u/PuzzleheadedAct6955

I(25F) think im getting an outbreak on my inner thighs. I was diagnosed literally like a month ago with GHSV1, i had one outbreak November of 25 and didnt know it was am outbreak. I thought i got bit by a spider on my buttocks because what tf else could have happened? i felt the twinge and saw what i thought were two small "fang" marks moments later. it was itchy, so i scratched it and by the time i got to the doctor it looked like a bug bite gone bad. so we didnt test for hsv. fast forward to a month ago feel the same thing in the same exact spot and knew right then basically. felt it at 2AM and by 8AM when i was getting around for work there was bumps and i went to a walk in clinic by 8pm. doctor took 1 look and knew immediately, sent in a swab and got results that Monday morning.
Im feeling an itch now on my inner thighs, there is redness but it looks more like a scratch and i dont know if im gaslighting myself because im traumatized and trying to cope. my recent outbreak finally healed up, waited a couple more days and had sex with my girlfriend and then i wake up this morning and felt this. my thighs definitely touch lol, im worried about comfort at work with my thighs being together, if this even is another outbreak in a now different spot, i dont want to wear tight underwear because i know it needs to breathe but i dont want my thighs rubbing together to further irritate it. im at a loss and i cannot cope with this disease. i finally felt the courage to have sex again and this is what the fuck i get. im disgusted with myself.

my and girlfriend are so close. i love her so fucking much, both female. lesbian relationship. she gets cold sores, and has her entire life basically since she was a child. when she got her first outbreak she told me right away what it was and that we needed to take measures to be safe. i didnt care, i know alot of people have hsv-1, so many literally. and hers are localized to that specific spot on her lip. i never worried, cant kiss for two weeks oh well. im not gonna judge her for it! fast forward a year and half later, im diagnosed with herpes on my butt cheek. not my vagina, not my anus, its literally almost in the middle of my ass cheek. im feeling 100 different types of way now about it and im really fucking upset because to me it just feel different than a cold sore on my mouth. this is my ass, my vagina, my bikini area. this affects me so many different ways. i'm sorry worried about her catching it in her bikini area now too.
we have slept naked for a year, and now we cant. we have showered together and shared underwear and she is just my best fucking friend and now i feel like i cant be close to her for her own safety.
can we ever sleep naked again? how long should we wait to have sex? i feel like i cant even cuddle with her anymore because i dont want it to spread. ive tried to educate myself as much as possible. ive read it can spread even without the outbreak, i could get it on my vagina even though its not there initially, like what tf do i do?

ive been with my girlfriend for almost a year and half now. female/female relationship. recently ive had an outbreak on my literal butt cheek, not in my crack, not my hole. just the cheek. but its herpes, i went to the urgent care and got tested. she gets cold sores on her lip, but not often at all. and we are super safe when she does have them. we also dont do ANY butt stuff, no oral no anal nothing so i dont even know how i have it where i do. im literally freaking out because ive been reading about how you can have a breakout anywhere in the "boxer" area. ive had 2 outbreaks, first one was two spots, one bigger like just bigger than a quarter probably, and a very small spot above it like the size of a dime. when i went to the doctor she said it was a spider bite, i got a blood test done to test for everything and it all came back negative. but this time i got a swab of the area after google image searching a picture (lolololol) and it said it could be that. I can barely look at her i hate that im feeling like this right now but i do not know what to do. like my vagina is affected by this, how do i even cope?? will i get breakouts on my vagina in the future? will it spread? im scared to have sex ever again.

im a fairly new (about 2 months) SSV at my store and im wanting/needing to change my availability but my store manager is not only rude and miserable, but also a bit unhinged and plays favorites like crazy. which isnt the end of the world, everyone has favorite coworkers or people they would rather work with, but as a store manager you have made it so obvious that everyone else in the store knows it is a bit unprofessional in my opinion. anyways, during the summer i do odd jobs/detailing cars, etc, on the side more than in the winter. to be a shift i had to open my availability and im working some evening shifts now but its really cutting into my time & outside work. my manager told another shift if she couldnt work nights that she needed to find another job or suck it up and do it. and im not going to do all of that. i want to be a shift, i want to work at starbucks and i want to stay in my position but mornings are 10/10 what i want to work. what do i do?