u/Own_Refrigerator_714

“Here I am again
Waiting for a call
This time it ain't coming
And I know I'm gonna walk
Back to her again
Waiting for a lie
Waiting for another one
Another way to waste my time

Even though I do not care
I wish that I would have you here
I wish that I could still believe
The love that once you gave to me
Even though I am alright
I wish I didn't see the light
The best thing I could ever find
The worst thing I would ever find”

Even though I’m okay with the breakup, I miss her sometimes and I wish she was here with me… but now I’m nobody for her…

My ex GF (first love) broke up with me two months ago ago and I just went through two of the worst months of my life but I’m starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Now I’m not just sad anymore, just a bit nostalgic and deceived but I’m focused on what’s coming more than looking at my past with regrets.

I know I did mistakes in this relationship and the breakup was probably a good thing. Things were becoming unhealthy and we just couldn’t keep it like that.

That’s why now Ive decided to focus on myself and to try to become a better person on all aspects of my life. Make new friends, learn new skills, develop my passions and be overall a better guy.

I still want her, but not for the good reasons, I miss her because she brought security and comfort and not because I admired her talents or qualities.

I will probably see her again cause we’re in the same friend group and we have all of our closests in common but for now and during an undetermined amount of time, I told my friends that I won’t be able to see her and most of them understood.

This was complicated because during the denial phase I told everyone that we were still friends but I knew it would be impossible and I recently learned she’s now loving one of my best friends so I told them I just can’t, I cancelled our parties together and the group vacation.

I know I made the right decision, but I also know that if it appears I had deeper reasons to still love her, being far from her and improving myself is the only way I can hypothetically get her back cause she definitely doesn’t want me back the way I am now and same goes for me with her.

Love always triumphs, time heals the deepest wounds.

Bonsoir à tous,

Je vais essayer d’être le plus clair possible dans le contexte. Mon premier amour, avec qui j’ai été pendant 2 ans m’a larguée il y a 2 mois.

À mon sens, j’assume que j’ai commis des erreurs et que même si elle également et que notre relation était devenue difficile, soyons clair, je m’en veux beaucoup car je l’aime encore.

Ma mentalité, c’est de lui souhaiter le meilleur, mais je pensais que la rupture se passerait assez bien.

Elle habite à Paris pour ses études, moi à Rennes. Nous avons tenu ma deuxième annee de notre couple à distance comme ça et elle m’a quitté après. Elle etait déjà devenue très distante (peut être juste une impression je suis très sensible) et c’était difficile pour moi car elle communiquait peu.

Nous faisions partie du même groupe d’amis, dont deux de mes potes gars étaient également à Paris (deux très bons amis). Comme elle avait un assez grand appartement, ils passaient beaucoup de temps chez elle.

Deux mois après la rupture, j’apprends qu’elle est amoureuse d’un de ces deux gars qu’elle voit tout le temps. Il est gêné par rapport à moi et c’est compliqué pour lui, mais cela me fait me poser des questions sur elle.

Depuis notre rupture, elle a d’abord fait des choses étranges comme des stories TikTok (elle en faisait jamais) ou encore revenir vers moi assez aléatoirement (je traversais une période de déni post rupture et je n’ai pas été clair sur le fait que redevenir amis pourquoi pas, mais pas tout de suite).

Désormais elle dit être amoureuse de mon pote, leur amitié est très exclusive et peut être confond elle cela avec un sentiment amoureux.

Qu’en pensez vous ?

P.S. : j’ai également pensé qu’elle aurait pu être amoureuse de lui avant notre rupture mais elle m’a garanti qu’elle m’avait quitté a contrecœur et qu’elle m’aimait encore.

P.P.S. : ça me fait chier parce que ça abîme mon groupe d’amis et que j’aimerais changer pour la rendre amoureuse à nouveau. (Qu’en pensez vous aussi ?)

Hey everybody, I’m new to this sub so I don’t know if my flair is the right one, but I want to share a story with yall

My first love who I would have given everything left me almost 2 month ago and since then my life is an absolute roller coaster of highs and lows…

Since we share the same friend group, I know I’ll see her again soon and spend a lot of time with her, but I know I’ll need to be distant.

This post is not to tell you that story, you can go see my other posts on r/breakups if you’re interested

I just want to say the only thing that really cheers me up besides all my close ones can say or do for me is my guitar.

I carry it almost everywhere and I love playing and learning songs, for me, for people, cause I also sing.

I know it’s here when I’m alone, I know it’s here when I’m sad, I know it’s here when I need it, I know it will be here when I’ll see her again and I’ll need to use it to keep my distances.

Just to say, this object is not just an instrument, it’s a whole extension of your soul, and really can be life saving in the worst moments of your life.

Sorry for the grammatical or syntax mistakes, I’m not native English speaker.

Have a great evening.

My ex left me by phone after a long moment of thinking it was not possible between us, we had been together for two years. I agreed with her on this point, but I spent a moment with her irl two days after the breakup.

I was hoping to find someone emotional, we would talk with passion about our past together and decide what we wanted to do of what still binds us together, but that wasn’t the case.

She was dry like a wall and I was sobbing, and nothing seemed to make her realise the value I gave to our time together.

Since then she’s been acting like she never loved me and said we could be friends if that is important to me, imo she’s scared of facing our past (either that would make her sad or fall back again for me)

What hurts more is that all my best friends are hers since we built our friend group around our relationship.

I just want her to fall back again for me one last time so we can have this conversation we never had and both fully move on.

We will spend the majority of our holiday together, so do you think this can happen ?

I don’t understand your behavior. To me, you should either still be angry with me because of the breakup, or you should have left me for practical reasons while still caring about me at least a little. In either case, I don’t think you should still be talking to me. You should need some distance from me, and from everything that reminds you of us…
But instead, all you’re showing me is that you seem to not care at all—not about the bond we had, not about our memories together, not even about the traces of our love that are still there. I don’t understand your behavior, and it leaves me confused.
On top of that, I’m afraid of falling in love with you again. I still think about you far too often—about everything we never got to do, everything I missed, everything I got wrong…
I also keep thinking about the fact that you’ve never apologized since we broke up, as if I were the only one responsible. It feels like you’ve never really questioned your own actions.
Yes, I need distance. Yes, I’d like us to become friends again one day, but I know I’d always be thinking about the love we shared—a love that will never lead anywhere.
Yes, I’d like you to love me again, but I don’t even know if I would get back together with you.
Yes, you tell me you’re certain nothing will ever happen between us again, and that hurts my pride. But the future has a way of surprising us with things we could never have imagined.
Yes, your anger toward me makes me unhappy—but so does your friendship.
Yes, I’m hurting.
I genuinely believe that one day I’ll meet a girl who will love me better than you did, someone who will truly help me move on. But the memory of you will always stay with me, along with, most likely, a few regrets.
I loved you.

Edit : this was sent to r/unsenttexts but I have the feeling it is appropriated for this sub

She broke up with me almost two month ago and since this day she’s acting like everything is perfect for her, she doesn’t seem bothered with breaking up with me and is trying to stay friends (I want to but she just doesn’t care about it). She’s angry at me at the moment because of several discussions where I told her things she didn’t like tho I didn’t want to annoy her.

Broke up a month and a half ago, right after she wanted us to stay friends but like she has no problem at all with this… me and all my friends thinks feel like she never misses me or is sad even a little bit and that confuses me because we were together 2 years and lived a lot of things together… how do y’all feel about that ? I can give you precisions if you’re interested (yes that makes me sad sometimes to think she doesn’t care about me anymore)

I don’t think she will but if she does i know I’m gonna suffer…