u/Sad-Soft-1875

Planning my first official event. For some background.

I’m a play writer that has been given the opportunity to have my plays performed at my church. We have roughly around 100 people (for sizing). This will be the first year where my play is the full focus of the night. No other performance just the play. I’m an all or nothing kind of person so I decorate the outdoors/gymnasium, the foyer, and the sanctuary. I’ve done that for the past two years and it was already a toll. I learned to delegate after my first year. Last year I worked with a team but the whole night was not my focus. Now it is. I now need to focus on but just everything that goes on in the play, but the decor, food, drinks, sermon, worship, fund raising, etc.

I need some advise on what I need to look out for, how to delegate, what to expect, and any other advise. Let me explain the evening.

The theme is magical winter wonderland.
Layout.
The gymnasium is separate from the building. Inside there and outside will be table and sitting arrangements for people to spend time while they wait to come inside/during intermission/after the production. There will be very small decorations on the table. Think candle with pinecones or flowers.
The foyer will be one directional. All doors will be blocked off (but in a way where we can escape fire) except for two. One that leads into the foyer and at the end of it another door that leads into the sanctuary. Inside will be more of a winter forest pathway.
In the sanctuary.
I’m still playing with the ideas due to me still refining the play.
Now I also want to incorporate themed drinks (must pay but usually around $5, our church is used to that) and small savoury and sweet treats (handed out).
I am also the director of the play. This means my main focus is on that.
The person I’ve used to help me plan the decor the past couple of times frankly needs a break from the plays. I know my ideas can be a bit demanding. My sister took up the role for that but she isn’t willing to try and see how she could make the vision work.

Any advice from anyone on how to go on with planning this night?
Aside from delegation and minimising. Trust me this is minimised. I am open to reworking ideas if we exhausted our options but I need to know that we have tried all that we can.

Planning my first official event. For some background.

I’m a play writer that has been given the opportunity to have my plays performed at my church. We have roughly around 100 people (for sizing). This will be the first year where my play is the full focus of the night. No other performance just the play. I’m an all or nothing kind of person so I decorate the outdoors/gymnasium, the foyer, and the sanctuary. I’ve done that for the past two years and it was already a toll. I learned to delegate after my first year. Last year I worked with a team but the whole night was not my focus. Now it is. I now need to focus on but just everything that goes on in the play, but the decor, food, drinks, sermon, worship, fund raising, etc.

I need some advise on what I need to look out for, how to delegate, what to expect, and any other advise. Let me explain the evening.

The theme is magical winter wonderland.
Layout.
The gymnasium is separate from the building. Inside there and outside will be table and sitting arrangements for people to spend time while they wait to come inside/during intermission/after the production. There will be very small decorations on the table. Think candle with pinecones or flowers.
The foyer will be one directional. All doors will be blocked off (but in a way where we can escape fire) except for two. One that leads into the foyer and at the end of it another door that leads into the sanctuary. Inside will be more of a winter forest pathway.
In the sanctuary.
I’m still playing with the ideas due to me still refining the play.
Now I also want to incorporate themed drinks (must pay but usually around $5, our church is used to that) and small savoury and sweet treats (handed out).
I am also the director of the play. This means my main focus is on that.
The person I’ve used to help me plan the decor the past couple of times frankly needs a break from the plays. I know my ideas can be a bit demanding. My sister took up the role for that but she isn’t willing to try and see how she could make the vision work.

Any advice from anyone on how to go on with planning this night?
Aside from delegation and minimising. Trust me this is minimised. I am open to reworking ideas if we exhausted our options but I need to know that we have tried all that we can.

So just ranting here where no one knows me. I (21F) am blind to attraction. It takes me a solid 4-7 months to realise that I like a person. I can usually back track it to where it started after I realise it. It’s also important to note that I hated the idea of love until about 17 then only liked the idea of marriage and having a family last year. Had a situationship about two years now(It failed miserably but we don’t worry about that anymore). But due to my late blooming stage on attraction I’ve noticed that I had never looked at appearances. I was never physically attracted to a person until my situationship. Now I know that it’s kind of important to find someone at least a bit attractive to you. Not the point.

I began to realize that I’ve liked my friends friend for nearly a year now but only began to suspect a few months back. I’m doing fairly good at not stalking him😅, I don’t make any scenarios in my head about him, and as soon as he pops into my head I throw him out. It’s been four months now and I keep thinking about him more and more. And again not scenarios, just of who I know him to be, what he could be doing, and small moments we had shared. I’ve talked to him like 4-5 times? He is nearly 8 years older than me and I KNOW that I am not his type due to what my friend has told me. She being one of my closest friends herself said that even though she shipped us before I liked him I have maybe 2% chance.

I want to get rid of this but at the same time I don’t. I get nauseous when I think about him too much and from the thought of not liking him. I don’t want to put a label to whatever I’m feeling because I’m afraid that I’ll hear what I want to and at the same time afraid that I’ll here what I don’t want to. I want to cry and just get a straight up rejection from him. I want him to suddenly confess. I want this to continue. And I want this all to end. I’ve prayed throughout the day and it’s only been getting stronger. Of course my brain takes it as a sign. This must be the one. If the Lord hasnt taken it away from you then he is your guy 👍. And everytime it hurts to remind myself that the heart is a fickle thing.

At the end of the day this both lowkey sucks and is absolutely euphoric.

I think I’m going insane.

I’m a new writer. At the moment I am focusing on plays as I seem to be much better at script and screen writing. The problem I’m having is context. I absolutely HATE it when you can clearly tell that the writer doesn’t know much about the theme, topic, or experience and I want to avoid that as much as possible. I would like my work to be relatable to my viewers. Like where they could sit there and go, “Wow, I’ve gone through something like that.” I would like to help them feel like they are not alone and are seen. But that means I need to know fairly well what and who I’m writing about. Found out today that I can’t go asking people without offering compensation (which makes sense, especially if it’s a tough subject) but now I’m confused on how to make the story properly.

For example. The play I’m writing now focuses on a foster child that is going through depression. I’ve been through the depression so I can get that part accurately but neither I nor anyone I know was in foster care. I have no one to ask. I turned to Reddit for help (I checked the rules(missed them on a couple places) before I posted) and a couple of people responded before others told me that this was insensitive and that I need to offer compensation or a form of honor. Eventually my post got taken down.

Again I understand why. But I’m BROKE. I can’t offer money and I’m not big enough to honor. Also if I do offer money how do I know I’m getting actual experience and not some fake person. I would really like to be able to write about them accurately and not put them under a stereotype. And this goes for future stories as well. How do I go about getting the information while I am still new?

Hello Everyone,

I apologize if this comes out hurtful. Please let me know if this is to hurtful to be putting in this community.

I am working on a play about a character that has been going through foster homes since 5 years old. They are now between the ages of 8-12.

I have not been in and do not know anyone that has been in foster care and I have a couple concerns that I would love feedback on.

1. I would like to make this character as accurate as possible. It always bothered me when writers just skimmed the surface. I want to be able to represent the experience that a foster child had gone through. For those who have witnessed or gone through it, what was it like for you?
2. If I understood correctly many children come out of the foster care suffering from depression. My character is based off of that. They yearn for a friend but end up pushing everyone away because they believe they are not deserving of love/friendship. They know that none of this is their fault but they can't help but blame themselves for being in this position. No one wants them so there has to be something wrong with them. Am I getting the mindset correctly?
3. If this is the correct mindset for that age group should I stick with an actor that is between 8-10 or 10-12?
4. I am also concerned about pushing these emotions onto a child so is there a way to assist them in this?