My experience with an sx4 close friend as an sx5

When we first met, he was honestly kind of bullied for being weird. The first time i ever saw him, i was in my classroom at my desk during break time with only one other person in my classroom, then he, from another class, approached me. He told me to get out of my seat and it was questionable but i still did it, then he went in the cabinet next to me and hid in there?? I was worried and didn’t know what to do. For the next 10 mins i just walked around the school. Then, i came back to the classroom, with more people inside, so i told my friends to open the door to the cabinet. There he was, still inside. He was in there to watch his drama to not be disturbed apparently.

So yeah that was a weird occurrence, and it really got me interested in him to find out more about him because i never seen anyone like that. He also did a lot of weird things, so people saw him as a “weirdo”.
So then, i decided to text him and befriend him to get to know him. He said that he doesn’t know why he was weird and he was only weird in school for no reason. We texted occasionally, and occasionally turned into frequently, and frequently turned into daily. We became good friends, and by 9 months he already became a more “normal” and “socially acceptable” person. Let’s call him John.

I introduced John to two of my other friends let’s call A and B. A was my bestest friend and B was someone we were both friends with. I introduced them with John because they all apparently played the same game. However i did not play that game and did not plan to ever play it with them

They created a gc without me, and i felt a bit hurt by it but it’s reasonable since they played a game i didn’t play. However, after time passes it seemed like John became good friends with them, more than with me. I felt replaced, because he called me his closest friend before but now it felt like he liked them more than me. After that, i became more cold and stuff, and then we started arguing more because he thinks i’ve gotten more rude recently and stuff. Then we fell out.

We made up eventually tho, because he would always come back running to me and stuff. I even told him that if he kept feeling hurt by me he could just not befriend me again. this cycle kept happening where we argue, fallout, then make up.
After a year, i still felt replaced. Because the more times psssed, the more he said he was closer to B, and eventually he started dating A. I just felt so.. replaced. So i would keep taking it out on him by being kind of rude.

Eventually, it was the end of this cycle, and we ended the friendship for good. Then, he started complaining about me to MY good friends, saying how i hurt him a lot, and he over exaggerated every small thing i did and victimised himself and blamed him for everything. I get that i’m also in the wrong, but there were times were he was also rude to me too, even when i didn’t start it.

Any thoughts?

Edit:

After our last argument, he went to complain to my friends about me, and over exaggerated every small thing i did. He tried to get them to hate me and unfriend me, and he would always play victim. I really don’t mean to sound hateful but he did say a lot of things blaming me.

One day, one of my friends who knew my situation with him, saw John's story on him posting a fire and the caption was something about how his friends set a fire in school. So this friend said that i should report him, especially since he caused me so much hurt. After that, i genuinely put it in consideration, not knowing that my friend was joking, and eventually i texted the school to report John.

A few days later, John texts me asking if he knew about who reported the fire. On the spot, i didn't know what to do so i just said "i don't know". If i told him the truth he might've hated me more but if i lied i would feel guilty.
Eventually, he started venting about how he feels like his life is falling apart, about how he lost his friends, his family, etc. And being reported for posting about his friends making a fire instead of stopping them, punished him badly. He lost his leadership positions, including the leadership he had in his club which is the one only thing keeping him happy.

After that, i felt a lot of guilt, and i felt evil for reporting him just for revenge. I really really cried for that, and didn't know what to do. It was too late. I made his life more miserable than i wanted to, just because i was V impulsive and childish.

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u/Radiant_Trip_9703 — 6 days ago

Why does my pdb have limited flairs for me?

i see other users have way more flairs so i’m kinda sad i don’t have it. How do i fix it?

u/Radiant_Trip_9703 — 7 days ago

Why am i less anxious to ask favours for others than with themselves?

This is a simple one, but i’m curious. This goes to the people who have some kind of social anxiety. I have it, and i tend to feel uncomfortable talking to strangers literally in general. For example, if i needed to ask for directions, i could literally never ask ANYONE with the fear of being ignored or judged. However, if my friend wanted the directions and was too shy to ask for it herself, i would be more than willing to help her do it, and my social anxiety is almost fully “gone”. I suddenly have the courage to ask literally anyone for directions, even people who intimidate me. And it’s not just when i have my friend right beside me which makes me less anxious. I do think that that’s part of the reason why my anxiety “goes away”. But the thing is, let’s say my friend needed to exchange a $5 note into coins, i would be willing to do it for them. They would just be standing like 30meters away from me, and i don’t have then by my side to weaken my anxiety, yet i have full confidence to approach anyone to ask them if they had $5 in coins. Does anyone know why this happens?

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u/Radiant_Trip_9703 — 9 days ago

George Cooper trend

There’s this trend on tiktok where people clip random parts of the show when George gets mad at the family, then he rips his shirt and breaks the cashier machine, then he makes brisket. All these clips together looks like he’s getting revenge on the family for pissing him off by turning them into brisket. It’s honestly so funny man

u/Radiant_Trip_9703 — 9 days ago

My opinion on Sheldon

I see on tiktok that a lot of people him dislikes him for his ego and his personality in general. But honestly he never ever pissed me off that badly in the show. Even meemaw and missy pissed me off at least once… like when meemaw in the brisket episode and missy in George and Mandy’s first marriage where she’s always doing rebellious teenage things… (NO HATE TO THEM ITS UNDERSTANDABLE AND WASNT THAT BAD IMO) Mary also sometimes made kinda selfish decisions for the family like when she took the whole family’s devices and she didn’t even consult george who also pays for the house. (i don’t hate or dislike her tho) But i don’t know why sheldon genuinely never made me mad at him. Maybe it’s because i have a thing where im always on the main character’s side no matter what, because it is true. Y’all’s thoughts on sheldon?

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u/Radiant_Trip_9703 — 9 days ago
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My experience as an sx5 being close and best friends with an sp5

Hello i’m an sx5 with an sp5 ex best friend. I would describe our past relationship as very close and we could trust each other and actually label each other as “best friends” even though we don’t really believe in that title. That’s how deep our relationship was. However, i feel like we clashed a lot. What she would call affection and special treatment is honestly the bare minimum for me in any sort of close friendships.

If i were to see one of my close friends on a public transport (let’s say a train) i would definitely either come up to them, send them a text, or at the very least acknowledge their presence by smiling or waving or something. And im not even talking about those friends who i barely talk to and don’t consider close, because it would be understandable to not talk or approach them in public. I’m talking about those CLOSE friends where you two will obviously at least wave at each other when we bump into each other. This girl, i understand she’s an introvert (an EXTREME introvert) but its honestly saddening she wouldn’t even make an exception for her closest friend, someone who she genuinely thinks changed her life and changed her view in having friends. I really really understand that she sometimes doesn’t feel like talking, or didn’t see me, or is shy. But honestly the fact that it happened almost everyday is kinda sad and it hurt me. She also just made me feel like my feelings weren’t reciprocated.

After all this happened for about 1-2 years, i kinda took out my hurt on her. Usually: Everyday during our break time we would meet at a specific place and sit together or walk around in peace while chatting. Everyday i would text her about my daily life and literally anything. However, on a certain day, i decided to avoid her. i didn’t come down to see her during break time, i didn’t text her. Kinda gave her a taste of her own medicine. (Because i realised that she never ever initiated with me a chat or to hangout and it was somehow always me) Then one week later, she finally interacted with me. Context: we signed up for the same programme, and then one day we finally went to find out who got in and stuff. My sp5 friend was one of the first to be called, then she left the room, then a few names later i was called. Outside the room, she was standing there and said “You got in?” then i said “Yeah, i’m shocked” Then we walked down together, having small talk like “how’s the weather” then we eventually split ways.

Later that day, i decided to text her. Asked her about the week we didn’t talk to each other. Eventually, we started getting into deep talk and explained why we didn’t talk to each other and then shared on how different and sad our life felt without each other. However, after it was over we didn’t get back to being normal best friends as if nothing happened. We simply cannot go back to that state. We just remained normal friends who don’t hang out IRL but text regularly and sometimes meet up in the holidays.

Well that’s the story sorry it’s long. I’m just kinda sad that i ruined our friendship because it’s honestly a bit empty without having a best friend i can trust like that because as an sx5 it’s really really difficult cuz im kinda picky.

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u/Radiant_Trip_9703 — 9 days ago

Is there a typology system of the seven deadly sins?

No i’m not talking about the anime. i’m talking about the actual sins. Gluttony, Greed, Lust, Sloth, Pride, Envy, Wrath. I think i saw it before on tiktok where someone had a link to a google sites website where it’s about their system on the seven deadly sins. However i can’t seem to find it anymore… If anyone finds it please share the link. Or if anything just tell me everything thing i need to know here. It’s fanmade btw!

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u/Radiant_Trip_9703 — 9 days ago