u/PrimarySpend7348

I've spent 3 years in this weird lab where the PI is barely present, plays mind games with all the grad students and has no ideas of their own. All the papers coming out are students own ideas and even the undergrad research that is guided entirely by the PhD students , with 0 PI involvement, have to have their name as the PI.

It has come to my attention that some of their research also has fudged data.

I've spoken with one really supportive committee member and they offered going to give me an LOR that covers the lab situation. The problem is I'm in the PhD program and I haven't told anyone other than that committee member that I'll be mastering out.

I've been told no major lab will take me without an LOR from the PI so what do I do now? I really do want to finish a PhD.

I have 2 A\* conference papers, and 2 A conference papers. But citations are low since I just started. I'm in Computer Vision.

I've spent 3 years in this weird lab where the PI is barely present, plays mind games with all the grad students and has no ideas of their own. All the papers coming out are students own ideas and even the undergrad research that is guided entirely by the PhD students , with 0 PI involvement, have to have their name as the PI.

It has come to my attention that some of their research also has fudged data.

I've spoken with one really supportive committee member and they offered going to give me an LOR that covers the lab situation. The problem is I'm in the PhD program and I haven't told anyone other than that committee member that I'll be mastering out.

I've been told no major lab will take me without an LOR from the PI so what do I do now?

I have 2 A* conference papers, and 2 A conference papers. But citations are low since I just started. I'm in Computer Vision and robotics.

Sorry for the long post and partial rant but I really appreciate any advice that you could give.

I was cooking dinner, and ended up putting too much cheese in the pasta. His argument was that he was worried for my health and that I could die early by eating unhealthy.

What do I do?

Edit: this was a little while ago, but he had apologized a lot and begged for forgiveness, and cut off all his nails regularly so it wouldn't happen again. But I've been disillusioned in the relationship ever since. Last week I had been on a business trip and ended up installing tinder just for curiosity. He found out today and ended up scraping my neck with his stubby nails while trying to choke me because even installing tinder is wrong.

It feels like it is difficult to leave since we've been together around 5-6 years, most of it was long distance but we finally got a chance to live together for the past few months.