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I just need a place to vent. Today was a rough one. My husband and I have been TTC for 4 years with unexplained infertility. Every test you can think of, we’ve done it. No answers as to why. I’ve only seen a positive once and I had a miscarriage less than 36 hours after finding out.

Today I woke up to a text from my best friend from college telling me she had her baby. Her second child (both conceived during the time I’ve been TTC). Then around 1:30 this afternoon my childhood best friend came to visit to tell me that she is pregnant. They had just started trying. It’s now about 6pm and my cousin just texted me to tell me that she is pregnant. This will be her second. I remember having a long talk with her about my struggles with infertility before she was pregnant with her first child, and now she’s going to have a second.

All of that happened in 1 single day. 3 birth/pregnancy announcements by some of the closest people in my life. I’m exhausted and I’m emotionally wrecked. I just needed somewhere to get it out because no one in my personal life understands what this feels like

My husband and I have been TTC for 4 years. In that time, I’ve only ever seen 1 positive which ended in a chemical less than 36 hours later. We’ve been through all of the testing. You name it, we’ve done it. All to continue to be labeled as “unexplained infertility” because on paper, everything is great. Hormones, ovulation, SAs, HSG, endo evaluation, and more, but they can’t find a problem. We’re both 29 years old, healthy, and take care of ourselves. We’ve done IUIs and medicated cycles. At this point, our RE explained that IVF is probably going to be our only option.

After much deliberation and a lot of self reflection on what we as individuals and as a couple want for our future, we have decided to stop fertility testing/treatment, and move to adoption. We don’t make this decision lightly, and we aren’t choosing this path because we need to be parents.

We both have agreed that having our own child would be an amazing blessing, but we would be happy to live the rest of our lives traveling, experiencing the world, and living as just the two of us, childless.

However, we have a beautiful life. Our families are incredibly supportive, we both have careers we love and pay well enough to support the life we want. We have 2 dogs who love children, a 4 bedroom home with plenty of room for a growing family, and live in a great community.

We want to share that with someone. If there is a child out there that needs love and support, we are lucky enough to be in a position to give it. Adopting isn’t our bandaid for not being able to have our own child. It’s a choice we have chosen to make because we have love that we want to share with someone. We want to make a difference in a child’s life.

I’m sharing this here because we have not yet told our families of our decision. But I needed a place where I can lay it out there to people who I’m sure have thought long and hard about what their future will look like when a life with infertility is so uncertain.

I’m terrified and overwhelmed by the next steps, but most of all, I’m excited. I feel liberated from the hold of our infertility diagnosis, and know there is a bright future ahead.

My husband and I have been TTC for 4 years. In that time, I’ve only ever seen 1 positive which ended in a chemical less than 36 hours later. We’ve been through all of the testing. You name it, we’ve done it. All to continue to be labeled as “unexplained infertility” because on paper, everything is great. Hormones, ovulation, SAs, HSG, endo evaluation, and more, but they can’t find a problem. We’re both 29 years old, healthy, and take care of ourselves. We’ve done IUIs and medicated cycles. At this point, our RE explained that IVF is probably going to be our only option.

After much deliberation and a lot of self reflection on what we as individuals and as a couple want for our future, we have decided to stop fertility testing/treatment, and move to adoption. We don’t make this decision lightly, and we aren’t choosing this path because we need to be parents.

We both have agreed that having our own child would be an amazing blessing, but we would be happy to live the rest of our lives traveling, experiencing the world, and living as just the two of us, childless.

However, we have a beautiful life. Our families are incredibly supportive, we both have careers we love and pay well enough to support the life we want. We have 2 dogs who love children, a 4 bedroom home with plenty of room for a growing family, and live in a great community.

We want to share that with someone. If there is a child out there that needs love and support, we are lucky enough to be in a position to give it. Adopting isn’t our bandaid for not being able to have our own child. It’s a choice we have chosen to make because we have love that we want to share with someone. We want to make a difference in a child’s life.

I’m sharing this here because we have not yet told our families of our decision. But I needed a place where I can lay it out there to people who I’m sure have thought long and hard about what their future will look like when a life with infertility is so uncertain.

I’m terrified and overwhelmed by the next steps, but most of all, I’m excited. I feel liberated from the hold of our infertility diagnosis, and know there is a bright future ahead.

My husband and I have been TTC for 4 years. In that time, I’ve only ever seen 1 positive which ended in a chemical less than 36 hours later. We’ve been through all of the testing. You name it, we’ve done it. All to continue to be labeled as “unexplained infertility” because on paper, everything is great. Hormones, ovulation, SAs, HSG, endo evaluation, and more, but they can’t find a problem. We’re both 29 years old, healthy, and take care of ourselves. We’ve done IUIs and medicated cycles. At this point, our RE explained that IVF is probably going to be our only option.

After much deliberation and a lot of self reflection on what we as individuals and as a couple want for our future, we have decided to stop fertility testing/treatment, and move to adoption. We don’t make this decision lightly, and we aren’t choosing this path because we need to be parents.

We both have agreed that having our own child would be an amazing blessing, but we would be happy to live the rest of our lives traveling, experiencing the world, and living as just the two of us, childless.

However, we have a beautiful life. Our families are incredibly supportive, we both have careers we love and pay well enough to support the life we want. We have 2 dogs who love children, a 4 bedroom home with plenty of room for a growing family, and live in a great community.

We want to share that with someone. If there is a child out there that needs love and support, we are lucky enough to be in a position to give it. Adopting isn’t our bandaid for not being able to have our own child. It’s a choice we have chosen to make because we have love that we want to share with someone. We want to make a difference in a child’s life.

I’m sharing this here because we have not yet told our families of our decision. But I needed a place where I can lay it out there to people who I’m sure have thought long and hard about what their future will look like when a life with infertility is so uncertain.

I’m terrified and overwhelmed by the next steps, but most of all, I’m excited. I feel liberated from the hold of our infertility diagnosis, and know there is a bright future ahead.

Trying to be proactive and make sure I have a clear understanding of the policies in place. I have tickets to the game this coming Saturday, 5/23. As of now, it’s supposed to rain all day. In the event that the game is postponed to the following day as a double header, what’s the deal with the tickets since they won’t be valid for admission on 5/24?

I understand that anything through Ticketmaster will be given the opportunity to re-schedule for another day. What about Seat Geek? I’m having a hard time finding an answer. I called the Seat Geek customer service and she said that the tickets would transfer over and be eligible for use on the 24th, but that doesn’t seem correct based on the policies I’m seeing for Yankee Stadium.

Has anyone dealt with this specifically with Seat Geek tickets? I live a good 3 hours from Yankee Stadium and I don’t want to travel all the way down there to be turned away if my tickets are in fact, not eligible, despite what the woman on the phone said.

Today I am 4w3d pregnant. Been battling unexplained infertility for 3.5 years after countless tests, IUIs, and medicated cycles. I just saw my first ever positive test 3 days ago and have been so beyond happy.

Last night I used the bathroom before bed and had a large gush of dark red blood. I immediately panicked and am thinking the worst. Called my doctor and she wanted me to come in this morning.

All night I had no bleeding. Wore a pad to bed and woke up to it being completely empty. Used the bathroom and another gush fell out. I’ve been wearing a pad since last night (15+ hours) and it’s stayed completely dry. But every time I use the bathroom, I get a gush of red blood.

OB did a blood test and an exam. I won’t have the HCG results until tomorrow, and I know I’ll have to go for a follow up in a couple of days to see if the numbers are rising or not. She said that I’m bleeding a “moderate amount” but not an excessively. I’ve not really had any intense cramping, just the occasional non-painful cramp. Nothing consistent and barely noticeable.

I took a FRER test and a pregmate test this morning with my FMU and both still showed positive. Before going to the doctor, I drank a ton of water because I knew I’d need to give blood. They had me do another pregnancy test in the office and it was stark negative.
Is it because it’s still early and the urine was super diluted, or is my HCG just not rising?

I’m just so confused. The doctor couldn’t give me any real information and no answer on of this is a miscarriage or not. All I got was “don’t give up hope” and “we’ll have to wait until we can compare the blood tests to know what’s going on”.

So now I’m stuck sitting here for the next 3 days not knowing if I’m having a miscarriage or not. Has anyone else had something like this? Was it a MC or did you go on to have a healthy pregnancy. I truly don’t know what to think right now.

Update: got my first blood test results. They only showed an HCG value of 13 mIU/mL. Which is obviously extremely low for being 16dpo and a full 3 days after my first positive test. I also took another at home test this morning and the line is noticeably lighter today. So all of that in conjunction with the bleeding points to miscarriage. Thanks for all of the support in the comments 🤍