u/RaceGroundbreaking39

25f never dated. Serving actively in church and from 19yo had guys approach me/ask me out. Problem is I’ve never saw them that way and rejected them right from the side politely whilst maintaining our friendship.

Don’t have any guys I like at this church I’m in currently. Have always actively served in all the churches I went to. Right now I don’t have any desire to church hunt again, as I’ve done that and was an exhausting and spiritually tiring journey. Only two years into my church. But I do want to get married and have kids one day.

Had a situationship with a guy but we didn’t work out.

How active should I be? I don’t feel or have a desire to specifically go to other churches for the sake of checking out guys. Feels disingenuous and awkward to explain why I’m at a church for extended period of time when I’ve got a home church I’m enjoying and not planning to leave.

Thanks.

25f never dated. Serving actively in church and from 19yo had godly guys approach me/ask me out. Problem is I’ve never seen them that way and rejected them right from the side politely whilst maintaining our friendship.

Don’t have any guys I like at this church I’m in currently. Have always actively served in all the churches I went to and had genuine, organic and spontaneous friendly conversations with guys. Right now I don’t have any desire to church hunt again, as I’ve done that and was an exhausting and spiritually tiring journey. Only two years into my church. But I do want to get married and have kids one day.

Had a situationship with a guy but we didn’t work out.

How active should I be? I don’t feel or have a desire to specifically go to other churches for the sake of checking out guys. Feels disingenuous and awkward to explain why I’m at a church for extended period of time when I’ve got a home church I’m enjoying and not planning to leave.

Thanks.

25f - never dated.

had a situationship with a guy where we both shared mutual feelings but he wants to stay friends for now. he has feelings, but not right now.

pressure from fam to move on and look for guys in other churches.

don't really want to do that right now/no desire.

rather, i want to keep doing with the other things in my life as i have been doing for God.

things could change down the line, but whatever the case - how active/should i put in effort if marriage is the goal as a christian - if i don't feel like looking into other people for now?

thanks!