u/P0STBAL0NEY

This is a question for those who took action to get better. My ex is BPD and an FA. We share 2 young children.

I am curious to know from those who successfully (or are in the process) healed, and what it took for you to make a change?

I have spent months in therapy learning to enforce boundaries and my own patterns. 5 weeks ago I had to block her/ keep contact strictly to the kids and only when absolutely necessary, as she rebounded & blew up years of sobriety but kept me emotionally hooked the entire time, blaming my mistakes from the relationship as an excuse that she “needs time to decide”. It became unbearable to witness the destruction while keeping me in limbo and avoiding getting help. After blocking her, she went back to therapy and working with a sponsor but idk if it’s just to “check a box” - she still hasn’t dumped the guy she’s been clowning for months. And she has repeatedly tried to get me to unblock her in manipulative ways.

What did it take for you to take getting help seriously?

PS - I fully understand i cannot get back together with her, right now at least. But she’s the mother of my children and I do care about her.

I am brand new to gaming PCs and i’ve always wanted to play Arma since watching Jackfrags on youtube. I finally have a gaming PC and i’m ngl, i have no idea what to do.

units? DLCs? what do i even do? how do i play?

i’m so sorry i know this is a dumb question but i am genuinely clueless right now