u/Repulsive-Window-609

Have soloed it four times now (getting close to that flawless). Here are some tips I didn't see on youtube:

First encounter:

-Much easier to do this only having to run the gauntlet once than you might think. Recommend praxic blade (at least for the next three weeks) and an eager edge sword to zip around the map. The most annoying part is watching your timer tick down while you're floating towards the next behemoth. Praxic will kill any of them in less than 10 seconds. Use that for damage and eager to get to them quickly.

-First set of three behemoths will drop after you kill the FIRST apprentice. Second set of three behemoths will drop randomly after either the third, fourth, fifth, or sixth apprentice is killed. Final set of three behemoths will always drop after the seventh apprentice is killed, and they are tankier than the first six. Recommend clearing all six normals before dropping in the big boys.

Second encounter:

-Don't get too worried about the generators. I have found that waiting next to one (at least with a sword) while he figures out where you are and does his attack to destroy a generator might actually result in less DPS than if you wail on him nonstop the whole 33 seconds without an extension. Obviously disregard this if you are using a ranged weapon and don't mind blasting him from a distance.

Final encounter:

-If you are trying to three-phase you should definitely kill one shadow, but probably not more than one. Recommend killing the one at the top of the map, since fuck going up there. The high platform in the outer circle where a phalanx spawns is usally a good place to whack that shadow. ALWAYS KILL THE PHALANX and compel a shadow (if one is there) on that platform before you kill the top shadow. Killing guy at the top is usually the last thing I do before going to damage.

-When DPS is over and you have to survive the lightning, try to survive until you are teleported. Easiest way to do this is to ALWAYS HAVE YOUR EYES ON THE APPRENTICE while moving left to right along the front platform where you enter the arena at the beginning. So many of my deaths were because I didn't know where he was. After being teleported to taken realm you have one job: get shadow master. That is all you should worry about. When you are teleported back to the lightning realm, immediately turn around and hit the lock at your 5 o'clock position. THEN PREPARE FOR TICKLE FINGERS. After that wait for the apprentice and kill him. THEN you can go hit the other lock on the left side of the front area. If you try to hit them both before killing an apprentice he will fuck you up while you try to hit the second one.

-When you are being teleported, STOP MOVING. I've had multiple deaths because I was teleported while running or jumping and ran into lightning in the realm I was teleported to or fell off the edge as soon as spawning in.

-During DPS, if you are using a sword, go to hammer town on him until he does tickle fingers. Don't anticipate tickle fingers because he usually does a slam attack right before and if you're not actively fucking him up with a sword while that happens he will physics you right into the lightning around the arena and THEN hit you with the fingers which (1) makes it pretty hard to survive and (2) will crazy fuck up your sword damage rotation. Best time to put away the sword is immediately after he starts tickle fingers since he won't do a slam attack.

-Do DPS prep in the taken realm, which means always finishing the normal realm mechanics first. It's crazy annoying to try and farm super energy, orbs, armor charge, ammo, etc. when getting raped with tickle fingers every 17 seconds. Do that shit in the taken realm where it's safe. After killing/compelling all shadows you can even hang out in the outer ring and take a sip of beer, check your phone, take a breath, etc. Once you're ready and juiced up for DPS, hit the last taken ball and enter hell.

Hopefully this helps someone. Props to Bunghole for giving us a dungeon with an intro encounter that takes five minutes solo and a second encounter that isn't hard (not sarcasm).

Wife is four months postpartum. Zero depression, she might be the happiest she's ever been. She loves being a mom. So much so that she has completely forgotten the fact that I exist. I'm literally invisible. If she doesn't need help with something, she doesn't say a single word to me. Just stares at her phone until baby needs something, then she gets up and leaves.

It's not like I don't help her. I am in law school and have a full time job (I had paternity leave but still had to do some work to get a promotion). I help run errands, change diapers, empty the trash, get the mail, mow the lawn, etc. She acts like it's preposterous to say thank you for shit husbands should be expected to do. Never validates my effort at all. I got her flowers on mother's day and before I could even put them in a vase she said they "weren't cute." This was the day after I took her out to dinner and she bitched at me the whole time because I couldn't make the baby smile for a picture.

I feel like such a piece of shit thinking about divorcing her when my son isn't even half a year old yet. But I am literally dying emotionally. I'm not an attentive husband and it's because I resent her for treating me like a tool to make her life easier and nothing else. I had an exercise injury six months ago and actively try to hide when I'm in pain because she gets super annoyed with me acting debilitated. She just doesn't care about me as a human being anymore and it sucks because I still love her. But I need to know this is going to change because I can't be in a relationship with no sex, no connection, no affection, no romance, and no appreciation.

Obviously all four non-cardinals divisional games will be bloodbaths. But I'm REALLY looking forward to eagles in our house. Past three have been in Philly. At cowboys, chiefs, and giants should be interesting. Harbaugh and Reid always pimpslap Shanahan.

I left home at 18 to join the military. Have never gone back except to visit. My parents are good people but they are OBSESSED with christianity. My dad has worked as a missionary or a pastor for 40 years. My mom hasn't had a job in 34. The last four decades of their lives, including my childhood, have increasingly become nothing more than a manifestation of their relationships with Jesus Christ. They fundamentally do not have almost ANYTHING IN COMMON with people who aren't deeply religious, including me.

My wife has religious parents but it is a completely different dynamic. We can have normal conversations with them that don't drift off into religion. That is almost impossible with mine. When my mother met my wife for the first time 15 years ago, one of the first conversations she had with her was an evangelizing-style discussion about the bible. My mom wanted to know where my 18-year old sorority girlfriend of two months stood with Jesus and share the gospel with her. My mom had been so entrenched in christian culture for so long that she didn't even consider that this behavior might be weird as fuck or cost me my relationship. My wife has never recovered from how bizarre that initial interaction was, and I don't blame her.

My parents just can't comprehend that the life they live, and the life they wish I lived, is an incredibly rare, alternative lifestyle that I am 1000% not at all fucking interested in. They are unilaterally against drinking, cursing, weed, homosexuality, prioritizing money, nonchristian music, 90% of tv and movies, skipping church basically ever, etc. They visited me for the first time in two years to meet their grandkid and they both brought their OWN INDIVIDUAL BIBLES so that every day they could make sure they were both spending individual time with god. They were here for four days.

I'm just realizing that I'm never going to have with them what many children have with their parents; a relationship in which the parents observe what their children are actually interested in and try to meet them where they are. Mine genuinely think that priority number one with me is saving my soul and pushing me towards a relationship with christ at literally any cost. I just want parents, not religious counselors.

I shudder at the thought of what my life might have looked like if I hadn't left home and separated myself from the church completely in order to truly assess my beliefs and life goals. I have seven siblings and all of them still live in my hometown and see my parents regularly. Most of them have become obsessively religious or are showing signs of getting to that point and I'm afraid it might be because it's impossible to exist in my parents' world without constantly being influenced by them to read the bible daily, seek guidance from god, be heavily involved in church, have religious discussions with them, pray before every meal, attend weekly small groups/youth groups, etc. I'm terrified of the possibility that I could have ended up like that if I hadn't cut the cord before college and then immersed myself in normal American culture, which has felt like a breath of fresh air for 17 years.

My baby is just over three months and according to the general consensus online, he should be sleeping around 17 hours per 24-hour period, with about five of them being during the day (naps). This kid WILL NOT do that. He sleeps ok at night, but definitely not even remotely close to 12 hours. I think he very habitually gets around 10-11 hours of sleep per 24-hour period. For example, today he woke up for the day around 8/9am and by 5pm he maybe slept for one hour or less.

I'm a little concerned. Not to play the blame game, but I tend to think that in the spirit of being a good mom (which she very much is), my wife might be part of the problem. She wants to give 110% to this kid. He is constantly entertained, she basically does not tolerate him crying for more than ten seconds at a time, he has all day interaction, and she rarely leaves him to self-soothe. On the other hand, I watched him for about 12 hours while she was out of town one day, and I wanted to see how much he would sleep if he wasn't being interacted with non-stop. I let him self-soothe in his swing, and just left him alone (obviously still supervised) when he seemed tired so that he could fall asleep, even if that meant letting him cry for a few minutes so that he could tucker himself out. He probably slept more that day than any other day he's been alive.

I don't want to be a lazy parent but I think it might be far more practical and healthy for him to not be constantly entertained and interacted with for 14-15 hours of the day (whenever my wife is awake). She has a tendency to LOATHE doing anything the easy way, so I think that's why she tends to him non-stop and gets enraged when I let him cry for a minute or two when I think he just needs to expend a little energy to fall asleep.

I want to be a good dad but I've always been a huge believer in working smarter, not harder. She is the opposite and usually considers any option that isn't the most difficult or most time- and energy-consuming to be lazy and negligent. I'm curious what other dads with more experience think.