u/Professional-Gift873

Hey guys so I have this friend and we’ve been friends for around 4 years now maybe. When we first started talking we became really close for 2 years then her energy suddenly changed, like long replies, dry texts, and stopped caring overall and I asked about it a few times and never got an answer so I stopped talking to her and we never talked again. A few months ago she reached out to me again and we got back to talking again, we hit it off pretty well then after a while she disappeared again and when I asked her about it she just said she’s sorry but never gave me a good excuse or reason.

Honestly at that point I like 99% gave up on this friendship especially now that I’m older I genuinely can’t take this weird behavior, we’re all adults and we know what we’re doing. That hurt me so much and I told myself I’m genuinely done with bothering and I stopped talking to her.

Then after a while we talked over something and hit it off again, this time better than ever before, talking daily, inside jokes, hanging out, etc. It stayed like that for over a month.

I want to add that it was almost always me texting her first during that time but she would reply fast and with energy and we’d have actual conversations and she would sometimes initiate plans and stuff to do.

However last week she once again decided to disappear, long reply times, dry ash replies, and all that. I texted her for 2 days and she just replied with that she’s busy.

I honestly don’t know what to do, I’m insanely hurt because of her and I miss her so so much and I don’t want to lose her and I don’t know what I should do.

Should I text and ask about or should I just genuinely give up this time, what do I do if she texts me again and what do I do if she doesn’t. I feel like my judgement is clouded right now and I could take advice from someone wiser than me in this situation.

Any advice would be appreciated.

Hey guys so I have this friend and we’ve been friends for around 4 years now maybe. When we first started talking we became really close for 2 years then her energy suddenly changed, like long replies, dry texts, and stopped caring overall and I asked about it a few times and never got an answer so I stopped talking to her and we never talked again. A few months ago she reached out to me again and we got back to talking again, we hit it off pretty well then after a while she disappeared again and when I asked her about it she just said she’s sorry but never gave me a good excuse or reason.

Honestly at that point I like 99% gave up on this friendship especially now that I’m older I genuinely can’t take this weird behavior, we’re all adults and we know what we’re doing. That hurt me so much and I told myself I’m genuinely done with bothering and I stopped talking to her.

Then after a while we talked over something and hit it off again, this time better than ever before, talking daily, inside jokes, hanging out, etc. It stayed like that for over a month.

I want to add that it was almost always me texting her first during that time but she would reply fast and with energy and we’d have actual conversations and she would sometimes initiate plans and stuff to do.

However last week she once again decided to disappear, long reply times, dry ash replies, and all that. I texted her for 2 days and she just replied with that she’s busy.

I honestly don’t know what to do, I’m insanely hurt because of her and I miss her so so much and I don’t want to lose her and I don’t know what I should do.

Should I text and ask about or should I just genuinely give up this time, what do I do if she texts me again and what do I do if she doesn’t. I feel like my judgement is clouded right now and I could take advice from someone wiser than me in this situation.

Any advice would be appreciated.

Hey guys so I have this friend and we’ve been friends for around 4 years now maybe. When we first started talking we became really close for 2 years then her energy suddenly changed, like long replies, dry texts, and stopped caring overall and I asked about it a few times and never got an answer so I stopped talking to her and we never talked again. A few months ago she reached out to me again and we got back to talking again, we hit it off pretty well then after a while she disappeared again and when I asked her about it she just said she’s sorry but never gave me a good excuse or reason.

Honestly at that point I like 99% gave up on this friendship especially now that I’m older I genuinely can’t take this weird behavior, we’re all adults and we know what we’re doing. That hurt me so much and I told myself I’m genuinely done with bothering and I stopped talking to her.

Then after a while we talked over something and hit it off again, this time better than ever before, talking daily, inside jokes, hanging out, etc. It stayed like that for over a month.

I want to add that it was almost always me texting her first during that time but she would reply fast and with energy and we’d have actual conversations and she would sometimes initiate plans and stuff to do.

However last week she once again decided to disappear, long reply times, dry ash replies, and all that. I texted her for 2 days and she just replied with that she’s busy.

I honestly don’t know what to do, I’m insanely hurt because of her and I miss her so so much and I don’t want to lose her and I don’t know what I should do.

Should I text and ask about or should I just genuinely give up this time, what do I do if she texts me again and what do I do if she doesn’t. I feel like my judgement is clouded right now and I could take advice from someone wiser than me in this situation.

Any advice would be appreciated.

Hey guys so I have this friend and we’ve been friends for around 4 years now maybe. When we first started talking we became really close for 2 years then her energy suddenly changed, like long replies, dry texts, and stopped caring overall and I asked about it a few times and never got an answer so I stopped talking to her and we never talked again. A few months ago she reached out to me again and we got back to talking again, we hit it off pretty well then after a while she disappeared again and when I asked her about it she just said she’s sorry but never gave me a good excuse or reason.

Honestly at that point I like 99% gave up on this friendship especially now that I’m older I genuinely can’t take this weird behavior, we’re all adults and we know what we’re doing. That hurt me so much and I told myself I’m genuinely done with bothering and I stopped talking to her.

Then after a while we talked over something and hit it off again, this time better than ever before, talking daily, inside jokes, hanging out, etc. It stayed like that for over a month.

I want to add that it was almost always me texting her first during that time but she would reply fast and with energy and we’d have actual conversations and she would sometimes initiate plans and stuff to do.

However last week she once again decided to disappear, long reply times, dry ash replies, and all that. I texted her for 2 days and she just replied with that she’s busy.

I honestly don’t know what to do, I’m insanely hurt because of her and I miss her so so much and I don’t want to lose her and I don’t know what I should do.

Should I text and ask about or should I just genuinely give up this time, what do I do if she texts me again and what do I do if she doesn’t. I feel like my judgement is clouded right now and I could take advice from someone wiser than me in this situation.

Any advice would be appreciated.