

Things changed during our second year together when I moved to a completely new city and started living alone. Around that time, I discovered some things he had never told me before, including an old Instagram account I didn't know existed. It might not seem like a big deal, but it affected my trust more than I realized.

At the same time, he was my first love and my first serious relationship, and I had no real support system around me. I slowly became emotionally dependent on him. Since then, I've become obsessed with his whereabouts, his activity, and even small changes in his behavior.

The problem is that he has never actually given me a reason to think he's being unfaithful. In two years, I've never caught him talking to other girls, flirting, or doing anything inappropriate. Yet I still overthink everything.

A slight change in his tone can ruin my entire day. If he doesn't call when I expect him to, I become anxious and start imagining the worst. We end up fighting regularly because of my insecurities and need for reassurance.

I know I've become controlling. I know I've made him feel pressured and watched. I know that's unfair. Looking back, I barely recognize myself compared to who I was during our first year together.

Our relationship has gone from being happy and easy to feeling tense and exhausting for both of us. His family dislikes me, we argue frequently, and I can tell he's emotionally drained.

The worst part is that I don't want to be this person. I've tried many times to change, but I always end up falling back into the same patterns of anxiety, overthinking, and emotional dependence.

Has anyone else gone from being secure in a relationship to becoming extremely anxious and obsessive? How did you break that cycle and regain your sense of self?

I'm an overly obsessed kind of girlfriend, and I genuinely want to change.

My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. During the first year of our relationship, I was completely different. I wasn't clingy, controlling, or constantly worried about what he was doing. I had my own life, my own interests, and I trusted him.

Things changed during our second year together when I moved to a completely new city and started living alone. Around that time, I discovered some things he had never told me before, including an old Instagram account I didn't know existed. It might not seem like a big deal, but it affected my trust more than I realized.

At the same time, he was my first love and my first serious relationship, and I had no real support system around me. I slowly became emotionally dependent on him. Since then, I've become obsessed with his whereabouts, his activity, and even small changes in his behavior.

The problem is that he has never actually given me a reason to think he's being unfaithful. In two years, I've never caught him talking to other girls, flirting, or doing anything inappropriate. Yet I still overthink everything.

A slight change in his tone can ruin my entire day. If he doesn't call when I expect him to, I become anxious and start imagining the worst. We end up fighting regularly because of my insecurities and need for reassurance.

I know I've become controlling. I know I've made him feel pressured and watched. I know that's unfair. Looking back, I barely recognize myself compared to who I was during our first year together.

Our relationship has gone from being happy and easy to feeling tense and exhausting for both of us. His family dislikes me, we argue frequently, and I can tell he's emotionally drained.

The worst part is that I don't want to be this person. I've tried many times to change, but I always end up falling back into the same patterns of anxiety, overthinking, and emotional dependence.

Has anyone else gone from being secure in a relationship to becoming extremely anxious and obsessive? How did you break that cycle and regain your sense of self?

I'm an overly obsessed kind of girlfriend.

Like I said, I am overly obsessed with my boyfriend.

I have all his Gmail accounts logged into my phone, along with his Snapchat account, Instagram account—basically everything. I constantly ask him to screen share, check his activity, location, and whereabouts. I don't know what to do with myself anymore.

We have been together for two years now, and I have never caught him talking to any girl, following any girl, or even liking a girl's post. He has no female friends. In fact, he barely has any male friends either.

I was never like this in any of my previous relationships, but those were all casual. During the first year of our relationship, I was never like this. I never used to call him constantly or ask about his whereabouts. I simply didn't care that much. But now I am the complete opposite version of myself.

During the second year of our relationship, I moved to a completely new city and started living alone. After that, I slowly became obsessed with my boyfriend's whereabouts. There was a reason for that. I found out that he had another Instagram account. It was an old account that he had logged into, and I discovered it unexpectedly. After that, my trust was completely shattered.

In the second year of our relationship, I also found out many things about him that he had kept hidden from me. At that time, I had no one to rely on. He was my first love and my first serious relationship. I don't know what happened to me during that year, but I became completely emotionally dependent on him. I had no one else there.

I thought this behavior would change after I returned home, but nothing changed. In fact, I might have become even more toxic.

My relationship is on the verge of breaking apart. Every slight change in his behavior or tone gives me anxiety. We fight regularly. But I just can't seem to help it.

He's scared of me now. When he goes out, he feels like he has to ask for my permission. If he wants to hang out with someone, he asks for my approval first. I know it's suffocating for him, and I don't want him to live in constant fear and pressure because of me.

During the first year of our relationship, I was never insecure. I minded my own business and focused on my own life. But now my only hobby seems to be checking up on him.

I have set specific times during which he has to call me, and when he doesn't, I have terrible mental breakdowns that lead to huge fights. I have punished him numerous times by making him do 100 sit-ups, push-ups, and sometimes even making him hurt himself.

I have destroyed everything.

I can't control my anger.

His family hates me. I have punished him for that too because, at the time, I felt like he never stood up for me. Many of our fights have been about his family, and those conflicts have damaged our relationship even further.

In just one year, our relationship has gone from being happy and healthy to being toxic. I have made many mistakes in this relationship. Despite everything, he has never punished me or even sworn at me. But I have done all of those things to him, sometimes even over small mistakes, such as not calling at the exact time I had set.

Now, even when I cry, he doesn't seem to care anymore.

But I really want this relationship to work. I know I have been terrible, but I genuinely want to change. I have tried many times to change myself, but I don't know what else to do.

I constantly struggle with anxiety, insecurity, and overthinking. I have even tried to harm myself.

I don't want to keep hurting him. I don't want to keep living like this either. I just want to become the person I used to be and build a healthy relationship before it's too late.

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