the loved one
i watched the loved one for the first time over the weekend and here are my unsolicited thoughts about the film.
first, the whole movie is a case of incompatibility. i think the root cause talaga ng problem nila is that they were not compatible whatsoever. ellie was more progressive, proactive, outgoing, and idealistic, whereas eric was more reserved, practical, traditional, and realistic. i’m honestly surprised na in the movie they lasted 10 years because in real life they would only last for a month max.
second, i tried to be unbiased and understand both sides for most part of the movie, but in the end i was leaning on ellie.
for the marriage fight, i understand ellie not wanting to get married just yet because she wants to be something first and she didn’t see marriage as a statement to prove something to anyone. also considering na walang divorce sa pinas, it makes it more reasonable as to why you shouldn’t rush marriage either. but at the same time, eric was also reasonable to question if what they had was leading to anything ba or if they were just wasting time.
the jealousy part was fairly normal naman. i understand eric na nagseselos siya sa coworker ni ellie lalo na kung kausap mo at magkachat sila diba HAHAHA but i also understand ellie na you can be friends with the opposite gender platonically. i think it’s good to see na ellie did give assurance and somehow di naman naging controlling si eric that time.
for the reunion/party fight, i understand eric na mag-worry ka talaga if your partner, lalo na babae, is di nagcchat tapos di pa nakakauwi agad. but at the same time, calling your partner that much while they’re out at a party is too much eh. personally, i do make it a rule na if kaya mo uminom sa labas, dapat kaya mo rin umuwi mag-isa. and seeing na ellie was so drunk someone had to take her home kinda makes it hard to side on her on this one so 50/50 talaga.
third, i think the movie really shows how a relationship shouldn’t be transactional. kasi there were a lot of times where eric was keeping tabs on when he did this and did that, waited longer etc., which if you were to date someone na nagkkeep tabs on when he helped you or did more effort, nakakapagod ’yon. that is so unfair and that means you weren’t doing it out of love. you wanted to get something back. this also proves na they weren’t compatible kasi if you really were compatible, you wouldn’t have to feel like someone is overextending or lacking or you wouldn’t need to keep tabs kasi you would both meet each other halfway.
fourth, props to ellie kasi ang dami niya pinalagpas na if i were her i wouldn’t. like first date, naka-dress ako, di man lang ako sinabihan na magmomotor beforehand? that’s so inconsiderate lol. then the argument about losing the child? i would have ended it right then and there, no second chances. losing a child is not just physical but also emotional for a woman so i don’t allow that shit. syempre the cheating.
gets din naman si eric because again, realistic siya. of course he wants stability, and panganay pa siya so he probably feels like he has no time to keep exploring and being carefree forever. i think both sides, in a way, were nakakapagod mahalin. i would hate to be with someone who keeps tabs on everything they do for me, but i would also hate to be with someone who is constantly chasing “more” without considering settling down.
overall, i think they just really weren’t a match and they weren’t compatible. good movie !