r/vestibulodynia

It is my belief that most intercourse-pain related problems are not Vaginismus, not Vulvodynia, but some form of Vestibulodynia.

My wife suffered for more than 30 years before we figured it out. My wife has gone through hell and back. I would not wish this on my worst enemy.

Here is a good indicator - do you like it when somebody touches your belly button? Even easier, do you like it when someone touches your nipples? Unfortunately, my wife found both uncomfortable.

It does not appear to be just a genitalia issue. Rather it does appear to be a system/body wide issue. And I believe it just might be caused by a poor diet.

We are eating way too much Oxalate! And IMHO it is making us all chronically ill.

Oxalic acid is a naturally occurring molecule that is a toxic and corrosive acid.  When it attaches itself to a mineral like calcium, magnesium, potassium or salt, it becomes an oxalate, i.e. sodium oxalate, potassium oxalate, magnesium oxalate, and calcium oxalate.

All plants contain Oxalate. Some a little, and some a lot; spinach, walnuts and chia are deadly, lettuce, corn and rice are relatively harmless. Dairy, fish and most meats have no Oxalate. Pork has a little.

Why is nobody talking about Oxalate?

Oxalate is a very small crystal. If you could see it it would look like a razor. Plants contains Oxalate for multiple reasons. Primarily, they use it to protect themselves from being eaten. Insects do not eat them because the Oxalates kill them. Secondly, they use calcium oxalate for structure. Thirdly, they use it to keep mould from growing on them. Bran comes from the outer husk of the plant. The bran protects the plant with oxalate. Eating bran is toxic. Whole wheat contains twice the amount of oxalates than does regular wheat. The same for rice.

They like to destroy cells. When one has excess Oxalate in ones system, the gut becomes leaky. The body needs calcium in order to keep the intestines sealed. The excess Oxalic acid binds to the available calcium in the body, removing the ability for the intestines to close. Oxalate also leaches these elements from the body. Excess Oxalate slowly removes the calcium from our bones causing them to become brittle and unstable. Oxalate are extremely small, they cross the blood/brain barrier and they are passed to the baby in utero.

Those with kidney stones already know the wrath that too much Oxalate can unleash. What we fail to realize is the damage it does to all of our other organs and systems. It is legion.

I personally suffer from Celiac, Bipolar Disorder, Autism and Severe Deficiency Autobiographical Memory (SDAM). I have had my tonsils, my appendix and my gall bladder removed. I have also had kidney stones. I have had shoulder bursitis that was so bad that the cartiledge in both of my shoulder joints was gone and the doctors could only recommend surgery to cut the bones. Oxalate excess is known to destroy connectivity tissue. It is also quite possible that oxalate excess is responsible for my celiac and my mental issues.

Studies have shown that putting autistic children on the Oxalate diet dramatically improved their ability to socialize and interact.

Sulfur is an essential element for healing. We don't get nearly enough of it in our diet. The soils are not replenished with sulfur and are typically leached.

There are multiple ways of getting sulfur. The main ones include DMSO, MSM and Glucosame Sulfate. Horse trainers and professional athletes and the military have know about the healing capabilities of DMSO and MSM for years. They are natural analgesics. They help stop inflamation. They help the body detoxify. Next to water, DMSO is the best solvent on the planet. It is a naturally occuring substance. It can be applied topically, consumed or intubated. It goes deep into the body. It can also be used with other substances as a transport agent to deliver it directly to an organ without injections or other invasive techniques. It has no side effects.

I used Omega 3 with Glucosome Sulfate to rebuild the cartiledge. Now I am able to swim and play squash again. MSM is meant to be taken orally. The recommended daily dosage is 6g! Thats 6000mg!

The solution is twofold:

1. Dramatically reduce Oxalate intake or even kill it. The body can only handle 60-100mg/day max. We typically consume 2000mg/day. For those who are health conscious, they could be consuming more than 4000mg/day. 6000mg can be lethal.

For more information I highly recommend you read:
Toxic Superfoods: How Oxalate Overload Is Making You Sick - and how to get Better

2. Use mixtures of DMSO with CBD oil or with MMS, or simply by itself, to help the body to speed up the detoxifying and healing process.

For more information I highly recommend you read:
The DMSO Handbook: A New Paradigm in Healthcare

It may not solve everyone's problem, but I am quite certain that doing these two things will most definitely lead to a much healthier life, and it just might aid you on your way to solving your sexual pain.

Why not try it? What have you got to lose?

Good luck!

Links:

Sally K. Norton

Sally K. Norton - Oxalate Overloading Symptons

The Vulvar Pain Foundation

Symptoms of Solomons Syndrome

The Low Oxalate Diet Organization

The Low Oxalate Diet Organization - Conditions and Research

Hey everyone,

I love my gyno, she’s an angel. She prescribed a self test for HPV and gave me the stuff for it. I’ve already done a pap smear with her, not a self test, and it was negative. The difficulty with insertion fluctuates and at the moment it’s too difficult.

I also asked for a small speculum since that was an option, just to have a choice for the future. I checked with her this is the smallest one she has and she believes it’s “not that big”. I’m a bit taken aback as I’ve heard on this group there are small ones for children. Am I right in thinking there are smaller speculums than this in existence?

Ruler for scale, it’s in centimeters.

Thank you!