UPDATE: A creep waited for me outside with flowers & gym didn't care
First of all, thank you so much to everyone who commented on my previous post. Reading through your perspectives helped me ground myself when I was going insaneee in my head. I am SO SO GRATEFUL to everyone!!!
After sleeping on it, I’ve decided to use the remaining 5 days of my membership and see how I actually feel in the space before making any decisions.
Tbh the idea of immediately altering my daily life, route, and habits over some weirdo made me feel completely powerless. Long-term, I think it’s better to learn how to stand my ground and protect myself. I do carry self-defense tools with me, and I'm on high alert, but if it gets worse I guess I'll leave or try to contact my male friends/ relatives.
If over these 5 days I realize the mental tax and cortisol spikes just aren't worth it, I will walk away to a new gym. But I want this to be my deliberate choice for peace of mind, not a panicked reaction. I can;t always be running away I guess... Also when he was trying to give me a flower I said no thank you, and he said "ok" then... maybe i'm hoping for better too much.
As for the gym itself: their dismissal of a member being stalked right outside their doors is unacceptable for a place charging premium rates. I will definitely be leaving them an honest 1-star review on Google Maps once I'm done to hold them accountable and warn other women in my city. if anyone wants to help me please dm.
Thank you all for reminding me that I have the power here, whatever I end up choosing and thank you once again for so many upvotes. as a young girl it just matters so much.
What do y'all think?
