u/Puzzleheaded_Emu7511

By nerdy I mean like girls who are into stuff like gaming, board games, LOTR, etc.

I know these things have become more gender equal over time but I'm unsure because honestly I don't have the best luck with meeting this kind of girl on a dating app. Every guy on reddit seems to say they're very rare to come by which either makes me think that I should lower my standards or that the average male redditor doesn't know very many women (definitely true).

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I (24M) have been using dating apps for several weeks and it's just a depressing experience. There are a handful of nerdy girls who are pretty cute but I don't match with them. I get the impression that there are literally hundreds of men lining up to ask these girls out.

Maybe I'm particularly picky for wanting a nerdy woman but honestly I've never found myself getting along with anyone else. The dates I've gotten along well with were nerds and all of my biggest unrequited crushes were also nerds. Maybe it's weird to make it a part of my identity but these are the people I like to be around and who I truly feel myself with.

So is my luck just awful or are my type of women really just this rare?

I (24M) have been single all my life. I had a few dates when I was in college but nothing ever really went anywhere other than a single hook-up. I was pretty isolated growing up and I've always found myself fitting in with the "nerd" crowd (as in playing video games and board games, liking indie movies, anime, going to alt concerts, in STEM, etc). Though I used to be unhealthy looking, I would say I'm fairly attractive now. I work as a software engineer in a big city, go out with friends several times a week, do a bunch of outdoorsy stuff, go to the gym, eat healthy, etc. But honestly I've never gotten close to a relationship.

I have been using dating apps for several weeks and it's just a depressing experience. There are a handful of nerdy girls who are pretty cute but I don't match with them. I get the impression that there are literally hundreds of men lining up to ask these girls out.

Maybe I'm particularly picky for wanting a nerdy woman but honestly I've never found myself getting along with anyone else. The dates I've gotten along well with were nerds and all of my biggest unrequited crushes were also nerds. Maybe it's weird to make it a part of my identity but these are the people I like to be around and who I truly feel myself with.

So is my luck just awful or are my type of women really just this rare?

I (24M) started using dating apps (Bumble and Hinge) for the first time in a while here and I feel like I'm barely getting any traction (2 matches in 1st week). I used them back in my college town and felt like I had more likes around then. Maybe I changed my profile too much but I was wondering if that was normal for other guys (and women, though I know your experience is different) in Chicago.