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That’s it, that’s the post.

What else do you hate putting up with around pregnant people?

My husband (33M) and I (30F) (married four years) were scrolling reels, and I showed him a video of the kind of house I’d love to have someday. He said, “Kar to sakte hain, par usko maintain bhi karna padega.” I thought that was a fair, practical point.
Then he added, “Hum deserve nahi karte.” I wasn’t sure I’d heard him correctly, so I asked, “Tum nahi karte ya hum nahi karte?” He replied, “Hum.” I said, “Speak for yourself.”
A little later, he asked me to make him tea. I sarcastically replied, “Chai bana do mere liye.” It was a jab because I was hurt by what he’d said. He got upset, said, “Don’t make it,” and walked into the bedroom.
I made the tea anyway, took it to him, kissed him on the forehead, and apologized for my sarcastic comment. He asked what I was apologizing for, so I explained. Then he said, “I still stand by what I said.”
I was speechless. I asked him, “Do you want a response from me, or did you just want me to hear it?” He said, “I said what I said.” I left the room.
I can’t stop thinking about it. It’s not really about the house. It’s that he said we don’t deserve a life like that and doubled down on it even after I apologized for my part. Am I overreacting, or would that comment make you question how your partner sees you?

For context, my husband feels that I don't do my part of house upkeep up to his standard.

PS: have used ChatGPT to rewrite my initial write up.