u/Prestigious-Guava907

Asalaam Alaikum,

T&C’s apply 📝 🤯
• If interested please dm me with a summary of yourself and pictures after that. I will not respond to heys.

• I am not a texter, once compatibility has been established I would expect calls and face time and a meet up very soon after that. I am not here for a pen pal.

🧕🏽🇧🇩
• 34
• 5 ft 3
• I’m built like a woman, I don’t know what else I would say here.
• I wear a hijab and dress fashionably but modestly.
• I live in NW England, born and bred.
• youngest child vibes. Half glass full always.

💍 Divorced 1.5 years ago with no kids. I am open to having children.

💰I work in the NHS, I am not clinical.

This personality of mine ✍🏽🧐
• I fully have ADHD, expect 20 stories in 5 mins, lots of tangents, lots of laughing.
• I try to learn about Islam via reading and lectures
• I love to hike, swim, cycle, watch documentaries, have a keen interest in cars, love LOTR, marvel & DC.
• I’m abit of a geak and I love it.
• I’m crackers tbh, it’s pretty amazing.
• I am a deep thinker.
• I am incredibly witty and sarcastic.
• soft spoken, feminine and fiery.
• Meme Queen 👑
• I’m a solid driver and a car enthusiast.
• Coffee shop hopping, count me in.
• I have travelled to a few places, so much left to see.

📿
• Sunni, Hanafi, born Muslim.
• I pray my salah and fulfil all my basic duties as a Muslim. Deen is very important to me.
• I have completed umrah and hope to do hajj and umrah with my husband one day.
• I do not celebrate milads aka the Prophets birthday. PBUH.

🔎🙋‍♂️
British born and bred
30-40
Educated
Prays all his salah and seeks Islamic and non islamic knowledge
Enjoys reading, exploring the world, the big and the small things.
Keen to explore the wonders of the world with me. ✈️
Well spoken, well read, financially stable and ambitious.
Would be nice if he can cook or is willing to learn
No kids - can be never married or divorced
Beard
5 ft 9
Takes care of himself
Intelligent
Deep thinker
Easy going
Open to having kids
Open to ethnicities
🇬🇧 Someone that has grown up in the UK. Does not need to have been born here but must have a similar upbringing to me, aka British.

❌ dealbreakers ❌
Dry personality - I don’t even like my food dry.
Not praying salah
Smoking
Drinking
Female friends
Socials
Kids
Living with family
Second wife
Does not want to marry within the next 6-8 months

⛓️‍💥I do not drink, smoke, post on social media, or have male friends.

🏡 I am happy to relocate. I am open to moving abroad, preferably a Muslim country.

🚨 If you don’t cover your awrah and you
lack haya when you speak please don’t consider messaging me. I will report you to Allah and I’ll report you here as well.

A small nikkah with close family and friends is preferable.

If my future husband is reading this, Fi duniyal wal akhirah ☀️

For readers, wishing you the best of this duniya and the hereafter, have a great day.

💕A random thought I’d share - a reminder to my fellow sisters who are looking for a husband. The people that call you old at 30, will be the same people that call you young if you died today. Marrying a man with the right qualities, values, deen and stability is more important than marrying for a timeline.

بِسْمِ اللّٰهِ الْرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِيْم.

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

🍞 Barakah is often hidden in the things we overlook.

The Prophet ﷺ taught us not to waste food, for we never know where ﷻﷲ has placed His blessings. Respect every blessing before it is taken away.

🤲 O ﷻﷲ ,place barakah in our food, protect us from wastefulness, and make us grateful for every blessing.

(A reminder to myself first & foremost In-Sha ALLAH)

Ma As Salama
مع السلامة

Salaam Alaikum.

I hope you’re all doing well.

This is more of a vent.

Firstly, why do people message me with nothing but hey on here? If you’re a man interested in marriage send me your iso or include your bio with a message with your clear intentions. I’m not 9, I don’t open messages to have pen pals, so those just get ignored. Just like you’d approach someone in real life and make your intentions clear, I don’t understand why people message me with hey. Unless it’s for marriage purposes with clear intentions I don’t wish to engage at all.

Secondly, sadly some of the men that have messaged me saying they’re serious have been absolutely disgusting. I feel I should air out the DMs to warn sisters of the messages and suggestive statements men send.

Sadly, this really does ruin things for the genuine brothers because I don’t have a good impression of the quality of men and I’m really not much of a Redditor at all.

Much like any other marriage platform this is no different. Many say they’re serious, when they in fact are not and some say they’re not sure why they’re single when they do know why. It’s usually because they’re a pervert and a woman doesn’t want them.

I fully realise you get a bad bunch everywhere you go and it doesn’t apply to all. However, it’s a shame for the women and it’s a shame for the men too, sadly.

May Allah keep you well.

Allah SWT’s greater trial to man is to lower his gaze and his greatest trial women is to cover herself.

This is because men are eager to look and women are eager to be looked at.

Some may say this isn’t true, both men and women have to cover, 💯, but that’s why there’s emphasis on man’s greatest trial and woman’s greatest trial.

Not to override Islam with science, however to back this up. There was a study done in 2009 which scanned men’s brains after they were shown images of women dressed in provocative clothing and these showed the activation of brain regions which associated objects or things you manipulate with your hands. The subjects remembered the bodies, not the faces most clearly. These results indicated that men tend to dehumanise or objectify women.

Side note, I am certain this is the driving factor behind how the media and the industry capitalises on women’s bodies and commodifies her.

Getting back to my point.

We don’t cover because men can’t control themselves or because they have a hard time lowering their gaze, not at all. We cover because Allah SWT, our creator has commanded us to cover. To wear the proper hijab. (I am no way saying, that I way the proper hijab, I try but I’m sure there’s more to be done).

In the Quran in Surah An-Nur 24:30
Allah SWT says, “O Prophet! Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and guard their chastity. That is purer for them. Surely Allah is All-Aware of what they do"

24:31
“And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and guard their chastity, and not to reveal their adornments1 except what normally appears.”

The hijab was subscribed for every single believing woman. Mandatory to all once the age of puberty is reached.

I want to note that hijab wasn’t made mandatory for women with high iman, for married women, for virgin women. No, the hijab is for every single believing woman, even if you’re struggling, even if you sin. We all sin, there is no excuse. The hijab guards us, it protects us, there are so many benefits, but in the end we wear hijab because Allah tells us to.

Before Allah SWT even tells a woman to cover herself, he tells a man to lower his gaze and to guard his chastity. Modesty is to be fulfilled by both men and women.

The Muslim man must lower his gaze no matter what the woman in front of him looks like. She could be dressed provocatively, wear a bikini, wear hijab, wear niqab or wear a jilbab. It is irrelevant.

The Muslim man or the believing man, as Allah SWT refers to him is commanded to lower his gaze from any woman that is not halal to him.

Just because a Muslim woman, a believing woman has disobeyed Allahs command and decided not to wear the hijab for whatever reason. This does not give the believing man the right to look at her nor does it relieve him of his responsibility to follow Allahs command to lower his gaze.

Both men and women are tested in this duniya, the burden of responsibility is the same but different.

What’s beautiful is that Allah ends this verse 24:31 by saying “Turn to Allah in repentance all together, O believers, so that you may be successful.” Allah SWT addresses both men and women and tells us how to be successful and with success comes Jannah.

Our tests in this are duniya hard, challenging but what is a test of it’s not to challenge us, to see who is deserving of reward.

May Allah SWT grant both men and women ease in our tests, may he reward us, may he accept our dua’s and guide us.

Ameen

Jummah Mubarak to all.

F 34, Lancashire. 🇧🇩 divorcee, no children. Open to all ethnicities.

Asalaaam Alaikum.

I hope this finds you in good health.

Ideal marriage timeline: 6-12 months, an intimate nikkah with close family and friends ideally.

Sunni, pray 5x a day and completed ummrah.

Open to having children.
I absolutely adore architecture, documentaries, travelling, swimming, cycling, board games, movies, trying new things and the list is endless.

I will try anything once even if i fear for my life (enter Ayatul Kursi).

I am a soft spoken, sweet feminine soul with a firecracker personality 🔥. I am chaotic and witty what's not to love! I am self-diagnosed ADHD, happy, positive, energetic, spontaneous.

5 ft 3, medium build, wear a hijab and dress fashionably modest
Fluent in English and Bangla.

*I am looking for a man that:*
Prays 5x a day and wants to continue to learn about Islam.
Covers his awrah
Has a beard
Funny and yearns for deep chats
Easy going, intelligent, adventurous, wants to stay young together.
Someone who wants to be a husband as much as I want to be a wife.
Also a man that wants a marrriage with traditional roles without rigidity.

**T&Cs apply: **
Up to age 41
British born.
Never married or divorced but must have no kids.
Should not consider taking a second wife.
Will live independently of family.

I am open to making Hijra and will relocate nationally.

Please only contact me if you meet the requirements and include this in your message. Preferably with your ISO.

Salaam, I hope you’re well.

I looked through the male ISOs for the first time, on the international thread.

I scrolled quite far down and didn’t come across one person that was either born or bred in the UK or grew up in the UK.

To clarify the person doesn’t have to be currently in the UK or want to live in the UK but I can’t imagine there are no Brits on these threads.

Do they exist or or am I looking in the wrong place?

I also found many profiles didn’t include the persons job title, or their education even though there was an educate bit included in the iso they posted. Same issue with height, whether they keep a beard or if they’d want to live alone.

All this information would be helpful and should be included because it’s just setting you back. I’m unlikely to message the person to ask.

Please advise,

May Allah keep you well.

Salaam Alaikum

I hope you’re well.

I have a question to those more knowledgeable than me.

Why does the Quran give men the option to marry a Christian or a Jewish woman when the scholars in the present day don’t encourage it?

I understand the reason why it’s not encouraged, examples being; the hurdles the couple will likely face in their relationship due to their religious differences as well as the impact it will have on the household, the upbringing of the children and so on.

Many would agree that marrying someone that has not been brought up with an Islamic upbringing or does not currently live a life via the Islamic teachings and Sunnah (reverts), you’re unlikely to live in harmony together.

I have seen many marriages where the man marries and Non-Muslim woman and the children grow up on a weak Islamic foundation with little influence from Islam in their way of life or renounce their faith altogether later in life.

I agree that many would say this likely wasn’t helped because maybe the father wasn’t a strong practicing Muslim himself and therefore the children possibly grew up with 1 vaguely non-practicing Muslim parent and another Non-Muslim altogether which impacted the household negatively.

On the other side I would be interested to know why a practicing Muslim man wouldn’t see marrying a Non-Muslim woman as a hindrance to his household. No matter how strong the father’s faith is and how much he leads his household, it is always the mother that has the most influence. If your father believes in the Sunnah’s of The Prophet PBUH and your mother doesn’t, how would those children really stand a chance in becoming good Muslim with strong faith.

As a woman putting myself into a man’s shoes, I cannot comprehend why I would risk living my life with a person that doesn’t believe as I do and further doesn’t believe in raising our children with the same principles I hold. To add, we would run the risk of our children turning away from both faiths altogether due to feelings of confusion and not belonging. How would I as a man be able to tell my children that Islam is the way of life when their own mother doesn’t agree.

My questions are:

1. Please provide clarity on why this was ordained and provides sources where possible and
2. Do you agree with scholars who discourage doing this? Please elaborate.
3. If you disagree with scholars, please elaborate.

I am strictly referring to marriages where the wife is a Christian or Jew and has not reverted to Islam.

Salaam Alaikum,

Jummah Mubarak to all. I hope you are well.

Bit of a rage bait title as I think it’s totally bizarre but I’m unsure of how accurate the leopard print fetish is with men.

Us women wear it because we like it, the colour and print can look really good when done well. Aka a nice skirt, blouse, hijab or heels is🔥.

Now would men have an issue with their wives wearing this with said perceived view of the print from a male perspective.

I genuinely do feel from a woman’s perspective as long as you’re dressed modestly aka figure not showing and skin not on display (hijab covered correctly) than a man will always look no matter what. Your duty is done from your part and the rest is on him.

Also please confirm or deny said males POV or elaborate further.

Jzk