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I started therapy today to talk about issues with my husband. He had a temper that gets really out of control and leads to verbal and emotioanl abuse of me, that borders on physical from time to time. it’s not bad enough that I want to leave. I mentioned that we disagree on spanking and she asked if his speaking ever left bruises on the kids and I said well a few times.

the thing is, I understand that’s reportable now. I know it’s not good it happened. but the one thing he’s actually stopped doing is spanking the kids. now my therapist said she needs to discuss with her superviser to see if she will report it. But I didn’t tell my husband i was getting therapy. if he finds out I said anything, he’s going to be furious and never trust me again. it’s going to make the problem worse. my parents are our neighbors so I’m afraid of them finding out which i Never wanted. it’s such a horrible can of worms I opened and I’ll certainly not go back to therapy again.

I have a 3 year old daughter and 2 year old son. my daughter doesn’t nap during the day anymore so you think she would be tired. I know I am. but before you say she’s overtired, even the days we drive and she does sleep, it’s the same thing. it doesn’t matter what time I start bedtime. it’s 9:00 pm before both are asleep. my husband is up at 3:30 for work so it’s not like he’s usually still awake by the time they’re sleeping. he can’t put them to sleep or they scream. every single night it ends with me streaming at them to go to sleep. tonight, Im sick, I just want to lay down and sleep too. but my husband is out of town so I still need to feed the animals and take the trash out and it’s 8:30 and I’m exhausted. I hate that I’m mean to my kids every night but it’s so frustrating. i don’t understand at what age they will finally be willing to fall asleep alone, or how people have actual free time in the evening.

settle a debate.

my husband was raised in a home where physical punishment was very present. before we had kids, he promised he would never hit our kids. it’s been an argument constantly that he wants to try spanking as a form of correction. he is always telling me that the kids don’t listen, they need spanked. I keep winning the argument. (kids are 2 and 3).

last night, my two year old was misbehaving at dinner. my husband quickly stood up and yelled at the top of his lungs for him to stop. obviously, both kids jumped and started crying. other times, he will slam his fist on the table. he will tell me “I’m just trying to get their attention.” last night it turned into a huge argument and he said “so I’m not even allowed to stand up now? are you serious? he’s going to grow up and be a sensitive bitch“. my husband is 6’1” and 280 pounds, just a big, strong blue collar guy. I explained that we were having a tense conversation across the table but if I stood up and yelled in his face it would really change the atmosphere, and that the kids listen to him without him screaming or making them flinch. he thinks I’m crazy. to him, as long as he’s not hitting them in the face he’s not showing any abusive behavior.

this seems obvious, but I was there at the end of April and driving around Cades Cove. At one point, all of traffic was stopped and we witnessed a man using a coat to pick up a bear cub, which he put in his car and drove away with (after walking it down a line of cars and showing it off). it’s true, no mom was in sight, and I understand stopping traffic so no one hit it while it crossed the road. but I couldn’t stop thinking about some poor mother bear looking for her cub and hoping the rangers put it back where he found it (assuming he did actually take it to the rangers)

my two year old is covered in it. he would always get little patches of dry skin but about two months ago, it exploded. his diet didn’t change. the soap/ shampoo/laundry soap we use didn’t change. we’ve had cats since he was born. it doesn’t seem to bother him, but now it’s broken open on his scalp and inside his ears. the pediatrician gave me antibacterial stuff for the stuff that got infected, but isn’t much help with the rest. I’ve switched to hypoallergenic Laundry soap, switched to the soap she recommended, put aquaphor all over him, I only give him a bath every few days like she recommended, but nothing is helping and more is just breaking open. Does anyone have any experience with developing allergies later to a pet or food?

as it says. I’m a stay at home mom, my husband is a union carpenter and builds bridges. prior to kids, I worked as a geologist in the same field and loved it, and I’m excited to go back in a year or so. my husband hates it, but it pays so well.

every day, he comes home and just complains. every time we take a car ride together, he’s complaining. after the kids go to bed, complaining. no one else has a job as hard as he does. no one else needs to work in the rain or extreme temperatures (which I used to as well). no ones boss is as bad as his. nothing is fair. life is miserable.

I get having to vent but it’s honestly exhausting. I tell him that I’ll go back to work earlier than planned and he can get a new job that pays less but he refuses. I tell him to switch to a new company and it’s “no I like who I work with“. so i just listen. but being with someone who is just miserable every minute of the day means that sometimes I look forward to the weekend to end and I hate that I feel that way about a man I love. especially when the misery makes him snap and yell at me and the kids.

so I loved Little Bear as a kid and as a parent for my kids now. my question is, why are little bear and Emily the only ones with parents? are hen, duck, owl, and cat older? why do they all live alone and play with children?

I’ve had two unique foot problems my entire life. my sister does the same, as does my mom, and my grandfather, and now I’m seeing evidence in my young kids.

first, the blisters. I’m a runner and I would get blisters so large on my feet you could see bumps through my shoes. as soon as one healed, another one would come. my family and I will have them all over our feet after hiking or walking too much.

second, the pain. this is interesting because when I run it doesn’t hurt. even marathons. But if I walk around wal mart, aching feet in my heels and bottoms of my feet. In college we went to Disney world and after one day in magic kingdom, I literally needed a wheelchair the rest of the days because I was in tears trying to walk. I don’t have high arches, and I wear neutral ghost brooks brand tennis shoes. like I said, they helped the running and I don’t get the blisters nearly as bad. but nothing helps the pain when you walk on hard floors.