u/Relative-Top4623

I spent 29 years avoiding dating. Now life has decided it’s my full-time job.

Growing up, I was that stereotypical “good student.”

School → Degree → Job.

Never dated. Never flirted. Never had a situationship. I genuinely thought, “When the time comes, I’ll find someone.”
Well… the time came.
I’m now in my late 20s, and suddenly everyone—from family to society to my own brain—is like, “So… partner kab dhoondh rahi ho?”

And honestly?
I hate this process.

Dating apps feel like a social experiment designed by someone who hates humans.

One guy matches and never sends a single message.

Another matches and within five texts I’m apparently “beautiful,” “gorgeous,” and the love of his life.

One person disappears.

Another sends good morning texts every day before we’ve even met.

Some people want to text for three weeks before meeting.
I want to exchange a few messages, meet for coffee, and decide if we’re even capable of having a conversation in real life.

Am I weird?

The funniest part is that I think I’ve become allergic to artificial intimacy.

If someone I’ve never met calls me “baby” or starts acting
possessive, my immediate reaction isn’t butterflies.

It’s… second-hand embarrassment.

Maybe it’s because I’ve never dated before. Maybe it’s because I’m emotionally tired after repeating the same “What do you do?”, “How was your day?”, “What are you looking for?” conversation with ten different people.

Sometimes I wonder if I’m the problem.
Other times I wonder if modern dating is just… exhausting.

I still want to find someone. I still believe companionship would be wonderful.

I just wish finding that person didn’t feel like interviewing candidates while simultaneously being interviewed myself.

Please tell me I’m not the only late bloomer who feels completely out of place in this dating world.
How did you navigate it without losing your mind?

Edit: to men sliding in my dm, can’t you see I am already ranting about similar men

No I don’t want to share which is a good dating app please 😭

Hi, I’m 28 and based in Mumbai. I’m a CA working a regular 9–5 job.

I’m vegetarian, don’t smoke or drink, and generally prefer a simple and peaceful lifestyle.

Most weekends I’m quite a homebody

I enjoy relaxing at home, watching something, or just taking it slow after the work week. Occasionally I meet friends for coffee or dinner and catch up.

I like traveling but not in a very frequent or hectic way usually one or two proper trips a year, plus some short or weekend trips when possible.

Overall I’d say I’m fairly calm, grounded, and value stability, kindness, and emotional maturity in people.

Looking for:

Someone between 27–31, kind, emotionally mature, and professionally settled and preferably within Mumbai

Marwari preferred but not a strict requirement.

If this resonates, feel free to message.