Engagement ring disappointment
I’m looking for honest opinions because I can’t tell if I’m overreacting or if my feelings are actually valid.
About a month ago, my boyfriend and I went ring shopping together. We went to two different jewelry stores and spent a lot of time trying on rings. We both agreed that radiant-cut rings looked best on my hand, and almost every ring we looked at was around 3 carats (lab grown diamonds). He even saved a few of those rings to his profile, so naturally I assumed that was what he planned to get and that it fit his budget.
He makes well over six figures, so I didn’t think it was unrealistic.
A couple of weeks later, he told me he was eager to propose, but that he had decided to get me “something smaller for now” and that I’d get my dream ring on our wedding day. I told him that didn’t really make sense to me because it seemed like it would end up costing more money in the long run, but I also said it’s his decision since he’s the one buying it.
When he proposed, the ring ended up being a 0.3-carat center stone with a halo. It was much, much smaller than anything we had looked at together.
I know an engagement ring isn’t what makes a marriage, and I’m grateful that he wants to marry me. But I can’t help feeling disappointed because we spent all that time looking at rings together, he got me excited about a certain style and size, and then ended up choosing something completely different without talking to me first.
Am I being shallow or ungrateful for feeling disappointed?
What’s actually throwing me off too, is that he took pictures of the 3 carat dream ring on my hand and had sent them to me after we visited the ring store. Had me blushing and excited and everything.
I’m sooooo confused