u/Pterobel

I've been knitting for almost two years. I've made a million hats, scarves, and a few blankets but only one sweater, so I'm new enough to shaping that I don't feel comfortable just doing the math and freestyling just yet.

When I browse Ravelry, it feels like 90% of patterns are boxy, straight shapes written for/by very slim women. Of course I look into projects and try to find different body types, but I'm looking for patterns that right from the jump look good on curvier bodies. I'm a 34G with big hips; anything boxy makes me look like an enormous blob.

Does anyone have some go-to patterns with shaping that look better on larger, curvy bodies?

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Last Wednesday, our friend Jenna was visiting my husband and I from out of town. A mutual friend, Jason, came up in conversation. Jason has been what my husband has called a "ride or die" for about ten years now. He met him in the same hobby as he met Jenna, which is how his name came up. This man has helped us move more than once, spent time with my children, given them wonderful gifts, written us heartfelt cards, comes to every party or event we've ever thrown, and has spent multiple holidays with us.

Jenna says she actually doesn't associate with Jason anymore due to his presence online. She explained how she doesn't think he knows two of his social media accounts are linked. On one, he's a normal, friendly guy. On the other one, however, oh my god. I looked it up, and it three years of the most heinous, racist, misogynist, conservative hot takes you can imagine. Things like women shouldn't vote, other races smell, using slurs like fa* and re**** He goes on at length about how America is a white Christian nation and abiut White superiority. These posts go on about transphobic nonsense and anti-gay rhetoric, accusing them of grooming kids. Women apparently belong in the kitchen and never should have gotten the right to vote, a point he makes more than any other. Like I cannot stress how bad these posts are.

We had no idea. I knew he came from a conservative background, but he has never, ever said anything like this in our company. We come from a liberal city and our friends and family are more than half queer identities, including my husband and I, although he may not know about my husband who is pan but straight-passing. My own brother is a trans man, and they have spent plenty of time together, with Jason never misgendering him to my face.

My husband has been absolutely wrecked by this, crying and all. This was someone we trusted and allowed around our children.

The account is definitely him. The picture isn't, but it's linked to another account, is the same name he uses for everything, and mentions our city and his home state, as well as many of his hobbies and interests.

My husband met with him under the guise of board games in a public place a few days ago, but he actually confronted him about the situation. His seemed really surprised my husband was upset, and earnestly explained that it's just a troll account, and that he just enjoys getting a rise out of people. He said "they're just anonymous people on the internet", as if people aren't real and this is perfectly normal behavior. I can't help still feeling like this is atrocious behavior. He's being exist and racist at real people and using the fact that he "doesn't really believe those things" to make it seem okay. In addition, he is in his 40s and has been posting on this account for THREE YEARS. That seems like an awful lot of dedication for a joke in poor taste.

Am I overreacting at this? Is this acceptable behavior or is this reason to keep distance from this person?

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