u/Quiet_Wedding7086

I wrote a post in r/vegan venting about unbased reasoning that people use to not go vegan and to not even learn about it. At first a lot of vegans commented, and it was nice and funny. Later a lot of carnists got to the post and started arguing with me, calling me extreme and started saying they're allowed to eat meat because they enjoy it and other stuff like that. It's just insane to me how much speciesm is normalized in society to the point that when I actually point patterns of racism people get mad and defensive, blaming me for my lack of empathy for them. It's insane to me that as a society we repeat the same story of slavery, racism, nazism and any other marginalized groups. I dream of the day I'll tell my grandchildren how it was normal in the old days to see animals as products. It will be a part of the past one day.

I've been vegan for 9.5 years now and the excuses of people not going vegan have not changed a bit. It's still "but lions eat meat", "what about protein", it's tradition", "it's expensive" WHAT??? all of these can be solved with a simple google search, information is most available as it's ever been, why do they insist to stay stupid? And they also feel the need to justify themselves every time I mention I'm vegan, yet I'm the one being "too loud" about it??? It's insane to me how simple, cheap and healthy veganism is, yet people just refuse to learn anything about it and do it.

I'm a 19yo gen z. I grew up as an ipad kid and most of my social life has been online since age 12. I also rarely went out of the house as a kid cause I was bullied and youtube was a convenient getaway. I tried a set up of a nokia 105 and an iPad at home with the essentials but got back to the smartphone after feeling extremely lonely. I have insane social anxiety and lack of social skills in reality. I love the person I am in messages, I get witty and joke around a lot, I say the right thing at the right time and in reality I feel awkward. Cigarettes, alcohol and excessive amounts of caffeine were used as solutions for the same problem all throughout high school. It gave me the persona of the cool adventurous kid, the complete opposite of what i feel inside. I've been sober for a year and a half now but the deep issue isn't solved. I tried making friends irl at the time I had a dumbphone but I felt like I lost all of my skills and like I'm an outsider of the mainstream world. I had almost no social life and definitely no dating life without social media, it's a combination of anxiety and serious lack of skills. I tried "balancing" the use of the smartphone, I put restrictions, reminders, black and white, all of it, but I failed each time. I know I'm addicted, I know I have deeper problems than the smartphone but I have to get motivation to get out of that deep hole I digged my whole life.

My parents are leftists, progressive and educated me with values of equality: of races, of sexually, of religion and of gender. When I came out it was very hard for them to accept, everybody told they'll come around and it takes time. It's been 4 years since then. They have managed to send me to conversion therapy, which they refuse to admit. They fell for genspect propaganda and believe in "transceptical parenting." They use my name and pronouns but tell me they regret letting me socially transition cause they feel like they didn't protect me. They always told me I just think I'm trans because the autism confuses me, because I "believe" my dad touched me and the belief gave me trauma (he did it, they sent me to "therapy" to take things lightly and forgive him). They also said i'm influenced by social media and I'm doing it to be accepted in society. The thing is they only treat me like that in private. With other people they show themselves as the progressive patient parents and throughout my teenage years nobody believed me. I feel hurt and betrayed, even my siblings don't believe me, they get good treatment because they're cis and neurotypical. I'm 19 and gonna get out of the house soon. I'm mad at genspect for taking my parents away from me. I'm mad at my parents for not dealing with their feelings and taking it out on me. I'm mad at my school that told my parents that I was suicidal even though I made it very clear they were the cause. I wasn't allowed hrt, luckily I'm about to start soon and I'm so thankful for that. But grief is still there and I'm processing the pain while being happy it's gonna get better soon.