u/ResponsibleCost4989

I currently live with my BF in Jtown. I moved in a year ago and am absolutely miserable. I realize this relationship is slowly killing me and I need to start implementing my exit plan.

He is not physically abusive, but I'm not 100% he would take the break up very well...I'd like to have alternate living arrangements set up well before I break up.

I just moved here and don't know much about Louisville other than Jtown area. I know I have heard West Louisville is sketch and East Louisville is "nicer".

I'm a single female, no kids, professional white collar job.

Things I'm looking for:
-Safe-ish to run as single female (or easily driveable somewhere that is). I've run in bad neighborhoods before when I lived in Huntington WV. Doesn't have to be ZERO crime, just want to be able to use common sense and be pretty safe.
-Generally safe for residents who don't engage in any illicit activities
-Clean - do not want to deal with roaches/bed bugs
-Any bed/bath
-Under $1k/mo preferred
- Hour or less commute to Frankfort

I've thought about getting a roommate, but honestly living with another person isn't super appealing rn. I'm open to it though in right circumstance.

I also work in Frankfort 3 days a week, don

It feels like he is trying to get "good boyfriend brownie points" in the lowest effort ways possible, which at best rubs me as irritating and at worst, manipulative.

Examples. Little favors that I can easily do on my own

-Asking me if I need help carrying laundry basket after I've already carried it downstairs (I did the hard part and am like 10 ft away from washer now - thanks, but I'm good).

-Coming home from work I usually am carrying a few things and when I walk through door going out of his way to help me when im going to put the stuff down in like 5 ft and it would be harder to transfer them to him than just walk a couple more feet and put down.

-Making a recipe and we are out of an easily substitutable ingredient, he will be overly eager to go out and get it even when I say it's not a big deal to sub/is wasteful to make special trip for that,

Examples. Things I have asked him for assistance with and he has been incredibly unhelpful with

-Moved in with him and temporarily stored my very nice adjustable mattress base/couch in his garage in summer. Around $6k value - they were gifts . I am not rich - worth about as much as my car tbh.
Was very very worried that the heat would damage them. He showed zero initiative in helping me figure out what to do and seemed to not be moved at all that my property could be damaged. I moved an hour away to be with him and don't have friends around that can help. After a couple of months of mentioning it nicely ended up having to cry and beg before he helped me. Didn't ask his super nice neighbors for help. Insisted 120 lb me and him could maneuver couch through tight stairwell and got super pissy at me about it.

-My cars headlights went out. I wanted to try to change myself instead of taking somewhere. I have watched someone else change it, but didn't feel comfortable doing on my own. I got my license late (25) and am not as comfortable with that kind of stuff as my age might indicate. He was a complete jerk to me about it since my car (Hyundai accent) is somewhat cramped compared to what he is used to. Seemed like a minor inconvenience, and not something that he should make me feel like shit about.

In summary
I know this could come off as unappreciative of the "little things" he does like offering to pick stuff up at grocery. I do appreciate that on its own . But at the same time, it pissed me off that he can think he's being so helpful when I still have to deal with major issues by myself/recruit someone that is not my partner to help in HIS city where I don't have as many connections as he does.

It low key pissed me off the thought that he may think he's doing all he "needs to do" by pretty low effort tasks. Like he is TOO helpful with asking to carry light shit I've already carried 90%+ of way, but completely ignore shit I absolutely cannot do like move my couch.

Giant block of text 😬. Word vomit going on.

I have heard of a few different young females (myself included) that have had creepy experiences with a certain male dentist in Lex.

Wanted to see if anyone else has had similar experiences

He didn't make the comparison in a sexual way.

He mentioned that his daughter was really outdoorsy and kind of "squirrely"/ADHD-ish and said that we were similar that way. I sensed that he started to feel weird as soon as he said that and kind of changed topics.

I get that the age gap alone is immediately weird to some people. I've been with older men, but have never been with any that had daughters close to my age, so I guess the comment got me thinking.

My (32F) partner (46M) makes about 40% more than me and is more financially secure by most(all?) metrics.

At the same time, I think he is dumb as hell having $50k in 0.01% traditional savings account after I have tried arguments, showed him numbers over the past year. He is an engineer (typically assume them to be "logical"/numbers oriented), but it seems to have fallen on deaf ears.

It's one thing just not to know about HYSA as an option, but I've lost some respect that he chooses to lose a small vacation worth of interest money each year.

What reasons would someone forgo a HYSA and say "yep, that 0.1% interest option is better"? I cannot think of any, but I feel like there must be something if he is so hesitant to move his funds over. The second I remember finding out that I could get 4% interest instead of 0.1% interest, it was top priority for me. I'm just so confused.

It seems very different from many parts of eastern KY.

What are your thoughts?

It seems very different from many parts of eastern KY.

What are your thoughts?