u/Roastin_Kween

Hello! I am 20f and about almost 2 weeks ago I went out with my friends and met this guy (22m) at a party. We had a great time together and danced and really clicked. My friends were really fond of him too and said we had great chemistry together and he was polite to all of us. We exchanged instagrams and he asked me if i ever wanted to hangout with him again and i told him yes (my friends also agreed because like i said they really liked him too). I hung out with him a few days after that and stayed over and it was amazing. We went to the beach and watched movies at his place after, we also ate food. We did do sexual things (making out, oral sex, handjobs), but we didn’t go all the way because i told him that i was a virgin and wasn’t ready, in which he respected that. I left his house in the morning and he texted again to follow up. However, when we tried to make plans to see each other again this past week it’s all been not good. He would make a plan then leave me hanging. For example he made a plan to go to the beach again but with his friends this time and my friend and I asked what time and he didn’t reply until late at night. Another time he asked me abt my work schedule and when i would be off for us to hangout again and i told him i was free and i even called him cause he asked “do you still wanna come over” and he didn’t respond when i called. he then texted the next morning and said his phone got lost and died. i then asked him to hangout the following day and he said that he couldn’t but he would lmk if anything. i left him on delivered and gave him the option to reach out but he hadn’t and it’s been about 4 days. it hurt me rlly bad because i was very vulnerable with him (first time performing/receiving oral sex) and i also really liked talking to him and joking with him. i got over it up until yesterday when i was at work and just checking my phone. i posted a photo on instagram and i saw that he liked it. now i cant stop thinking about him im so frustrated with the inconsistent communication and im not sure where i stand or where he stands. it’s even more confusing because he approached me first and he initiated first so im so confused. if anyone has any insight please let me know 😭 i dont have much dating experience and i know the logical thing would just be to move on but how can i when i am still so confused and hurt

Hello! I am 20f and about almost 2 weeks ago I went out with my friends and met this guy (22m) at a party. We had a great time together and danced and really clicked. My friends were really fond of him too and said we had great chemistry together and he was polite to all of us. We exchanged instagrams and he asked me if i ever wanted to hangout with him again and i told him yes (my friends also agreed because like i said they really liked him too). I hung out with him a few days after that and stayed over and it was amazing. We went to the beach and watched movies at his place after, we also ate food. We did do sexual things (making out, oral sex, handjobs), but we didn’t go all the way because i told him that i was a virgin and wasn’t ready, in which he respected that. I left his house in the morning and he texted again to follow up. However, when we tried to make plans to see each other again this past week it’s all been not good. He would make a plan then leave me hanging. For example he made a plan to go to the beach again but with his friends this time and my friend and I asked what time and he didn’t reply until late at night. Another time he asked me abt my work schedule and when i would be off for us to hangout again and i told him i was free and i even called him cause he asked “do you still wanna come over” and he didn’t respond when i called. he then texted the next morning and said his phone got lost and died. i then asked him to hangout the following day and he said that he couldn’t but he would lmk if anything. i left him on delivered and gave him the option to reach out but he hadn’t and it’s been about 4 days. it hurt me rlly bad because i was very vulnerable with him (first time performing/receiving oral sex) and i also really liked talking to him and joking with him. i got over it up until yesterday when i was at work and just checking my phone. i posted a photo on instagram and i saw that he liked it. now i cant stop thinking about him im so frustrated with the inconsistent communication and im not sure where i stand or where he stands. it’s even more confusing because he approached me first and he initiated first so im so confused. if anyone has any insight please let me know 😭 i dont have much dating experience and i know the logical thing would just be to move on but how can i when i am still so confused and hurt

Hello everyone! I’m a 20 year old female who recently became sexually active. I’m still a virgin however, but lately i’ve noticed that I feel pain when guys finger me/ perform oral sex on me. Even when they go fast or slow it still hurts regardless. It’s like a sore stabbing pain. I try to relax and tense less but i can’t lol. I also don’t orgasm from it, but when I masterbate myself I do. Does anyone know what is the problem or what it could be? I don’t have much experience lol but i feel like there’s something wrong with me, idk why it hurts?

Hello everyone! I’m a 20 year old female who recently became sexually active. I’m still a virgin however, but lately i’ve noticed that I feel pain when guys finger me/ perform oral sex on me. Even when they go fast or slow it still hurts regardless. It’s like a sore stabbing pain. I try to relax and tense less but i can’t lol. I also don’t orgasm from it, but when I masterbate myself I do. Does anyone know what is the problem or what it could be? I don’t have much experience lol but i feel like there’s something wrong with me, idk why it hurts?

so i (20f) got with this guy (25m) after we met at a party abt 2 weeks ago. we didn’t hookup the first time (mainly cause im a virgin and i told him i didn’t want to) but we did other things. we then talked and hung out again a second time. we were doing things and he tried to get me to have sex with him but i said no again. then i requested he go down on me, to which he replied “no, that’s way too intimate, i have to know you for abt 3 months before i do that, find another guy to go down on you then”. i respected what he thought and didn’t push, but i was also taken aback and confused. like, how is having sex with someone less intimate than eating someone out??? he also said that “sex is just sex it means nothing. also many guys think this way, it’s a universal thing”. my question really is, is it? i’ve only been with abt 3 people in my life but we’ve never reached a sexual point or stage in which this topic came up lol