u/Picklesticks16

Welcome to the bi-weekly megathread, created following the establishment of Rule 5 - Dating Posts.

Keep the discussions respectful and relevant - this is not a dating service. This is also not just for generic dating advice for non-med relationships; at least one partner should be in a medical field.

This is the first megathread, your patience with the Mod team is appreciated as we navigate this process.

The poll about dating posts has closed. Thank you to all who commented and participated. There were a total of 442 votes cast and a good deal of discussion in the comments. The post has since been locked but will remain available for transparency so you can review the poll thread and results.

The mod team is happy to announce that, following the 5-day poll gathering your input, posts involving dating will be permitted in certain circumstances or situations. Posts outside of the conditions must be kept to the megathread. Any posts not meeting the rules will be removed.

New rule: Dating Posts - Posts regarding behaviours or remarks in potential or brand new relationships, those asking what it's like to date an individual in a medical profession, or those asking for generic dating advice that is not considered "spouse-type" are to be posted in the bi-weekly megathread. Posts unrelated to someone in a medical profession will be removed, and the posters encouraged to use the mega thread, or consider posting in r/MedDating.

Examples of posts that would be removed:

- "I've been talking to a person entering med school (or a new resident) and they do [insert behaviour], is it normal?"

- "What's it like to date/marry a doctor, nurse, or other medical professional?"

- "How can I tell if this person, who's a doctor, likes me?"

- "How can I support my boyfriend through studying for his MCAT?"

Examples of posts that would be allowed to remain as individual posts:

- "My girlfriend is moving away for residency. What are some ways I can keep the long distance relationship strong throughout the upcoming years?"

- "My partner is in residency/fellowship/etc. and we're about to move in together for the first time. What should I expect, and what can I do to make home life good for both of us?"

The mod team recognizes that some community members genuinely enjoy sharing their experience, tips, and advice with new or newer couples. Med spouses know some of the intricacies of maintaining a med relationship, most of which likely would have been helpful early on in their own relationships.

The mod team acknowledges some members are not in favour of dating posts. Simply put: If it's not your type of content, you are under no obligation to interact with an approved post or the megathread.

I'm very excited that in a few weeks, I get to update my user flare; my med partner is finally moving home!!

While I am very excited to finally be living together again, part of me is worried. Having seen their living quarters throughout med school and residency, the level of cleanliness and clutter has been, at times, disturbing. It brings me to question, how is home life divided up for other med couples?

I don't expect it to be 50-50 - relationships are scarcely ever that and instead tend to fluctuate. So I understand that communication will be important. But, I'd love to hear what works for others, and maybe cherry pick some favourites to try out.

Any additional information you're comfortable sharing might help, as well. In our situation, we're both in our early 30's, no children yet, and will be renting an apartment for a little while, which removes the requirement of yard work. I also work full time from an office and will continue to do so. My partner is expected to be working approximately 45 hours per week.

Thanks in advance!

As a follow up to our previous announcement, the new r/MedSpouse mod team is happy to announce that the community is re-opened to a public setting.

We are still refining our processes, so please be patient with us. If you have any issues, you can send a message to the mods, or report a post.

Thanks for your patience with the transition, and for your continued contributions to the community.

The mods would like your opinion.

The mod team recognizes that the definition of "spouse" may vary regionally or based on the context of its use. Not all "spouses" are necessarily married or common-law. Some countries permit civil unions. Some people never get married or move in together, but date for years and call each other their partner, whereas others get married within an extremely short timeframe.

In the past, posts about dating have created division within the community. Some members like to help and share their experiences, while others don't particularly want that content.

The mod team sees both sides of allowing or prohibiting posts about dating and would like your opinion on them.

Keep in mind that if a post isn't your type of content, nothing requires you to engage or respond to it.

Thank you for your participation!

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Background
Recently, Reddit determined that the previous r/MedSpouse mod team was inactive. They launched a mod call for the r/MedSpouse community that lasted approximately 12 days. The community was briefly set by Reddit to a restricted setting during the mod call to limit posting.

Current Situation
A new mod team was selected and notified roughly three hours ago. The community is still restricted temporarily, to give mods a short time to get established. You'll notice that the community might look a little different, as some of the settings were changed in the shuffle.

Moving Forward
Your new mod team is looking forward to re-opening the community very soon. Thank you for your patience as we re-establish this community.

I know that tuition tax credits need to be used on the earner first before they can be transferred. But for the person who earned them, does CRA differentiate between current years versus previously unused that were carried forward for being used first?

Example: I had 10,000 previously unused credits, and in 2025 I accrued another 5,000. Come tax time for 2025 filing, I'd have 15,000 available. If I needed to use 8,000 as an example, could those all come from the previously unused ones, and I transfer the 5,000 from this year to my spouse? Or would I be required to use the 5,000 earned in 2025 first, followed by 3,000 previously unused, and no transfer?