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TW pregnancy loss

I’m a senior associate at an elite boutique litigation firm in a VHCOL city. For 5ish years, have always gotten glowing reviews and my life was pretty dedicated to work. 2 years ago, I had a baby and coming back was rough, my work definitely slipped a bit but reviews stayed very strong. 6 months ago, I had a very bad 3-4 months at work because of a grueling case that involved several last-minute cross country trips, fire drills, surprise filings etc. In the midst of it, I suffered a pregnancy loss that I at least partly blame on myself and the stress/sleepless nights at work. Had to have a procedure and apparently woke up from anesthesia crying not about the pregnancy loss, which devastated me, but about how much I hated my job.

Fast forward to today, and I just feel completely lost on what my next step should be. There are so many things I actually do love about my job, but I can’t stop thinking about leaving. I’ve gotten offers to go in-house and chicken out because of the pay cut, which would require significant lifestyle changes and putting our son in daycare rather than having a nanny. Now I have an offer at an affirmative litigation government job, but have found 100+ reasons that job could suck too. I’ve spent so much time money and effort on my education and building this career and I just feel this nagging sense that all I want is to be home with my children, which, given how I’ve designed my life, I can’t afford. I told a partner I trust that I’m feeling burned out and am considering leaving, and he advised that I go part-time, and stay another year at which point I’ll likely make partner, and I could see if I like that better. If I go that route, I could probably retire early (vs if I take the government job, which is a 65% pay cut).

Not sure what I’m looking for here, but would love to hear if others have similar feelings? Or any advice on finding fulfillment as a lawyer and mom/whether part-time partnership sounds like the move/and what other lawyer jobs people enjoy.

I’m a senior associate at an elite boutique litigation firm in a VHCOL city. For 5ish years, have always gotten glowing reviews and my life was pretty dedicated to work. 2 years ago, I had a baby and coming back was rough, my work definitely slipped a bit but reviews stayed very strong. 6 months ago, I had a very bad 3-4 months at work because of a grueling case that involved several last-minute cross country trips, fire drills, surprise filings etc. In the midst of it, I suffered a pregnancy loss that I at least partly blame on myself and the stress/sleepless nights at work. Had to have a procedure and apparently woke up from anesthesia crying not about the pregnancy loss, which devastated me, but about how much I hated my job.

Fast forward to today, and I just feel completely lost on what my next step should be. There are so many things I actually do love about my job, but I can’t stop thinking about leaving. I’ve gotten offers to go in-house and chicken out because of the pay cut, which would require significant lifestyle changes and putting our son in daycare rather than having a nanny. Now I have an offer at an affirmative litigation government job, but have found 100+ reasons that job could suck too. I’ve spent so much time money and effort on my education and building this career and I just feel this nagging sense that all I want is to be home with my children, which, given how I’ve designed my life, I can’t afford. I told a partner I trust that I’m feeling burned out and am considering leaving, and he advised that I go part-time, and stay another year at which point I’ll likely make partner, and I could see if I like that better. If I go that route, I could probably retire early (vs if I take the government job, which is a 65% pay cut).

Not sure what I’m looking for here, but would love to hear if others have similar feelings? Or any advice on finding fulfillment as a lawyer and mom/whether part-time partnership sounds like the move/and what other lawyer jobs people enjoy.

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