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My girlfriend and I have been together for seven years. Most of the time she is intelligent, ambitious, caring and completely normal with me. She is a high achiever who has worked extremely hard, but she carries a lot of disappointment and resentment about her life. She feels that despite deserving and working for better things, she hasn't received the opportunities, recognition or stability she expected. Her family also body-shames her and often fails to recognize her efforts. She is living abroad and feels very alone.

Our relationship has become another source of disappointment. I promised her years ago that I would become settled and financially stable so we could build our future together. I moved abroad for my master's three years ago but still haven't secured the stable full-time job I expected. She feels betrayed by this and worries that she has spent seven years waiting for a future that isn't happening. She also felt deeply unsupported when her friends repeatedly mocked her about our relationship and I didn't defend her enough. I recognize these failures and don't want to portray myself as a perfect boyfriend.

The problem is that roughly every couple of months, she has an extreme episode. She screams and curses at me, calls me ugly, poor and a failure, says I don't deserve her, says she hates me and my family and blames us for her unhappiness. She says she wants to break up but doesn't actually leave. When extremely angry, she throws or breaks things. Sometimes she scratches herself when overwhelmed.

I initially try to stay calm, reassure her or explain myself, but the shouting can continue until I eventually break down and shout back. I know shouting back isn't healthy and take responsibility for it.

The confusing part is what happens afterward. Once the episode passes, she becomes completely normal again. She recognizes that she went too far, genuinely apologizes and regrets hurting me. We communicate normally and can be very happy together. But despite her apologies, the cycle has continued for years.

That's why I struggle to simply see her as a horrible or abusive person. I see someone carrying enormous loneliness, anger, disappointment and insecurity who seems unable to control herself once she becomes overwhelmed. At the same time, I realize that understanding why someone behaves this way doesn't mean I should accept being repeatedly degraded or having things broken around me.

I don't want to diagnose her, but I'm wondering whether this could be severe emotional dysregulation or something that requires professional help. Because self-harm is involved, I think she needs professional support. She recognizes that her behaviour is wrong when she's calm, which makes me wonder whether therapy could actually help her break this cycle.

I love her and seven years together makes walking away extremely difficult. But I'm also scared that marriage, financial problems, children or other future stresses could make this much worse if nothing changes.

Has anyone experienced this either as the person having these episodes or as their partner? Did therapy actually help? How do I support her without becoming responsible for managing her emotions?

Hi everyone,

I'm 26 years old and I'm trying to understand whether this is just an early period or something I should get checked.

My last period started on July 5 and ended on July 11. It was a normal period for me, although the flow was mostly medium to light throughout.

Today (July 27), I started bleeding again, so it's only about 22 days since the start of my last period.

The bleeding is confusing:

• It's more than spotting because I had to buy and wear a pad.
• The blood is light pink to red.
• It's continuing and showing up on the pad and when I wipe.
• However, it's much lighter than my usual Day 1 period.
• I also have mild period-like cramps and feel tired.

This is the first time this has ever happened.

The only major changes this month are that I've been exercising much more consistently (around 7 of the last 10 days, including heavy lower-body strength training) and eating a much healthier, higher-protein diet (lots of chicken salads and protein-rich meals). I've also been eating sesame seed sweet balls fairly regularly.

I'm not sexually active, so pregnancy isn't a possibility.

Has anyone experienced a shorter cycle like this after making lifestyle changes? Did it turn out to be an actual early period, breakthrough bleeding, or something else? Did your cycle return to normal afterward?

Thanks in advance!

Hi everyone,

I'm 26 years old and I'm trying to understand whether this is just an early period or something I should get checked.

My last period started on July 5 and ended on July 11. It was a normal period for me, although the flow was mostly medium to light throughout.

Today (July 27), I started bleeding again, so it's only about 22 days since the start of my last period.

The bleeding is confusing:

• It's more than spotting because I had to buy and wear a pad.
• The blood is light pink to red.
• It's continuing and showing up on the pad and when I wipe.
• However, it's much lighter than my usual Day 1 period.
• I also have mild period-like cramps and feel tired.

This is the first time this has ever happened.

The only major changes this month are that I've been exercising much more consistently (around 7 of the last 10 days, including heavy lower-body strength training) and eating a much healthier, higher-protein diet (lots of chicken salads and protein-rich meals). I've also been eating sesame seed sweet balls fairly regularly.

I'm not sexually active, so pregnancy isn't a possibility.

Has anyone experienced a shorter cycle like this after making lifestyle changes? Did it turn out to be an actual early period, breakthrough bleeding, or something else? Did your cycle return to normal afterward?

Thanks in advance!

Hi everyone,

I'm 26 years old and I'm trying to understand whether this is just an early period or something I should get checked.

My last period started on July 5 and ended on July 11. It was a normal period for me, although the flow was mostly medium to light throughout.

Today (July 27), I started bleeding again, so it's only about 22 days since the start of my last period.

The bleeding is confusing:

• It's more than spotting because I had to buy and wear a pad.
• The blood is light pink to red.
• It's continuing and showing up on the pad and when I wipe.
• However, it's much lighter than my usual Day 1 period.
• I also have mild period-like cramps and feel tired.

This is the first time this has ever happened.

The only major changes this month are that I've been exercising much more consistently (around 7 of the last 10 days, including heavy lower-body strength training) and eating a much healthier, higher-protein diet (lots of chicken salads and protein-rich meals). I've also been eating sesame seed sweet balls fairly regularly.

I'm not sexually active, so pregnancy isn't a possibility.

Has anyone experienced a shorter cycle like this after making lifestyle changes? Did it turn out to be an actual early period, breakthrough bleeding, or something else? Did your cycle return to normal afterward?

Thanks in advance!

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I feel like I'm being pulled in two different directions. On one hand, I've been with my boyfriend for 7 years and I've invested a significant part of my life in this relationship. We've talked about our future together, and he has always told me that he wants to improve his financial situation, build a stable career, and work on himself before taking the next step toward marriage. I believed in him and agreed to be patient.

On the other hand, my parents have become increasingly focused on my age, marriage, and future. Since I'm close to finishing my master's degree and will likely start working soon, the pressure from them has intensified. The constant questions, comparisons, and expectations are making me anxious and emotionally exhausted.

What makes this even harder is that there is a noticeable difference in financial background between our families. I'm afraid that if I tell my parents everything, they will focus on his current situation rather than his potential. I worry they will question why I've stayed in the relationship for so long, criticize my judgment, compare him to other potential partners, and make comments about his appearance, financial status, or whether he is a suitable match for me. Those comments would be deeply hurtful both to me and to him.

At the same time, keeping everything to myself is becoming increasingly difficult. I don't know how to manage my family's expectations while also being supportive of my partner as he tries to establish his career. The uncertainty of not knowing when things will fall into place is making me feel stressed, guilty, and confused.

For those who have been in long-term relationships where family expectations, financial differences, or career timelines created tension, how did you navigate those challenges? How did you communicate with your family while protecting your relationship, and what helped you determine whether waiting for your partner's future plans was the right decision for you?