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Ever since they were sold, UD has really become beige in the worst sense. I was at Ulta the other day and saw where all their Vice lipsticks were half off, so I did some digging and found they are abandoning the line.

The cream version of their Vice lipsticks were the best for hydration, smudge-proof staying power without over-drying, and saturated pigment. Their “Drive In” (saturated orange-red) is one of my favs. I love the structure of a lipstick and feel like glosses are too informal.

So, now that UD has abandoned lipstick, what brand is a similar go-to for cream/shine true lipsticks? I have several MAC shades, but they smudge so badly. I don’t like matte formulations.

I am looking for an independent Jeep mechanic in western North Carolina that comes highly recommended. Any NC folks have someone they trust to do good work?

I am a tall, thin woman with a very straight up and down build. All of the traditional body elements and curves a woman can use to conceal, I don’t have them. I get made in pretty much everything I have tried. Moreover, my normal clothing size is small, so even when I don’t wear anything too tight there is still little fabric left over.

Even with my LCP there is a bulge visible through my clothes wherever I put it. Winter is less bad because I can wear a vest, but in warm weather I would have to wear clothes two sizes too big.

I have tried ITB, underarm, compression tanks under regular clothes. I do a fashion show for my family and even my 11yo is like “it’s on your stomach on the right and your extra clip is on the left” or “you can’t put your arm down by your side, why are you holding your arm weird”.

What am I missing? Has anyone found something that works if you’re skinny and still want to wear feminine clothes in a size that fits? Especially in the summer.

I am considering the purchase of a ~10 acre property with an original 19th century brick home. When I went to look at the land, maybe 3 to 5 acres of the tract are clearly unusable and contain visible wetland habitat and inundated hydric soil. However, the property is priced as though all 10 acres are flat, dry, buildable acres. There are no outbuildings on the property, so we would at least need to build those.

Currently priced at $399k for a “10 acre estate”, if half of the acreage is unusable (no farming/gardening/walking/building) and the wetland areas fragment and isolate usable areas of the property, how much does that devalue the acre?

Farmable acreage in this county averages $8k per acre, buildable lots $25k+ an acre. Subdivision rules require a minimum 1 acre lot plus easements, and any new buildings on the lot have 25ft setbacks from the line and 75ft setbacks from county easements.

I am from the US, my husband is from the UK and Australia. We live in the bible belt of the American south and our tween and teen children were born and raised here.

I grew up in the American North where abrupt, direct communication and “telling it like it is” is the preferred method of cultural communication. My husband grew up where direct, profanity-laden communication is the norm. Not swearing AT people or being abusive, but peppering statements with intermittent swear words.

Long story short, our southern-raised children from a culture where neither direct communication nor profanity are considered proper or appropriate have started to confront us about being “bad communicators”, “talking abusively”, “raging out”, “setting bad examples”, “being rude” etc whenever we are simply communicating in the style of where we were raised.

We don’t scream, we don’t swear at the kids or call them names, we don’t engage in radical honesty that hurts feelings, but we are being told by the kids that we are inflicting trauma on them if I say “well, that thing was a direct consequence of your bad choice” or “that was f-ing ridiculous, what did you think would happen” instead of “bless your heart”.

Real life example from tonight, a kid left the exterior door to our house ajar (like open to the world) and just walked in the house after school. Husband found it and said “who doesn’t know how to shut the f-ing door, I am tired of having to tell you. You both know better” and made them come close it instead of shutting the door himself and saying “hey guys, remember how we talked about keeping the door to our house closed? Yeah? Well, we really have to work on that”, which is what the older child said is the appropriate parenting communication.

Since the kids have never lived anywhere else, it is hard to explain that humans communicate differently around the world and you have to get used to different styles without falling apart or taking it personally. But because they hear how other adults verbally coddle children here and folks rarely communicate bluntly or swear, we look like unstable delinquent parents by comparison.

Regardless, the kids both take it really personally whenever we engage in blunt communication. How do we address this cultural divide between us as parents, how we were raised, and the cultural expectations our kids have due to where they grew up?

Is this a reasonable consequence for a 17yo who shattered a glass on the back doormat outside, shook the shards into the flower bed and grass where people and pets walk barefoot, lied about “cleaning it up”, got caught both by a witness and on security camera, and then copped an attitude about having to clean it up, and continued to lie and say that shaking it into the grass was an “accident” when the video footage shows her walking inside and getting a broom?

The consequence is a week of service to the household and other family members by taking over chores that are typically someone else’s. There are 6 items on the list, daily dishes and trash duty, and four special projects (closet organization, cleaning interior of a car, folding and putting away laundry, and cleaning the bathroom). She has until 10:00pm on the 10th to complete everything. Other than that, she is on her own timeline.

Her prom is Saturday and my husband is so mad that she willfully created an unsafe situation for the pets and family with zero remorse and wants to make her miss prom, but that hasn’t happened yet.

When I presented this list to her very calmly and matter of factly, she lost it. Says she has school, homework, and a part time job and she can’t possibly help around the house at this level, too. Says she is going to quit her job. Says I don’t love her. I stayed calm, said she has her list and timeline, and there are not going to be any reminders. And if these things aren’t done by the 10th there will be additional consequences. I also said I worked very hard this week to make sure she has what she needed for prom and this level of dishonesty and lack of personal accountability is not reflective of someone who appreciates other people working hard for them.

We had such a good week prom shopping and getting everything ready, we even spent the afternoon together grocery shopping and running errands. I don’t understand how her behavior can take such a dive so quickly. And then standing by the lie with video footage showing her shaking and sweeping glass shards into the yard.