u/Prideandprejudice1

I was in the doctor’s waiting room today and the woman seated across from me was talking to a friend, complaining that her daughter hardly visited and that she never saw the grandkids etc etc. The way she spoke, and some of the things she mentioned, made me really curious to hear the daughter’s side of things.

Edit: Thank you for sharing your stories. I’m so sorry you’ve been let down by the people who are supposed to love and care for you.

Someone recently told me it was rude to walk straight into my dad’s house and that I should ring the doorbell and wait for him to answer. But I’ve always done this (my husband does it too) and my dad has never complained. Honestly, I think he’d be more annoyed if I made him get up to answer the door every time I visited. We do the same at my in-laws’ house and the cousins and friends I asked told me they do the same with their parents too.
What are your thoughts?

I think l'd do reasonably well in looks, though I'm probably too short to be considered truly elegant by Regency standards. I completely lack the "accomplishments" women are supposed to have- I don't sing, play piano, draw or speak Italian (I do speak Greek though). I’d have a pretty good dowry, but our family money comes from my father working as a machinist which would most likely place us in the "trade" category. Hopefully I’d attract a self made man (someone in the navy perhaps like Captain Wentworth) but more realistically, I’d probably end up with a Mr Elton, who’d be happy with looks and money.

Edit: Your responses are hilarious- I think we’re all glad we live in modern times

The recent Mansfield Park posts have got me thinking about this relationship. Was it considered acceptable that he moved her into his home, or would he have lost friends over it? Would the mistress then become the “lady of the house” and take on that role? Would he have taken her with him to social events?