u/Popular_Blueberry_95

I know this decision is a deeply personal one. I’m just hoping for some advice and insight from one parent to another, especially moms. My husband and I have 2 girls, 3.5 and 18 months. I, more than him, am very open to the idea of a third. He is also not closed off to the idea but is very content with our two.

Part of me feels like I will always be longing for another or will constantly have the “what ifs” if we don’t. I am truly so torn and beat myself up about this everyday. I will be 31 this year, it’s either now or never honestly. I know people are having children much older these days, but I want to be done. So if we do have another, I’d like to be pregnant soon.

I just want to know how you came to terms with ACTUALLY being done? What did it for you? Did you end up having another and if so, do you regret it? I love my girls so much and I know my youngest would make a great big sis. But at the same time I think I’d be okay with just having the two. I just feel like if I never at least tried for a third, I will never forgive myself and it will haunt me.

When I see pregnancy announcements or people I know who are pregnant, I feel this sad jealousy. I can’t even explain it. It’s like the chapter for me is over and I want to experience it one last time? 😩

Hi everyone. My best friend had her anatomy scan today (2 weeks early because AFP blood work came back abnormal and elevated). Unfortunately, they received a severe spina bifida diagnosis. I didn’t ask many questions. I told her I would give her the space she needs and to know I was here for her and please reach out if she wants to talk.

I don’t even know what her husband and her have decided which route they are going to go, but I think I have a good idea. I just want to know how to be here for her. I have two living children under four years old. I am absolutely heartbroken and devastated for her that she may not get to experience motherhood in a few months like she is supposed to.

I just want to know some things that I could maybe send her in a care package letting her know that I’m here. Any other words of advice would be greatly appreciated. I’m so sorry to all of you that have had to go through this.

EDIT: can someone tell me how to upload a photo? I don’t see the option.

I had a MA in May. Let my guard down and my husband and I had unprotected sex last week not knowing I was 2 days away from ovulating. He did pull out. Please tell me you don’t see a line or anything in either of these. I know it’s still too early to test but in the past with one of my full term pregnancies, I did test positive this early. If I have to go through this again I will literally crash out. I am so nervous.

Just caught up on part 2 of the reunion last night. I just want to know why Kelsey is so obsessed with Rosie. Making fun of her for having a mortgage & construction loan? NORMAL things for a home owner??? That Kelsey would know absolutely nothing about. YAWN. She bores me. I want to like her because I feel like her and Rosie could actually be friends but she makes it really hard.

I had a MA 5/16. Just stopped bleeding last week and hCG came back negative finally after 1.5 months. I had unprotected sex with my husband 2 nights ago and he pulled out, but when I went to the bathroom, I saw some “stuff” still made it in there. 😭😩 it wasn’t a lot but regardless, it was precum. I’m a little stressed. I’m finally back to tracking my cycle again since the bleeding stopped, and of course today my ovulation strip was positive and I’m having my usual ovulation cramps to confirm it. Should I be very worried right now…we both agreed we would maybe try again later this year but I swear I don’t think I can put myself through this again after the last few months of hell I’ve been through hormonally emotionally etc etc. I know it was dumb and we should’ve used protection.

We have two kids that I basically conceived first try with and I seem to have conceived quickly the other times as well that I’ve terminated…but those were either right on ovulation day or day before. Kind of freaking out because I seem to be a very fertile person. Can someone please tell me if I should be freaking out 😭😭😭 I know anything is possible but I’m just so mad at myself.

Tomorrow marks 6 weeks since I took the first medication. I am married with 2 amazing kids, 3.5 and under. I’ve been bleeding every single day since I took the second set of pills. Last week after discussing with my OB that I was worried about leftover tissue still being an issue, she ordered lab work. HCG results last week were 16. Today, 6. Bleeding has pretty much stopped now. Why am I suddenly feeling so sad about this…I know it was the right choice for my husband and I, and our family at this moment in time. But it feels like the chapter is finally closed. I can’t help but feel so sad knowing I’ll never know the gender. Who they would’ve been. I have done 2 terminations before this 5+ years ago. This one just feels so sad and I think my feelings are catching up to me.

My 3.5 year old mentions wanting another “baby sister” every now and then and it feels like an extra gut punch because she said it again today.

Hey everyone, I took the first pill 5/15 and the second medication on 5/16. I haven’t gone a single day without bleeding. It was only severely heavy on the day of the second set of pills, and lightened afterward. However it went from being bright red/light period like flow to super light/brown the last week or so and then today bright red blood again (still very light as far as flow).

My follow up 3 weeks ago revealed very little leftover tissue so my OB gave me more miso. I had hardly any bleeding but did pass something very small that was hard and rubbery like. Still, the bleeding continued. I had an hCG draw last week and my number was 16. My OB said she is not concerned since I’m not soaking pads and that if there is leftover tissue then I’ll eventually pass it on my own.

She ordered new labs for tomorrow to ensure my numbers are still going down and didn’t plateau. Has this ever happened to anyone else?? I’m SO frustrated. I’ve literally been bleeding for over a month.