u/Pinkjelliebeans

I'm starting my first semester of my MSW. What are some red flags or some things you wish you knew before you started in regard to your internships?

I don't want to have a relationship with my sister. She acts a lot like my mother, who is a monster in her own ways, and I just can't do it anymore. It's not even like something big happened, it was just another little thing added to the very large list of things and there's just no more space.

Every single time I've tried to distance myself from my sister, she will start crying to relatives I barely speak to and then these relatives will start blowing up my phone telling me I need to talk to my sister. She's so sad, blah blah blah, she doesn't know what she did, shes your sister, blah blah blah. It's extremely manipulative. She's been doing this ever since we were children. She would do something to me and when I would go to talk to my parents about it, she would start crying and my parents would forget all about what I was telling them about and tell me to be nice to my sister.

I can't take it anymore. I legitimately feel like I'm going crazy because I cannot have any type of issue with my sister without her manipulating people in to pulling me back into the bullshit. It's as if my family does not allow me to set this boundary with her.

I know what I have to do, but I'm just tired and venting. I've been spending my entire adulthood building a peaceful and stable life without any of the harmful patterns I've experienced growing up. My sister is that last piece of that pattern that I need to let go, but it's just so hard.