How long after giving birth did you have s** again?
Do you do it with the baby in the same room?
When on earth do you find time and/or energy?
Seems impossible:
During the day baby only does contact naps.
At bedtime I am way way too exhausted.
In the morning I wake up only when baby wakes up and immediately feed her. And even then I can barely open my eyes...
My baby is 7 weeks old and lately she gets very fussy at evening feedings. Mostly her last feeding before bedtime - around 7PM.
She keeps unlatching, kicking, waving her arms, tensing her body. I change breasts during the feed which sometimes helps but not always.
She is calm during other feedings.
Any thoughts why this might be and how to make her calmer?
Mine is 7 weeks old and from the very beginning I am carrying her in my arms while bouncing or swaying sideways until she falls asleep.
Is everyone doing something like that?
For anyone who felt resentment or even hate towards your partners after the baby, did that feeling ever go away?
Have you made up with your partner and are living happily ever after?
Or did it ruin your marriage/relationship?
Why did it start in the first place?
Does anyone know what's the rule about using perfume while you have a baby?
I used to like using perfume almost every day, especially in the summer. And now since the baby was born I am not sure if I should.
Of course I would only use a little.
But if I use perfume, won't it confuse the baby?
About a week ago my baby started having very very loose poop. She is 6 weeks old now and poops only once or twice a day but it's just very watery.
Is that normal?
I told him it's really hard.
I told him I'm drowning.
I told him I can't go on like this.
But he doesn't get it.
He listens, he nods, he says "tell me how I could help you".
I told him. Several times.
Told him to clean the bathroom.
Told him to dust the baby's room.
Told him to mop the kitchen floor.
Told him I need healthy and nutritious food.
He never cleans anything. The house is so dirty by now. I am not expecting spotless freshness at 6 weeks postpartum but there's only so much I can ignore and this whole mess is driving me insane EVERY DAY.
But it's more important for him to take care of the lawn...
All he does is take out the trash, vacuum and some laundry. And the biggest support is making me breakfast. But that just means he makes a bit more of what he eats himself.
All other food he makes is either warming up something his mom or grandma made (which is rarely nutritious) or some pasta with ham that he learned from a friend.
I have sero time for myself. Baby only sleeps on me - she is on me the entire day: feeding her, rocking her to sleep, baby wearing while she sleeps.
Yesterday I put her in a crib after baby wearing and she slept there about half an hour. I got time to cut my toenails and clean the trash can cabinet. That's what I do woth my free time.
Meanwhile he has time to go meat his friends. To go visit his parents. To go out watch a game. Or watch sports at home.
I asked him to take her. At least put her to sleap once a day or every other night, so I could unwind and chill alone. He tries for 10 minutes and declares she's not going to sleep or she's hungry. And then I am back on duty. I am also the one always waking at night. I sometimes wake him to go change her. But that's once a night, and even then I still feed her and try putting her back to sleep.
I am so so exhausted.
I don't feel any love for my baby.
I don't feel anything at all.
Every day I just go through the motions: changing her, feeding her, rocking her to sleep... Again and again and again... Always on duty. Always alone.
My husband said he is scared of me. Whatever that means. He doesn't talk to me. If he asks how I feel I just say 'I am fine' , because he doesn't get it anyway. And I am tired of repeating all the ways he can help me.
Maybe this wouldn't have happened if his priorities were me, the baby and our home instead of basketball, lawn, trees in the yard and friends.
But somewhere in these 6 weeks he probably decided we're both just fine and he can carry on with his usual life and leave me to drown alone.
P.S I just had to put this somewhere.
My baby is 5 weeks old and I am exclusively breastfeeding her every 2 hours during the day.
I used to wake her up every 2 hours during the night too, but her weight is growing great and she is way past her birth weight so I stopped waking her and let her sleep as long as she wants during the night. Sometimes she sleeps 4-5 hour stretches, sometimes wakes every 2-3 hours.
My main concern is - won't my milk supply decrease because of breastfeeding only once at night? Because obviously my goal would be to only wake up once. Or should I get up more often and pump?
Is anyone doing this - breastfeeding / pumping only once at night? Is your milk supply fine?
My baby girl is 1 month old today and on this occasion we invited the grandparents for a bite of cake.
I was holding the baby in my arms (like a cradle hold) and my MIL walking past me just scooped the baby from me without asking, without even saying a word in one quick swoop motion!! She caught me totally off guard and I didn't have a second to react. Nor do I know how.
I am really bad at confrontation and in any social situation for that matter.
What's a polite way to tell her to back tf off in such a case?
Update: I got a lot of support here and really great advice with exact phrases and actions to do. Thank you all so much! 🧡 My husband said he'll talk to her (we each handle our own extended families) but also I will practice and be ready (hopefully) if anything similar happens again.
My baby is one month old and she's my first. I just need to get this out.
For the first few days with her I swear I felt all the love in the world for her.
Now I can see she is super cute and lovely, but the feeling is the same as if some friend was showing me their new puppy: cute and lovely but that's it.
I don't feel connected to her at all. No love at all. She is just something I have to take care of 24/7. A neverending cycle: feed her, change her, rock her back to sleep.. again and again and again.
I know this sounds horrible, but I can honestly say I love my dog more than her. I feel like if I had to choose whether to save my baby or my dog - I'd save my dog.
And I don't even feel guilty anymore about feeling this.
I think how much she pisses me off or even that I hate her more often than how much I love her.
I thought several times already if having a baby was a mistake.
My body is ruined, my career is ruined, feels like my whole life is ruined. And for what?
It's 3AM now and tonight I slept 1 hour so far. Then spent 3 hours feeding, changing her and trying to put her back to sleep. And I can't even sleep anymore.
I know it's lack of sleep. Or maybe PPD. Probably. I just needed to vent and I don't know what else to do not being able to fall to sleep at 3AM.
P.S. please keep your shaming comments to yourself - I need help right now and such comments are just making it worse. I understand clearly it is not ok to think like this and I would never ever act upon these thoughts. I still care for my baby even if I feel all these things.