u/RemarkableStable1470

I’m a teenage girl, and I wanted to ask people a genuine question about relationships and future family plans.

Right now, I don’t see myself having kids for at least the next 20 years, if ever. The career path I want for my life doesn’t really fit a lifestyle centered around children, and even outside of my career, the lifestyle I naturally enjoy still doesn’t involve kids much. And just to clarify, when I talk about my career or lifestyle, I do not mean anything related to prostitution, OnlyFans, or anything in that area at all. That’s not what I’m referring to.

At the same time, I think I would’ve loved being a mom under different circumstances. It’s not that I hate children or dislike the idea completely. I actually think I could be a great mother in some ways. But mentally and physically, I just don’t naturally move through life in a very motherly way. I’m not irresponsible in a reckless or inappropriate sense, and I’m not someone who carries myself in a disrespectful way either. I just know that my personality, mindset, goals, and lifestyle are not naturally built around motherhood.

I also care a lot about my appearance, my body, and maintaining the version of myself that makes me feel confident and happy. I’m very self-focused, not in a narcissistic or cruel way, but in the sense that I value my freedom, my goals, and the way I live my life. I also don’t think I’m responsible enough for children right now, and I honestly don’t know if that will fully change in the future.

I know that when I’m in love, I can become deeply emotional and say or do things from the intensity of love, but this is one topic where I try to think realistically.

So my question is:

If I were your girlfriend and I told you all of this honestly, how would you react? What would you think, say, or do in that moment?

Hey everyone so I am at school and bored and lonely my friends didn't come today um a lot of people didn't come today which is quite confusing but can you guys tell me the craziest things that ever happened to you in relationships, friendships and more and insane interaction you guys had with strangers.

So this is how it started so couple months ago at school when everyone was doing exams I saw this hot guy and I was attracted to him he is really hot I don't remember where I saw him I just remember that I did so I think it's the time when he was walking up the stairs to go up to his block cuz he he's one grade higher than me so he was walking up the stairs but he caught my eye right so I was looking at him and then he turned his head I think you realize I was looking at him I didn't shy away I kept looking cuz I was like I want to see him so so I just kept to looking at him and he looked at me he continued looking at me until he reached where he was going which I'm going to give you guys I'm going to tell you guys basically how all this occur.

So and there was this time when we bumped into each other straight out of a cinema kind of vibe right let me explain so I was walking and I knew someone was coming cuz I saw him but my attention wasn't towards him I saw these girls in my grade they're over at the left side so I turned my head to look I was like courtesy girls and I realized it was good girls were my grade and something else was going on over the right side and I was passing him and he was passing me he was going to where I was coming from and I was going to wear he was coming from so basically he was passing me and I was passing him and he turned his head to the right I turn my head to the left and then I felt something really hard like hit me like in my chest like we both turned our heads I don't think I hit him at all I think he was the one that hit me cuz I felt oh my gosh I got almost dropped like it was so painful it was so painful I got to just I feel something really hard so he has a really hard chest and I can't find a girl in here but like it was like really hard that was wondering how does one walk and have so much like strength in your chest cuz I was like why did like you know I was like what and I turned he turned his head I turned my head and we both looked and we just kept staring at each other like he kept staring at me you know like I'm not trying to make it like a delusional but like I don't know why I keep saying for so long like some guys like if they if they don't find a girl jacket or like her they just turn around after looking and just walk away he just kept staring I concern too.

And there were times before like I remember once when I was hanging out with my friend and I guess she knew him or something cuz she went up to him and she was saying something to him and my other friend was there too so like we were all just hanging out that day so she we were all walking and she stopped with him and he was sitting down and he he turned his head to make a quick glance at me like he didn't do that to my other friend like obviously it's like very clear you know and then there was this other time when this one happened like probably 3 weeks ago or two weeks ago I don't I don't remember the exact moment but it was one of the two when I was walking to my class remember I said he was in a higher grade then me so basically these girls from his grade which I'm going to tell you guys more about that soon were talking to him I know they know each other so I know they know each other basically so I was walking into my class he was standing up the girls were at like 5 ft distant from him or like a like a 7 ft distant and they were sitting on this thing where you can sit on at our school like it's just a thing where you walk around he always see them and he was standing up and something and I was walking past and he turned his head because like he recognized me and he like checks me out in front of those girls and they immediately turned your head to look at me all of them then they turn to look at him again and I just kept walking and I couldn't really hide my smile so like I turned away like not instantly cuz I was like telling myself controller smoke control your smile over and over in my head so I turned and no I turned after I walked a couple feet so that it goes couldn't see I was smiling.

And there was this other time where I was in my class and sometimes his class come over to our class like not for the rest of the day like sometimes because their teacher hasn't arrived yet and things like that so him and his friend I guess they're three of them came in and they were talking and all that and you know his friend was talking to him and all that and the friend went inside this office the teacher's office next to the class and he turned around and he was looking at me for like what 7 seconds like it was a long second like it's so obvious cuz like if anyone notices he turned around and he looked at me really long you can tell that he was like analyzing me I didn't look at him my friend was I noticed because obviously I told you that I have a crush on him so I noticed from the side of my eye and my friend was she was from another row across my table so and she was trying to signal like about something different like something about the class.

yesterday I was coming down the stairs because I asked the teacher if I could use the bathroom I didn't really want to use the bathroom I just wanted to get a breath of fresh air so it wasn't my first time coming down cuz I came down I went up before and then I came down and that was a time that I saw him and they were like him and a group of guys were like coming out the class at I got something really disgusting happened because like he looked at me like he always knew you can tell when you know someone you turn your head and look at me like he was coming out basically he was face towards me we were at a distance right and then I realize why everyone was coming out with class I realized someone basically farted in that class cuz there was disgusting smell coming from the class so then that you need it you turned around and started walking away too.

Background story about him in a way with someone I've known he is of lighter skin than me i don't know if that's necessary I'm just trying to describe him he's like 2 in taller than me I'm 5'2 he is in a bad boy and he hangs out with love guys we're basically bad boys too and he dated this girl and like school and she is in the same grade as him I don't know if they're still dating but I'm guessing no because you know why would he give me all this attention basically entertaining me if he has a girlfriend and before that girlfriend he had another one which that girl moved away from our school abroad and someone told me that is a girlfriend at our school well I don't know if his girlfriend or ex girlfriend was friends with his former girlfriend and after the girl went abroad she dated him yeah.