u/RunNo7841

I’m 19 and my boyfriend is 27. We’ve been together for 9 months.

Last month, he cheated on me with an escort. I forgave him, but since then I’ve struggled badly with trust. I’ve started checking his location, and I hate that I’m becoming this anxious and suspicious person.

Last night around 2:40 a.m., his WhatsApp Live Location showed him at a house about a 20-minute drive from his hotel in Annecy. It said “just updated.” I called him almost immediately and he answered right away, said he was asleep at the hotel, and we FaceTimed. He was clearly in his hotel room. His location then changed back to the hotel. During FaceTime, when he shared his live location, it even showed him in the middle of the lake. He swears they never left the hotel, so maybe it was a GPS glitch.

The location isn’t really the main issue, though. Since the cheating, I feel constantly anxious and I couldn’t sleep last night,I had a nightmare. I also recently found out that before we were together, he used to secretly take photos of women’s asses/under their skirts, which really bothers me.

At the same time, he has been very caring and generous with me: he drove me to exams, helped with my business, sent me money when I needed it, bought gifts, paid for trips and dates, provided meals/a place to stay, and supported me with studying. He can be extremely loving and supportive

I just found out my boyfriend who is a provider, sent messages to escorts after we previously had an argument abt it a few months ago, he just sent a « hello » he didn’t see them ,according to him it was just to masturbate, ( yes the conversations didn’t continue but we never know maybe he saw one idk), meeting his parents tomorrow we are together for almost one year. What should i do?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months and we recently started living together.

I really care about my appearance. I always have my nails done, wear makeup almost every day, stay fit, dress cute/sexy, etc. I’m also naturally very affectionate and sensual. Like I can casually walk around in lingerie at home and I’m very touchy/playful in relationships. (Not flexing, I just think it matters for context.)

At the beginning of the relationship my boyfriend was SUPER into me physically. He was always excited, obsessed with touching me, complimenting me, initiating, etc.

He still treats me really well and he’s very kind to me, so it’s not like he became mean or distant. But ever since we started living together, I feel like the “excitement” from him dropped a lot.

We spend the majority of our time together except when I go to my parents’ house for a few days every week.

I’m also very affectionate and very “into him,” and sometimes I feel like he takes it for granted. One time I said I was gonna stop being so clingy and less available and he literally laughed and said “okay, I know you’re not gonna do it anyway.”

And before anyone asks, no, I don’t think he’s cheating lol. But I know he’s very attracted to physical beauty in general because before we dated his following was full of Instagram models.

So I guess my question is:
How do you bring back that excitement from the beginning of the relationship when you live together and you still take care of your appearance

So me (F19) and my boyfriend (M27) live in the same city, but his parents live in another country.
They came to visit him for 3 days and literally just arrived today.

I usually go back to my hometown on weekends to see my parents since I’m in uni (it’s about a 30-minute drive), and I was already planning to go today. Then last minute, my boyfriend tells me: “Hey, we’re going to [my hometown], so if you want you can come say hi to my parents.”

It just felt super sudden😭 Yes, I knew they were coming, but I didn’t know I’d be expected to meet them that day, right after a full day at uni, with no mental preparation.

I’m also pretty shy and awkward, and I honestly just wasn’t in the right mood to meet his parents for the first time. I felt like I’d make a bad impression. So I told him I couldn’t, maybe another day.

Now I feel guilty because they’re only here for 3 days, and apparently they’re really nice and even got me a gift :(

Also, for context: We’ve been together for about 7 months and things are good between us.
He hasn’t met my parents either. Not because he didn’t want to, but because I never really pushed it or brought it up seriously.

So now I feel like I messed up and I’m overthinking everything.

AITA?