Is it just me or am I just seeing more crap files coming through? High purchase assignments, oddball properties, fha refinances with no equity, etc. The only thing holding me up right now are new construction assignments.
Half the refis completed in the past few weeks came with ROVs.
This is part 2 of the getting the problem resolved. Part 2 of the Hoarder's husband. How I fixed it.
I explained to them what our goals are and what we need to do to get there.
A miracle happened today. My brother in law and wife agreed. They are starting to clear out another house right now by themselves. Zero fighting. Zero yelling. They both agreed.
See it can work. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. I set a very non confrontational meeting and a plan and it's working out.
Once they see results, they understand more. All hoarders want to change. All you need to do is show them the light. It will be dark for a long time but it's possible.
If you stop believing, so will they. Someone needs to keep believing.
Will they make mistakes down the road? Absolutely. But, keep pushing. Explain to them things needs to get done. Be calm when they come with the right attitude.
But, you need to go to war. Create a crisis. Then, peace can be resolved once they see the light.
Hoarding comes from emotional scaring. I am healing a mother that didn't emotionally nuture, divorced parents, even a death of the father figure. It's possible. Just keep pushing till you win. 💪
If you do it for the right motives, it will work out.
A junkie without their drugs will go into withdrawal. Create the withdrawal. If they don't die, they might be healed.
If anyone wants help, dm me. I can be your counselor. Free of charge. I am just trying to help heal households.
This is soley based on my own personal experience. My opinions are my opinions. It's very aggressive but it was my only solution left to fix it.
Don't think that the problem is just going to solve itself. If you don't understand this, you will never get to the next stage.
You have to be able to take things to the fight or flight crisis moments with the hoarder. Yes, he or she will go crazy. Throw tantrums, yell, etc. It is what it is.
Make a plan. Set time frames. Warn the hoarder that there is a time period when the project will start.
Hire help plus call around local dumping bin companies to arrange the best prices on dumpsters. Hire day laborers.
Set it into action. Organize the funds.
Go into I don't give a fuck mode on the day. You have to take it to that level. Be strong. Direct the help with starting at one pile. Just throw it all away. I mean everything.
Lock up the bins with locks. Call the dumpster company and keep repeating the process until it's all gone.
It's this simple fellas. You can do it. But beware. You have to do it again later. It will never end. Lol.