u/Pinkmoonlight12

I’m 37 and my children are 13 yo girl and 11 yo boy. I divorced their dad many years ago and my fiance and I are talking about having a child together. This is my biggest dream. Being a mom is everything I want in life and I love all of it. He (31) doesn’t have kids of his own but would like to with me. All of his concerns about having a baby are so valid. Financially, we wouldn’t be able to get more than a 3 bedroom house to rent. So baby would have to sleep with us for as long as possible. Not the most ideal but it is what it is. Secondly, the state of the world sucks. The world is a madhouse and thinking about adding another child to it makes me feel like I’d be selfish in choosing that.
The age gap concerns me too but I have read so many stories that alleviate that. My children have begged me for the last 6 years for a little sibling. They are so wonderful with babies and kids especially my boy. I know that this baby would be so loved, but by the time my 11 yo goes to college if he chooses, this baby would just be starting elementary school. Essentially they’d be an only child in a lot of ways, and I don’t know if that will be good for them.

My fiance and I both WFH and right now my job is flexible but there’s no guarantee I’ll have it long term (caretaker for a family member). I have another job but the pay varies each month so we don’t have a ton of financial stability at the moment.

I have an autoimmune disease that makes me exhausted all the time and I know those first few years with a baby and toddler are going to be tough.

With my two previous pregnancies and in their baby stages I was completely alone and was like a single mom. I missed out on having a baby with a partner who loves me, and that makes me so sad.

I’m 37 and feel like time is ticking for me. I don’t want to get pregnant at or after 40 quite frankly, I would want to get a move on with this within the next 6 months. I’m overthinking everything, and I just feel so sad knowing this may not happen for me because I’m self aware of everything.

Outside opinions would be helpful. Would you have another?

Let me preface this by saying 6 years ago I was an influencer full-time making about $100,000. When Covid hit I suffered greatly, got burned out, and stopped posting as regularly.
I still post but maybe once a month on YouTube, and a couple times a month on Instagram.

YouTube I have 100,000 subscribers and Instagram I have over 40,000 followers.

I feel like so much has changed in the space and because my numbers aren’t like they used to be I don’t know what I could realistically make if I really put all my eggs in this basket and started pursuing it full time again. One thing that being an influencer completely lacks is consistent paychecks.

In the lifestyle/fashion space! Curious to hear your thoughts especially creators in similar brackets -micro influencer! I have friends with a small fraction of my following making SO MUCH money! I need help!

I have a 13 yo daughter, 11 yo son. I want another baby and partner is on board but we can’t really afford anything more than a 3 bedroom house to rent. If we were to have a baby, the age gap would be so large from my older kids to share rooms so I feel like all three would need their own rooms.

Does anybody have a solution for this? The thought of it is so overwhelming that I’ve actually considered not having another baby, but I feel like I will deeply regret it later in life.

I have a 13 yo daughter, 11 yo son. I want another baby and partner is on board but we can’t really afford anything more than a 3 bedroom house to rent. If we were to have a baby, the age gap would be so large from my older kids to share rooms so I feel like all three would need their own rooms.

Does anybody have a solution for this? The thought of it is so overwhelming that I’ve actually considered not having another baby, but I feel like I will deeply regret it later in life.

I have a 13 yo daughter, 11 yo son. I want another baby and partner is on board but we can’t really afford anything more than a 3 bedroom house to rent. If we were to have a baby, the age gap would be so large from my older kids so I feel like all three would need their own rooms.

Does anybody have a solution for this? The thought of it is so overwhelming that I’ve actually considered not having another, but I feel like I will deeply regret it later in life.

I have a 13 yo daughter, 11 yo son. I want another baby and partner is on board but we can’t really afford anything more than a 3 bedroom house to rent. If we were to have a baby, the age gap would be so large from my older kids so I feel like all three would need their own rooms.

Does anybody have a solution for this? The thought of it is so overwhelming that I’ve actually considered not having another, but I feel like I will deeply regret it later in life.

I have a 13 yo daughter, 11 yo son. I want another baby and partner is on board but we can’t really afford anything more than a 3 bedroom house to rent. If we were to have a baby, the age gap would be so large from my older kids so I feel like all three would need their own rooms.

Does anybody have a solution for this? The thought of it is so overwhelming that I’ve actually considered not having another, but I feel like I will deeply regret it later in life.